Hey David D!
DATING QUESTION FROM A READER
Who says there's no such thing as magic? When it comes to women, cocky+funny is PURE 100% magic. It is one of the major keys to getting her making her comfortable with you, to getting her number, to getting the date, kissing, getting laid, EVERYTHING! Your stuff is pure platinum my man! Looking back on mailbags from over a year ago, I still shake my head and say: "Man, this guy is good. I cant wait 'till I am able to pull off those lines like that!" The lines are so funny and with cockiness, it just blows them away! Every time you do it, you can just FEEL the women responding to you in a positive way and not trying to ignore you or get away from you when you act like a wuss- bag. They are always laughing and smiling and even THEY tend to get touchy-feely, asking me for MY number and then calling ME (of course, I always get their numbers too) or asking me to call them, asking me when we're going out, and even asking ME for sex. I could not believe it! And often, this could happen within minutes or hours of meetingnot weeks, months, or years like I once thought it took. I suggest all guys especially the skeptics out there to get your stuff. It works!
What I LOVE is how you say making it look like as if a woman is picking YOU up. It sure takes the pressure off of the situation. It's all in the mind set. You are not nervous because you know she wants you and is trying to get younot the other way around. Then you act accordingly. Here's just a few of the lines I use:
"Look, just because you're being sweet to me doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with you. What? You thought I was THAT easy? Common!"
(with women at work or women working somewhere) "How can you possibly get any work done when you're flirting with me all the time? I know I'm a stud and all but if you lose your job, don't think I'm going to support you!"
(after seeing a woman) "I know we had fun, but please don't become a stalker and call me 50 times a day or else I'll have the cops pay you a visit with a restraining order in hand!"
(If a woman hints at sex or sometimes I'll bring it up)
"I don't know if I could have sex with youwhat if you could only last 2 minutes? I don't know if you can even kissI tell you what, I'll THINK about it" (then I kiss her)
(cocky+funny for a common situation)
Her: "How are you?"
Me: "Well, I've been told I'm pretty damn good!" with a 'wink'
(If a woman walks past me)
Me: "What are you doing" (or where are you going?)
Her: "I'm going to such and such or I'm doing such and such"
Me: "You're a lousy liar
It's really ok to admit you were just trying to get a look at me and as long as you're not a stalker, I may give you a chance!"
(If she makes fun of herself) Her: "I'm such a retard" or "My hair looks awful" or "My lipstick doesn't look good does it?"
Me: "Well, I didn't want to say anything!" lol "But I think those guys over there were thinking 'What's her problem? She's so clueless!"
Her: "My hair looks bad doesn't it?" (or any other line where she makes fun of herself)
Me: "You can say that again!" (with a playful tone)
I love it! I love it! With this type of communication, they react SO differently! A lot of times, they will break down and admit they DO like me! And this keeps you out of the "lets just be friends" category and reduces the number of fake numbers and blow-offs you get from women. It also keeps you from appearing "TOO NICE". AND I don't have to CHASE them anymore! It's a wonderful feeling. Now on the other hand, what if you said:
"I bet you have a boyfriend, right?"
"Hey baby, you're so beautiful!"
"Can I take you out sometime?"
"Oh, baby, there's nothing wrong with you! You're gorgeous!"
AH! David, just like you sayTHIS STUFF IS TERRIBLE! Wuss, kiss-ass behavior at its best!
It's so lame, so boring, and so wussie, and so blah! Using cocky+funny, we can have more fun without sounding like a loser plus women respond 1,000,000% times better with cocky+funny. Probably only 1-2% of the male population know what cocky+funny is and probably half of those do it without realizing it. This type of communication is DIFFERENT from what MOST guys do which makes you stand out! But it's a lot like water. For water (H20), you need 2 hydrogen atoms and one oxygen atom. If not then you get some other element you aren't looking for. You have to have the right mixture of cocky AND funny or else it doesn't work as well (although sheer cockiness with mild humor CAN work to a degree).
Now, I have a question and observation that is important to me, David. SOMETIMES when I throw out a cocky+funny response, they will say "Oh whatever!" or roll their eyes or say you're mean, get mad, or something like that and walk away. This happens not often but on rare occasions. These women are probably uptight anyways and not worth getting know. When they say "whatever" or "You're so mean" and they're laughing or smiling, and they still keep talking to me, then I know it's working. Also, when you say something like: "Oh quit lying, you were just walking near me because you want me" and they say "No, I don't want you" or "No I wasn't, I was just " " in a semi-serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep the cocky+funny going? In other words, what do you do when they act as if they ARENT picking you up?
