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Neil Strauss Seduction Masters Interview

Neil hardly ever does email interviews, and has turned down multiple requests from big time newspapers. This is a special treat for you avid Attraction Chronicles readers. Enjoy! =)

Donovan

Thanks for doing this interview Neil. With all that's been written and the media exposure of 'The Game', it seems pointless to ask you the typical PUA questions. So I have some others.

FIRST OFF, WHY DID YOU CHOOSE WRITING AS A PROFESSION, AND ESPECIALLY WRITING ABOUT CULTURE?

IT WAS AN ACCIDENT. IT HAPPENED LIKE A SNOWBALL ROLLING A HILL. I THINK EVERYONE ALWAYS GETS ASKED DID YOU ALWAYS WANT TO BE A WRITER/FIREMAN/COOK/BLOGGER? AND WHEN YOU'RE YOUNG YOU WANT TO BE EVERYTHING. YOU MAKE UP YOUR OWN RADIO AND TV SHOWS, YOU PLAY WITH FIRE ENGINES, YOU WANT TO BE A FARMER, YOU GO TO WORK WITH A DAD. SO, IN SHORT, I SUPPOSE I COULD HAVE JUST AS EASILY BEEN A FARMER OR A FIRE FIGHTER. I LEARN QUICKLY.

TELL ME ABOUT THE STYLELIFE CHALLENGE THAT YOU'RE DOING.

I started a mailing list when the book came out at my www.neilstrauss.com website. And since then, I've gotten thousands upon thousands of really moving emails that I just don't have the time to answer. So I thought it would be cool before I dove into the next book to spend 31 days helping the guys who need it most: the guys getting out of rough relationships, the 25-year-olds who've never had sex or a girlfriend, the people who are just petrified at the thought of talking to a woman. The event is going to take place from July 1 to July 31, and the challenge is for them to get a date in that time following the instructions and assignments I give them. It's kind of a thank-you present to my VIP list for being really fucking cool and supportive and open.

YOU TOLD US IN 'THE GAME' THAT YOU HAD HELP FROM STEVE PICCUS, AND HIS MATE. HOW DID THAT IMPACT YOUR SELF-ESTEEM/OUTLOOK?

A lot of people ask me that. I think the hypnosis and deep inner-game work is something you should do AFTER getting social experience. You need to get out there and interact in order to identify what your internal sticking points are. Then, once they're identified, you can take the steps necessary to fix them. The more specifically you can pinpoint your problems, the more accurately you can defeat and overcome them. I definitely think Steve gave me a huge leap forward in terms of feeling worthiness and letting go of fear. I still vividly remember spending all those hours with my eyes closed and him telling me to imagine crazy things, many of which involved excrement for some reason.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SONG ON YOUR IPOD RIGHT NOW?

"Sargin" by DJ Dave and Turkish. They read The Game and made this hip-hop track. It's on my Myspace profile (www.myspace.com/neilstrauss).

IF YOU WERE ENTERING THE COMMUNITY, WHAT SPECIFIC METHODS WOULD YOU USE TO GET TO WHERE YOU ARE NOW?

There's one chief rule for improving: hang out with someone who's better than you. They don't have to be the best, just better. I think guys wring their hands too much over "choosing" a method. Just try everything (most of it's free online) and do what works for you. Immediately get started with SOMETHING, rather than standing at the deadly precipice of indecision. You can only learn from it, and it will eventually lead you to what's right for you.

WE TRY AND STAY POSITIVE WITH ALL ASPECTS OF OUR LIVES. BUT NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCES, THERE ARE SOME THINGS WE WISH WE COULD CHANGE ATLEAST TO A SMALL DEGREE. DO YOU HAVE ANY REGRETS ABOUT FINDING THE COMMUNITY?

Of course I have no regret about finding the community, because in the end it made me a much better, happier person. I think the community should be like college for guys: you stay in it for a few years, then move into the real world with the tools to succeed. I think it only gets counter-productive only when people spend more time gossiping or trying to impress each other than actually improving themselves.

IF A GUY WAS LOOKING TO ESTABLISH AN EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, WHERE SHOULD HE FOCUS HIS TIME? ON CLUB, DAY, OR TALK SHOW GAME?

Definitely talk show game.

Actually, game to me is just for courtship and attraction. Whether you're looking for a one-night stand or marriage, they all begin the same way - with two strangers meeting.

WE KNOW THAT BEING FRIENDS WITH 'NATURALS' INCREASES OUR SOCIAL SKILLS, HELPS US MEET MORE WOMEN WITHIN THEIR SOCIAL CIRCLE, AND IMPROVES OUR ABILITY TO ATTRACT NATURALLY. WHAT STEPS DO YOU RECOMMEND FOR BEFRIENDING NATURALS THAT WE COME INTO CONTACT WITH?

