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Do You Put Women On A Pedestal

One of the guys at a recent Bootcamp was asking me about putting women on a pedestal. Let's talk about this.

Say you are there in a T-Mobile store with your buddy, and all of a sudden a beautiful woman walks in the store. Your buddy is in the middle of getting a brand new cell phone, and there you are staring at this woman with the "deer in the headlights" look in your eyes.

You don't know what to do. You start idolizing her inside your mind and you put her on a pedestal. You think, "She's hot. Wow is she hot!"

Those are the kind of thoughts you're thinking to yourself. You think, "Wow is she amazing. I don't deserve a girl like that."

Really? Why don't you deserve a girl like that? Why are you putting her above you?

There is no reason to ever put a woman above you. We're all equals.

So I don't care who you are, what you do or what you're all about. We're all equal. Everything about us is equal.

Every time you put someone on a pedestal, you are really never going to have an opportunity to get to know them. The reason is that when you do this, you are approaching from a position of weakness.

You are basically looking at her, and your body language and non-verbal communication are all screaming that you don't deserve her. You might as well say out loud to her, "Hi, my name is Justin. I really don't deserve you, so I'm just not going to bother talking to you."

The truth is that people are people, and everyone wants to be treated well. Everyone wants others to talk to them and communicate with them. Nobody wants to be put on a pedestal.

No relationship ever works if you're put on a pedestal. No relationship works if you're putting the other person on a pedestal.

You have to really realize that we are all equal. So the next time you see a beautiful woman standing there in the T-Mobile store, realize that not only is she your equal (but that you might actually be the superior one in a lot of ways.

You may actually be the person who knows more than she does. She might actually learn more things from you than you could learn from her. Who knows what the dynamic of the relationship might be?

Everything is equal. Keep it that way.

Online Dating Tips For Men

You've tried the bar scene, blind dates and even dated a coworker or two - but nothing resulted from all your efforts. So you've decided to give online dating a try.

And you're not alone - in 2003, "magazine reported that online-dating-service revenues topped $214 million in only the first half of 2003. By now, you can imagine that with the myriad of online dating sites out there, the dollars are pouring in like never before.

Online daters are not desperate, lonely people (at least not all of them). Most men and women who end up on online dating sites are looking for someone because they're tired of the dating scene, don't have time to hunt for a mate, or both.

And chances are, you're in the same boat. The problem is that you're not sure how to go about it or what to do once you do get to an online dating site.

Don't worry, I'm here to help. All you need is a positive attitude and the willingness to find the woman you want.

Here, now, are some tips to ensure that you don't spend hours on end looking for a woman online without any results.

ONLINE DATING TIPS #1

FIND WOMEN IN YOUR AREA

Unless you are willing to relocate for a woman, you're best bet is to find an online dating site that offers you the option of finding women in your area.

Not only will this simplify your ability to meet with one at your leisure, it may even save you potential travel complications down the line (imagine you're in Illinois and fall in love with a woman from California).

If you're willing to take your chances, however, that's fine. Just be aware that you do have that option in online dating.

ONLINE DATING TIPS #2

WORK YOUR PROFILE

When you describe yourself in your online dating profile, be honest. What good is this whole thing if you're going to start off a potential relationship with lies? Dedicate about 200 words to describing yourself and use another 100 to describe what you're looking for.

How can you describe yourself? Write about what you look like, your education, your job, and things that make you original (you speak Italian fluently, you have a ferret, etc).

Be witty in your profile by making a humorous comment or two. However, ensure that you get straight to the point about what you want in a woman and what you can bring to a relationship.

Be specific about what you're not interested in (divorced, children), but don't limit yourself so much that you end up with a specific type of woman. For example, you can mention that you absolutely do not want to date a smoker, but don't mention that you prefer blonds.

Also, make sure to double-check your spelling and grammar. Think of your profile as your opportunity to make a lasting first impression.

Finally, do not post any personal information that may give women clues about where you live specifically or who you are. Although online dating is relatively safe, you want to avoid any problems.

ONLINE DATING TIPS #3

POST YOUR PHOTOGRAPH

To start, if a woman doesn't have her picture posted next to her profile, you can probably bet that not many men will be contacting her. Putting a face to a profile is very important when it comes to online dating and you should definitely post yours.

But... do not post a picture that was taken 10 years ago when you weighed 20 pounds less and had more hair. It's not only deceptive; the person who sees it will expect to see that person should you decide to meet up.

Post a recent photograph of yourself that you like and try not to have all your friends in it. You don't have to post a host of shots; one or two is more than enough. This will ensure that more eyes take a look at your profile.

ONLINE DATING TIPS #4

FLIRT WITH WOMEN

If you're online and someone wants to chat with you, go for it. And if the two of you have a good rapport, then feel free to flirt. But if you're looking for a serious relationship with someone, being overtly sexual may get you a cheap thrill, but that's about all you'll get out of it.

Of course, if you're in the mood for a little fun, go for it by all means, but don't expect a couple of masturbation sessions to turn into a marriage proposal. Just like in the real world of face-to-face meetings, you shouldn't confuse sex with love.

By flirting, you could wink at a woman or blow her a kiss, but overtly writing about your genitalia or going over a sexual fantasy won't likely land you a great woman.

Do You Put Women On A Pedestal

Everything is equal. Keep it that way.

Online Dating Tips For Men

FIND WOMEN IN YOUR AREA

WORK YOUR PROFILE

POST YOUR PHOTOGRAPH

FLIRT WITH WOMEN

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