Thanks a million Daveyou've changed my life forever seriously.
GT from Nashville, Tennessee
OK, so let's talk about the great comments that you've shared, and then I'll address your question
I was amazed when I first realized that you could actually turn the tables around, pretend that you're trying to "resist her advances", and make fun of her for trying to "put the moves on you" and wind up having the woman you're talking to actually start feeling attracted to you as a result.
It really is amazing.
Now, I know that a lot of guys hear this approach and think, "Yeah, right. There's no way that just pretending that a woman is pursuing you will MAKE her pursue you"
But this isn't just any old common way of "pretending".
What you're doing here is a very special, Cocky Funny, flirty, engaging way of pretending.
I'm sure you've watched the Discovery Channel, and seen animals "play fighting". It's common among young animals in particular.
Now, how do animals know that it's only "play", as opposed to "real" fighting?
I mean, have you ever seen the way some animals, like lion cubs and wolf pups jump on and bite each other?
It certainly LOOKS like real fighting.
But it's not it's play.
Well there's a very similar thing that happens when you flirt with a woman using the Cocky Funny technique and when you use this further to pretend that she's trying to "pick you up" and you're "resisting her advances".
You have to use just a LITTLE EXTRA drama.
You have to be a little "overly suspicious" with your tone.
You have to act just a little too serious and offended.
These little cues, along with a good sense of humor and timing are the hints and triggers that make a woman instantly switch into "Oh, this is play" mode, instead of behaving as if you're a loser who has no imagination.
There are some other key benefits as well, as you mentioned above, when you're using this approach.
One is that you don't come across as nervous or intimidated. The fact that you're turning the tables around, having fun, and acting like you're something special sends the message that you're totally cool, calm, and comfortable in your own skin and, in fact, you're SO comfortable that you're going to go immediately to "play" mode.
Another is that it gives you a "character role" to play that is the OPPOSITE of being a WUSS. This is handy, as most guys switch quickly into Wuss mode when they start talking to an attractive woman.
Finally, it gives you all kinds of great ways to end the interaction
You can say:
"OK, well I'm not going to give you my number, but you can write down your email for me, and maybe I'll get back to you sometime" etc.
It even makes taking things to the next level easy and charming, because you're "resisting forward".
A quick personal story:
I was at Hooters Restaurant yesterday afternoon with a friend, and the waitress approached us to get our order.
She walked over and said something like, "Hi, can I get you something to drink?" etc.
I pretended not to notice her, and kept talking to my friend.
Then, as she finished asking the question, I turned to her with a surprised and "fake offended" look on my face and said, "Oh, that's OK, I was just TALKING" (as if she had interrupted me).
She opened her mouth with the "Oh, no you didn't! I can't believe you just said that" look.
I shook my head at her.
Then my friend looked at her and said, "Wow, you're very forward. Next thing she's going to be asking for your phone number".
I shook my head at her again, and rolled my eyes.
We gave her the drink order, and she went away.
She came back a few minutes later to tell me that my drink was going to be delayed, because they were making some kind of change in the kitchen.
Of course, I threw up my hands in despair, rolled my eyes at her, and shook my head (as if she was disappointing me horribly).
She laughed and said, "Hey, you'd better watch out, I might have to ask you for your phone number"
We had talked for a grand total of about a minute, and she was already joking around about asking me for my number.
Keep in mind, this is a HOOTERS waitress (and a cute one, at that). She works in an environment where hundreds of guys try to pick up on her, one after the other
Now, as you can imagine, this kind of thing happens all the time when I interact with waitresses, etc. I've found that it's no harder to get a waitress to give you her email/number than it is to get any other girl's info, by the way.
What's the secret?
Being playful, fun, different, Cocky Funny, and not acting like a Wuss who wants to call her 100 times a day and tell her how pretty she is.
Now I'd like to address your question
**By the way, if you're reading this right now and you'd like to learn the secret of using my technique of Cocky Funny, then you should go and check out my DVD/CD program "Cocky Comedy". It's the ultimate education on not only this technique,
but many other conversation skills.
Suggested free e-books to read:Mary Wood Allen - What A Young Woman Ought To Know
Alphahot1 - Hey Do You Want Women To Pick You Up Gift Wrap Technique
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