The best way to befriend a natural is to let him know that by hanging out with you, he can meet even more women. Game respects game.

I BELIEVE ONE OF THE BIGGEST PROBLEMS THAT GUYS HAVE, IS THAT THEY'RE GENUINELY NOT INTERESTING, AND/OR DON'T HAVE FUN. WHAT ARE SOME ACTIVITIES THEY COULD TAKE UP THAT WOULD HELP THEM DEVELOP A MORE INTERESTING LIFESTYLE/ATTITUDE?

Good point. I always tell guys that the best way to meet women is to have something better than meeting women Every guy NEEDS to be doing something physical a few times a week - whether it's working out, surfing, jogging, a sport, or a martial art. Traveling is also a key to become a deeper, richer person. But the most important thing is...not being self-conscious, because deep inside, we all know we're interesting. Some of us are just uncomfortable sharing that side of themselves with strangers because they're worried that they'll be judged.

IF YOU COULD LIVE IN ANY CITY/TOWN/COUNTRY IN THE WORLD, POLITICS, CALAMITIES, LOVER, AND FAMILY ASIDE, WHERE WOULD IT BE?

I haven't found that place yet. But the three trips I'd most like to take that I haven't done yet are New Zealand, Cuba, and a road trip across Russia.

IT'S AMAZING TO MOST OF US THAT EVEN SOME CELEBRITIES THAT YOU'VE TALKED BRIEFLY ABOUT HAVE TROUBLE ATTRACTING WOMEN INTO RELATIONSHIPS. OF THESE, WHAT IN YOUR OPINION IS THE MAIN REASON SOME CELEBRITIES AREN'T SUCCESSFUL GETTING STABLE, BEAUTIFUL, INTERESTING WOMEN?

Here's the thing: Almost every famous person I know can only choose from among the women who approach them. If they see a woman they're attracted to, most of them don't know how to break the ice. Or if they do, their way of accomplishing it is to send their manager or bodyguard over to say, "So-and-so would like to meet you"

In addition, a lot of them get LMR, with these types of women, because she'll start asking them if they do this with all the girls. Some celebrities I've talked to actually have routines to deal with this - and they're not unlike the community's LMR routines.

What I'm more interested in is the women who end up dating these celebrities. I'll see some on the arm of a different famous guy every night. I'd like to learn more about THEIR game.

WHEN YOU WANT TO ESCAPE THE DEMANDS OF BEING A BEST-SELLING AUTHOR AND QUASI-CELEBRITY FIGURE, WHAT DO YOU DO?

Feeding pigeons in the park, standing on street corners and shouting obscenities at passers-by, and sometimes even loading in a no-loading zone.

MANY GUYS SEEM TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH DAY2S AND GETTING WOMEN OUT THERE AT TIMES (POSSIBLY BECAUSE OF NO IDEA WHAT TO DO). COULD YOU GIVE SOME INTERESTING EXAMPLES OF YOUR MOST SUCCESSFUL DAY2 ACTIVITIES?

Every Sunday when I was actively sarging, I'd map out my nightly activities for the week. This way, when I met someone I was interested in, I could invite her to tag along to the appropriate event or meal or shopping expedition or night out. Some guys do one-on-one coffee dates, but I prefer to bring her out in a small, fun group, so that after a few hours we yearn to break away and be alone together.

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE FILM AT THE CINEMAS WITHIN THE LAST 3 MONTHS?

The last great movie I saw was older than that. It was the documentary "Enron: The Smartest Guys in the Room." It's chilling.

WHAT GUYS FROM THE COMMUNITY ARE YOU STILL CLOSE FRIENDS WITH?

I'm still close with a handful of great guys, and in communication with most others. I'll always treasure the bonds I made. I really have a lot of gratitude, respect, and love for every single person in the book.

THANKS, WE LOOK FORWARD TO YOUR CONTINUED INFLUENCE IN THE COMMUNITY!

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Great Date Movies Of Summer 2009

Summer movie season is usually associated with blockbusters - fast-moving films that have big action, big budgets and big stars. But summer is also a time when a lot of people are looking for a movie to share with a special someone - or often a potential special someone - something as fun and entertaining as the season itself.

Here, now are the promising great date movies for 2009.

GREAT 2009 DATE MOVIES #1 THE PROPOSAL,

IN THEATRES: JUNE 19

This one looks like it's going to be a safe bet for a date movie, as safe a bet as you'll get all summer. The romantic comedy stars SANDRA BULLOCK as a demanding, tyrannical boss threatened with deportation (to Canada, which doesn't really sound like it should be a hardship) and the loss of her job because of an expiring work visa. In order to maintain her position, she strong-arms her assistant (RYAN REYNOLDS) into marrying her, which will allow her to stay in the country and allow him to keep his job.

This looks to be a straight-head, feel-good romantic comedy with two leads who have proven themselves in the genre. Some are saying that this is Bullock's strongest role since her break-through in" You Were "Early reviews have given particular praise to BETTY WHITE's hilarious supporting role as Reynolds' sweet-and-smart-at-the-same-time grandmother.

GREAT 2009 DATE MOVIES #2 WHATEVER WORKS

IN THEATRES: JULY 1

Audiences probably have an idea of what to expect from a WOODY ALLEN film. His 40th feature stays true to his formula combining urban realism with romance, set against the backdrop of his true love, the city of New York. LARRY DAVID, whose work on" Your "and" him an inevitable choice for the lead in an Allen film, plays a suicidal physicist, who, despite his bitterness and depression, falls into a strange romance with a much younger and lovelier woman (played by co-star EVAN RACHEL WOOD).

Allen has always had a way of convincing audiences that even the least personable and most anxious of people can and should find love, and" Works" to be no great departure. (The script is apparently one that he wrote in the '70s, but never got around to filming.) Viewers can expect all the elements that have made his classic films so memorable - dry, smart dialogue, idiosyncratic characters and a sense of romance and possibility even in the grittiest of settings.

GREAT 2009 DATE MOVIES #3 BRUNO

IN THEATRES: JULY 10TH

The return of SACHA BARON COHEN looms large over the summer movie season. "was one of the most talked about films of 2006, with its irreverent, sometimes crass send-ups of America, from the point of view of an uncultured, almost childlike traveler. Bruno, another regular character from Cohen's television show" Ali G "promises similar big laughs and dropped jaws for the summer of 2009.

Like Borat, Bruno is a character who has spent his life absorbed entirely in his own world. In this case, that is the fashion world. Bruno is a flamboyantly gay couture scenester transplanted, as was Borat, into middle America. Like "the film is comprised of largely unscripted moments that are the result of what happens when "regular" people are exposed to a person who is completely foreign to them and whose life is governed by an extremely different set of rules.

And considering"' s success, it's a safe bet that this is the film that audiences will flock to when they want to laugh until it hurts, as well as the film you'll be quoting for months afterward.

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How To Meet Someone Through Free Online Dating

Free online dating may be sound strange or unusual but that is what people search more and companies earn more. Social media and dating websites are best source to find your date. Here are few tips for dating free online:

Profile - This is the first step to make a nice and dynamic profile. Always do a research of other profiles and take out the best points from them. It will help you to make the unique profile.

Intelligence - Don't behave like a fool while using internet. Don't use fake identity, be genuine and hones while talking with others. But don't share your personal information.

Sense of humour - You are not there to sell yourself but no one likes to talk bore people. Talk nicely and bring some decent jokes in conversation.

Trust - Build a trust factor first. Don't go too fast to make best friends. Get to know each other first.

Information - Provide the accurate information in dating free online like height, weight, eye's colour etc.

Slow and steady wins race, this is the best proverb for dating. Always go slow and give the complete time to yourself and other person too.

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Why Women Fall For Serial Killers

It seems that there's a bizarre phenomenon that is being ignored by many. Why do seemingly normal women fall hopelessly in love with serial killers and murderers?

One infamous serial killer who has a bevy of groupies is serial killer and rapist RICHARD RAMIREZ, a.k.a. the Night Stalker. Even SCOTT PETERSON, a.k.a. the jerk off (that's my own cute little nickname for him), the man who killed and disposed of the body of his 8 months pregnant wife gets fan mail from infatuated women.

What's up with that? Why are all these women falling hard for men who would slit their throats and then pop open a bag of Doritos and watch them slowly die?

And it seems that it's the men with high notoriety that get the most fan mail. It's like they're quasi-celebrities, it seems.

My theory is that these women fall for these serial killers and murderers for 4 reasons:

1- They love the sense of danger

2- They love the celebrity of it and know they'll never get a response if they wrote to, say, George Clooney

3- They think they can "fix" him if given the opportunity

4- They are crazy

When all is said and done, these guys are on death row and the women who love them know that the end is near, so it must give them some sense of martyrdom that they befriend these guys, or worse yet, marry them.

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Are All Women The Same

Here is something that I want every guy in the world to remember, and it's something really important. Once you get this, it is something that will help you to grow immensely.

AND HERE IS WHAT I WANT YOU TO REMEMBER: E"very woman is wired the exact same way. I don't care if she is tall, short, fat, skinny, yellow, green, purple, orange or blue. It doesn't make a difference. Every woman is wired the exact same way."

It is how you look at their mask that determines how most guys talk to them. When you walk up to a woman to whom you are not attracted, she is not thinking "This is guy is talking to me because he is not attracted to me." What she is thinking is, "I'm a cool girl. This guy is talking to me because I'm a hot and sexy."

Ask any single woman to set you up with one of her friends, and do you know what she'll say to you? She will say something like, "I'm going to hook you up with my friend Mary. She's so cute, it's unbelievable." Then you go and pick Mary up for the date, and Mary is not cute at all. When you tell the woman who set you up that you didn't think Mary was cute at all, she will disagree and say that she is very cute.

Every woman thinks that all of her friends are beautiful. That is because every woman is beautiful.

For every woman out there that you don't find attractive, there are a ton of guys who will think she's very attractive. There are a ton of guys out there who will think that woman is hot.

So many guys can walk up to a woman they find unattractive and talk to them with no problem. If those same guys walk up to a woman they find attractive, though, they talk to her like she's an alien.

Those two women are wired the exact same way. If you can talk to a woman to whom you are not attracted, then you can talk to a woman you think is hot.

Attractive women and unattractive women are are all attractive women to someone. You might look at my girlfriend and not think she is pretty at all. I don't really care, because I know what I think about her.

So when you approach a woman, you need to remember that if you can talk to any woman then you can talk to all women. I tell guys all the time to go out and flirt with 80 year old women.

Find the ones who are wearing makeup, because they are the ones who still see themselves as the beautiful 20 year old girl they once were. If you can talk to them and be charming, they will smile and laugh with you.

They are no different than the 25 year old woman you want to approach. They're all the same. That is something that took me a long time to realize. Women are all exactly the same. So if you can talk to one, you can to them all.

If I put masks on every woman out there so that all you could see was long hair, you would never "choke" when you tried to talk to any of them. You'd be able to talk to each and every one of them.

It is only when I took off their masks that you would realize to which ones you are attracted and you would start freaking out. Think about in that hypothetical how silly it is that you freak out when you see a woman you find attractive. You can talk to any woman right now, so go out there and do it!

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Masf Relationship Doctrine Codified

MASF is the premier forum online for PU. The guys on there really do know their shit. Here's a post by one of the guru's Kwagmyre trying to codify current relationship doctrine. Kwag's had some pretty down times, where his wife who he had oneitis for cheated on him. He recovered from a severe betaisation (will post his two betaisation solved posts later), however wasnt able to save his marriage. He's picked up from it remarkably well and is MLTRing like theres no tomorrow. He now feels that if he wanted he could get his wife back, but like any self respecting PUA with better options is continuing to play the game on his terms.

Here's his post:

Chicks love drama, and need regular injections of it into their lives. If you do not provide them with it, they will create it.

Likewise, chicks are emotion junkies (this is why they love drama, it feeds the emotional needs machine). To a chick, feeling ANY emotions, even bad ones, is better than feeling no emotions at all. This is exactly why a woman will leave a man who loves and cares for her, but is supplicative and does not excite her, for one who is cruel to her either emotionally, or physically, and beats her. In a chick's mind, some emotion is better than none at all.

Women are incapable of understanding logic (within the context of romance and seduction, not in day-to-day type stuff). If a woman has learned to view you as a lover, then everything you say and do gets processed through her emotional filter. And this is a good thing! However, if you then attempt to subsequently communicate with her through logic, then she will literally not understand you. A woman who is attracted to you will not understand why, something she had previously attached emotions, is now speaking in logic. To put this another way: If you wind up in a logical convo with a chick you are in a relationship with, ABOUT the relationship, it means you fucked up. Get the conversation off the logical track as soon as you realize this.

Further, because chicks are creatures of emotion, and not logic, they have no "integrity to action". They base decisions upon how they FEEL about something, rather than about how that thing truly is. This is the basis for "chick logic", and it goes something like this: If a chick makes a promise to you, to do something, because she "felt" good about it at the time, and then later reneges on that promise, because she no longer "feels" good about it, then she will not keep her promise. Chicks simply do not see this behavior as dishonorable or incongruent - they simply changed their mind, as they believe they have every right to do. Contrast this with a man, a creature of logic, who will keep a promise to do a thing, even if he does NOT want to do it. This is because men base their decision in logic, and thus see things in an A+B=C kind of a frame. So, if a man promises to do a thing, then he will do it, simply because he promised - to a man, doing a thing he promised, even if he does not want to, will cause him less internal conflict, than it will with a woman, due to his decision-making paradigm. It is interesting to note that, in a sense, both sexes make their decisions the same way - they choose the path of least resistance, the one the minimizes their internal conflicts. They simply have different mechanisms for regulating those internal conflicts.

Shit tests are constant, and are NOT A BAD THING! They are a GOOD thing. Women only shit-test men they are attracted to, and who they perceive as a potential lover. They do not shit-test men who are not prospects, since that would defeat the purpose of the shit test (to see if he is man enough to be her lover). Conversely, a complete lack of shit-tests, generally means a loss of attraction, and is a bad sign. So, rather it is best to interpret shit tests, as IOI's, because THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE, since women, by definition, do not "test" men they are not "interested" in.

You must pass shit tests. No one passes all of them, but if you fail a series, and/or, simply acquiesce to them in order to "keep the peace", then you will head down the road to the process known as "betaisation".

Betaisation could simply be defined as what happens when the man loses the position of leader in the relationship. To be clear, this is always bad. This is never attractive to women. And this will always lead to problems within the relationship, since women are not capable of being attracted to men who will surrender the position of emotional leadership to a woman. And to be clear: No woman "wants" a betaised man. A woman wants a man who can pass her shit tests, and NOT become betaised, and therefore continue to prove his dominant status to her. This makes her feel secure, and safe with him - which is, and will always be, a woman's #1 need.

Once betaisation has occurred within a relationship, the only way you can salvage it, is by being willing to destroy it.

Women will viciously resist "de-betaisation" attempts. This is also a good thing! What this means is that, the woman is testing, to see if your attempts at regaining control are genuine, or merely a facade. To a woman, the literal survival of herself and her offspring is at stake here, on an unconscious level (even if she doesn't have offspring yet). So, behaviorally, for her, the stakes could not be higher. She may even threaten to end the relationship, which is why you must be willing to destroy it, in order to save it (as above). If she senses any weakness or hesitancy during this phase, she will blow you out, and the only way to maintain this frame, is both to mean it, and to own it. No matter what.

Women have no sense of fairness, equity, or reciprocity. A woman, is a creature that is designed to procreate and produce and protect offspring. Therefore, the only concern a woman has is for her own welfare (as it relates to the care of her offspring), and for the offspring themselves (even if they are unborn yet). The only thing a woman will sacrifice her welfare for (and will do so every time), is her offspring. A woman will NOT sacrifice her welfare for a man, unless she can somehow relate it back to the welfare of her offspring as well. IOW, a woman will take care of herself, and her children. The only person who will take care of a man, is himself. If this sounds harsh, consider this; the very moment a man relies on a woman to provide for, and take care of his needs (including his sexual needs), is the very moment her attraction for him will begin to wane. This is exactly why women find neediness in men so unattractive. To display neediness, in any form, is to invite failure and/or betaisation.

The Alligator eats the Chihuahua. Why? Because it's an Alligator, and that's what it does. It doesn't eat the Chihuahua out of a sense of malice, or malevolence. It is simply following its own evolutionary program that has been bred into it as a survival instinct over millions of years. Likewise with women. Women don't shit test, break their word, betaise men, cheat on men, or anything else, out of a sense of malevolence. They simply do it, because, that's what they do. Therefore, there is no room for misogyny in the doctrine. It is a waste of useful energy. Such attitudes as "all chicks should be treated like ho's, because they cheat on you the moment you turn your back", are coming from a needs-based frame, wherein the poster is wishing about how things could be, rather than as they really are.

The techniques and attitudes espoused in the current doctrine are designed to minimize what we socially perceive to be the negative consquenses, and maximize what we perceive to be the positive actions, by doing things designed to influence>> them on a subconscious level. At the core, ALL humans "manipulate" one another to their own ends in relationships - children manipulate their parents, bosses manipulate subordinates, wives manipulate husbands, PUA's manipulate targets. To rail against the idea of manipulation in human relationships is to rail against the very survival and evolution of the human race.

As women respond better to techniques designed to influence>> them on a subconscious level, rather than a conscious level, so likewise do they respond better to SUBcommunication, rather than direct communication. It is nearly always better, in matters of realationships, to lead a woman to a conclusion, or even better yet, DEMONSTRATE a conclusion, rather than state it. Examples:

STATING a conclusion (bad):

"I am a high-value man, and I can go find other women to fuck if you do not please me sexually."

LEADING a conclusion (better):

Guy: "The cashier was making fun of my purchase at the grocery store - Beer, Bacon, and Cookies. She said 'this is an interesting combination'".

hB: "Oh really, was she hitting on you?"

guy: "Hmm, I hadn't thought of that, I thought she was just being friendly and making conversation.. But she WAS playful... hmmm, maybe you have a point."

DEMONSTRATING a conclusion (best):

Guy: (Goes with wife to her cousin's wedding, ignores wife, dances with the hotties)

Wife: (next day): "Well, you were certainly having fun with everyone last night but me!"

(all the above are real-life examples)

The game never ends. There is no such thing as entering into a relationship to "retire" from the game. It just takes on a different form, one that is not signifigantly different from regular PU/sarging. But the game itself never ends, anymore than you stop being a man, or your woman stops being a woman. If you are a man, and a woman, who are in a relationship, where you are having sex with one another, then "the game" is in play, by definition.

(credit: Kwagmyre - MASF forum)

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Who The Most Eligible Bachelor In New York

Matchmaking company SAMANTHAS TABLE is reaching out to all the eligible bachelors in New York in time for Valentine's Day and would like to unveil these gorgeous available men on the famous day of love.

The requirements are that the men must live or work in the New York area, be single (duh!), be between 30 and 59, and be financially independent (read: rich).

The objective is to celebrate all the wonderful single men that reside and work in New York, and to prove to all the single ladies in New York that yes, "there are some good, single men left in New York".

Once the list is finalized, it will be publicized on _THE HUFFINGTON POST_ and will be followed by a high profile event where all the bachelors will be displayed in all their glory. That's right, I said "displayed".

Friends and colleagues who had the good sense to nominate the bachelors will also be invited to the event, and who knows, they may even meet someone at the shindig themselves.

Just remember; the eligible bachelors will be chosen for more than just being well to do; they will be men who do philanthropic work, travel to unusual places and will also be guys who are nominated by many people.

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Do Dj Get Girls

Before I started spinning decks, I asked the same question - _DO DJ'S GET GIRLS?_?

and more importantly, how can you do the same to pick up women without learning how to spin dem rekkids?

A few years ago, I got into DJ'ing as a hobby. As someone who used to love playing video games, and who loves music even more, it was like a perfect marriage. Something about composing fun mixes of music on a device that's basically a Fisher Price toy for grown up boys many nights were spent figuring out how to pump out the jams on my VCI-300.

For most nascent DJ's, the first few months are solitary. There were nights when I'd be up until 3 or 4 AM, learning the songs, the points to come in and out, which songs worked well with which songs. Like the mad scientist who made the accidental discovery that sulfur is the missing ingredient to make rubber pliable, I'd never have guessed that "Take On Me" and "In Da Club" blend together perfectly, until I was playing around with 92 bpm songs late one winter night.

The first few performances are nerve-wracking, and going from bedroom DJ, to performer it's all about being able to pay attention to the crowd and having the sense to know if you need to loop the chorus one more time because they're loving it so much, or if it's time to totally change things up.

And when you start to get really good when you drop 5, 10, 20 songs in a row, and EVERY one of them hits because you're just that tuned into the crowd, and they're just that tuned into you, well the girls want to be a part of the magic you're creating.

Once she's behind the booth, there are a ton of little tricks you can do, games you can play, easy ways to "teach her" how to DJ (and sneak in a kiss along the way). But it all starts with those lonely 3AM practice sessions.

At an abstract level, digital DJ'ing isn't too different than playing video games. You practice hitting a bunch of buttons in succession, and moving some analog controllers, in order to get something on your computer screen to do something you want it to do.

But there are three significant differences.

1.) DJ'ing is creative. Perhaps not as much of an art form as songwriting, but it's YOUR expression, good or bad. Video games aren't about creating, they're about consuming; in this case, consuming the problems sets and reaction tests that the developers have created for you.

2.) Once you step beyond the bedroom, DJ'ing is a social hobby. You're out performing in front of people, engaged with people, and showing them a good time. Video Games are generally anti-social, and while the Wii, Xbox Live and Farmville have gone a long ways to making them more social activities, they're generally things you do with no more than a few other people while you're sitting on a couch.

3.) DJ'ing is so active that it's inter-active. High energy levels, people dancing it's very different from the more relaxed nature of gaming. And yes, I know that Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 2 can be hair-raising if you're playing it, but if you're just watching two of your friends try the air cover mission again and again, it's only a few points more exciting than Friends reruns.

Now listen, I don't want to hate on video games. Plants Vs. Zombies led to two of the most enjoyable wasted days of my life.

But I do want to point out how two activities with similar "mechanics" can have profoundly different effects on your attractiveness.

Whether you're a DJ, an avid gamer, or neither, this stuff falls under a term we call "passive value." It's who you are "on paper", or how a woman would describe you to her friends.

Like it or not, there are some elements of passive value that are more attractive than others. In general

- someone who creates is more attractive someone who consumers

- someone who is social is more attractive than someone who is solitary

And the guys who are "9s and 10s" - the guys every woman wants - they tend to score highly in the passive value category. Even a dirt-poor man can score major points and pick up women if his photography is a thing of beauty.

One way of thinking about all of this might be to call it "lifestyle," but the way that the term is often used in the dating advice community, it has a rather narrow definition. This isn't merely about whether you have a lot of friends or not. Passive Value is a lot broader and a lot more reflective of who YOU are as a person.

And it's merely one of the elements of attractiveness that you're going to grow dramatically in Unbreakable.

If you've not yet picked up a copy, Unbreakable is basically a blueprint on how to become a 9 or a 10 so that your confidence is natural and instinctive so that you won't just "get" attraction from her, but that she'll *be attracted* to you.

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Book Review Man Magnet

Romy Millers Man Magnet. Although the title of this book is a little fromage for my liking" Magnet" had some pretty solid advice in it. Of course, all of the advice is exactly the same as what your om used to tell you, but for some reason, when it's binded up, given a title and is written by a complete stranger, the advice is easier to swallow.

If you have been mistakingly chasing after guys, talking about ex-boyfriends like they were rock stars, or having sex on the first date, Romy Miller is here to show you the error of your ways.

Of course, Miller also offers the fluff advice like "wear a nice outfit," which should go without saying. I have yet to meet a man who thinks a woman with greasy hair, snot on her face and 4-day-old sweats is hot. But by "wear a nice outfit", what Miller actually means is put on a pair of stiletto heels and show some breast. I'm not sure I agree.

So yeah, you can use your breasts to lure them, but you really gotta use your mind to keep them around. And that is essentially the gist of Miller's advice.

RATING: 3 OUT OF 5

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Love At First Sight Make Someone Fall In Love On First Date

People have different opinions about the love at first sight. Few people believe on it and few do not. However, there is no scientific evidence available which can provide whether it exists or not. There are many couples around the world who met once and got married later. Was it an example of love at first sight? Actually, it is all about how comfortable you are while talking with unknown people. Many girls who just ignore the unknown people without noticing them can not expect love at first in their life.

To fall in such situation, you have to checkout the various people. No, we are not asking you to meet with each and every person, and discuss about the love or personal life. Many times it happens in our life when we meet with some interesting people while traveling or going to particular place. After returning home, we keep thinking about the same person. It can be a example of love at first sight. However, it is quiet difficult to understand the definition of love. Living in relationship or love is not easy because it comes along with huge responsibility.

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How To Approach And Attract A Woman

How to approach a woman is a questioned that is encountered by everyone. When approaching a woman there are no perfect pick up line but the whole thing is that you need to be confident. Here are some tips that will help you while approaching a woman:

FORGET THE ONE LINER: One liner never seem to work. The woman gets the impression that the guy is trying to flirt her. Therefore the trick here is to be unpredictable.

GO STRAIGHT UP TO THEM: This is probably the best way to approach a woman. The best way is to be confident and go up to her with out any hesitation. If you see that she tries to avoid you than move on and do not even look back. This would make her feel somewhat neglected and she would be left thinking about you.

KEEP TRYING: Even being neglected once you should keep trying. It might take time but you will get results when your confidence builds up and you start building up skills.

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How To Choose Your Partner Through Internet Dating

Internet dating has become the biggest business in the arena of dating. Everyone is most welcome without any age bar. There are millions of websites that provide the dating services. In simple words, these websites help people to meet their soul mates. If you are aware about the name of dating websites, then don't worry. You can google few keywords like online dating tips, online dating, dating information, top dating website etc. These keywords can find the thousands dating websites for you.

Many marriages have been happened through the internet dating. It attracts more and more people due to the easily availability and low cost. It helps to save the genuine information about the individual. On the other hand, normal dating is too expensive and risky. Internet dating is kind of tool for single men or women which helps to find their partner according to their choice.

Websites provide the free as well as paid dating services. If you are just a beginner for internet dating, then choose the free internet dating services initially. Once you understand the complete functionality of dating site, and then only go for paid services. Initially, you can take the help of social media websites; they have also become the kind of dating websites for youth.

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8020 Leading With Desire

How much do you know about sex addicts? They're fascinating. I don't have too much experience, but that which I have seen has been pretty informative.

My first exposure was through Chuck Palahniuk's book _Choke_. It's sordid and interesting and sad all at once. The book doesn't have the same generational appeal as his other masterpiece - _Fight Club_ - but I'd recommend it. Definitely better than the movie. Californication is also a great take on the addiction, as is Russell Brand's _My Booky Wooky_.

If that's as close as you get, that's just fine. You can draw your conclusions from there; mine have been further informed by relationships I've had with two sex addicts - a sexual relationship with a woman, and a friendship with a man. They're both quite strange people, and their lives are both never-ending parades of sexual abundance.

Clearly, I don't have a massive sample pool upon which to draw my conclusions. Two fictional characters, and three real characters whose lives are stranger than fiction. But there's enough overlap that I think it's safe to say the following: sex addicts are very good at finding sex and are able to arouse women.

Their minds are oriented towards it, and the things that are major deterrents to the rest of us are merely flies in the ointment to them. Annoyances, perhaps, but nothing more, on their quest to get off and arouse women. The strategies they develop are diverse. Some rely on volume, withstanding rejection after rejection. Others become master flirts, and their personalities enable their addictions and can attract women. Others seek out the weak and vulnerable. But in all cases, there is something driving them towards sex - a force and a desire - that most others lack.

If you're like the average human being, you can go without sex for a week or two without crawling up a wall, and you might even be able to hold out for a few months before you start waking up to dirty thoughts of that annoying yet amorous "five" who your friend once brought to your party and who now stalks you on facebook. "Maybe if I had a few shots of Whiskey before she came over..?" The sex addict, of course, wouldn't be in your situation, because he would have gone after that "five" the moment he realized it was his for the taking and would go and arouse women right and left.

This is instructive inasmuch as we hold ourselves back from going after what we want. When considered in the context of the vitamins and painkillers metaphor, the vitamin _is_ the painkiller for the sex addict. Scale back from sex addicts, and you get those who will have sex with anything with two legs and a pulse. We might call these people _sexually opportunistic_. If they're men, they usually end up becoming bisexual, finding that "getting ass" in a literal way from men is easier than "getting ass" in a metaphorical way from women.

One step back from those individuals are the men who will sleep with just about any woman and who can arouse women. They're not discriminating. Fattie coming onto them at two AM as the bar's shutting down? Heck, why not! These men may aren't forever locked in mortal combat with their libidos, but they can't walk away from a fight with the ol' sex drive when a real woman is involved. All three of the archetypes I've just presented have ways of finding sex - let's call them _sexual strategies_ - that probably haven't occurred to you, since you're reading this site.

In fact, since your sexual strategy now _includes_ the act of seeking out information on how to get more women, I'm going to make a leap and guess that every now and then, you let your fears get the best of you, and you don't take the shot, or you push the girl away from you when you should be pulling her in when you want to get women. In this way the painkiller is merely the act of _doing nothing _or_ self-rejecting_. Not risking it. Not going for it. We have fear of rejection... because rejection is painful... so we let our fears guide us. We walk cautiously, we push people away, and we don't go for the opportunities when they're there for us. We know we need to take our vitamins, but they're big and lumpy and sometimes it's easier to put them off until tomorrow. We'll be getting to fear of rejection more in a bit. But for now, join me in a thought exercise, will you? How often has the following happened? You have a goal in mind: maybe it is talking to a girl, maybe it is kissing her or trying to arouse women but you fear what will happen if you go for it. You imagine a horrible little future where you are rejected and cast back to ebook purgatory. You tense up, your mind starts thinking _logically_ - "how do I prevent that from happening?" - and things get awkward. What if, instead of allowing your ego and your mind the self-indulgent luxury of reveling in some rejection that hasn't yet happened, you were to allow your sexual desire some revelry of its own? You don't need to be a sex addict to lead with your desire. You just need to want women and be able to attract women. Oh, and I'm sure you do... but you have to want it when you're talking to women, more than you mind getting rejected by them. And when you're getting better at talking to women, it can be hard to think about sex when you're thinking "what do I say next?"

So what's the answer? The best solution, if you want to call it that, is what we call _forcing a sexual state_. In other words, reminding yourself that yes, it'd be kind of nice to hook up with this girl and get women. Get graphic in your mind. What are your turn-ons? Imagine those things... with her. Seriously man - think about the curves of her body that you can't see, that are hidden just out of view. Look down at her legs - and look all the way up to where they come together if she's wearing black stretch pants. Imagine kissing the nape of her neck... and imagine her lips on parts of your body that are now starting to get excited. Allow yourself to enjoy it.

Social pressure has a way of making us forget about things that are important to us. You would be shocked - or maybe you wouldn't - to know how many clients I've worked with who let their sexual desires get whipped into subservience like a freshman getting hazed. These guys aren't thinking (or feeling) how sexy a woman is... all the little nooks and crannies on her body that are so delicious and amazing. They let fears, ego, "being right" and all sorts of other things that just don't matter get in the way. They create self-imposed roadblocks between themselves and women who, by all rights, are into them. Don't let this happen to you.

When you start to think about her in a sexual way, a few things happen. Time slows down and you become more attentive to everything around you. You develop a greater appreciation for this fine woman in front of you, and she starts to feel your vibes, too.

When you get to a more advanced level and you've been down this road a few times, merely reminding yourself to enter a sexual state is often enough. Your unconscious will take over and do the rest of the work. You may not be there yet, but work at it and you will be. You don't have to be a sex addict to start to think like one and begin to arouse women. You merely need to allow your own sexuality and sexual desires to take charge. And there's no need to overthink it. Underneath all the clothes, the glitz, the social shell, the conversation, the stories we share, the games we play... we're all just naked human beings. Find out more about how to attract women today.

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Dating Advice Should Read Before You Start Dating

While dating with opposite gender, you have to be very careful. As a result, we have brought important dating advice for you.

Understanding - It is not something you can achieve in one or two meetings. To understand your partner completely, you have to listen to him/her properly. Most of the time, it happens when you prefer to tell more about yourself to your partner. It is not a good practice. Listen to your partner more and encourage him/her if he/she is involved in different activity.

Look good - Whenever you visit a particular place, please make sure that you look good. Are you leaving your home for dating? If yes, then do not forget to wear your best outfit. Do not try to look too different. Try to wear a dress in which you should look good, decent and sober.

Humor - People love to spend time with those persons who have good sense of humor. Please make sure that there is a very thin line between good humor and cheap one. So, you have to balance this line perfectly.

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