A little aside before I get started. Today I was hanging out with a couple here in Panama. We were talking about traveling, learning languages, eating food, and all that sort of stuff, when all of a sudden the guy in the couple brought up the game.
They had some friends that were into it.
"I'm into that stuff too," I said.
They mentioned the book and I told them I'm one of the characters. The girl's eyes lit up.
"TELL ME ABOUT IT!"
I looked at her and I realized it was a VERY familiar look.
Why?
Because that's the look girls ALWAYS give me when they hear that I know about game. And this isn't just because I'm a "Q-List Celebrity" from The Game. I used to just be a dude trying to learn about girls and it got the same reaction.
Girls LOVE this stuff. What do girls care about more than anything? Being social. If you KNOW stuff about that, they LOVE hearing about it.
So, look I used to be SUPER embarrassed about pickup. I bought a crappy paperback "manual" about it and I literally hid it in my safe. My best friend and I both randomly showed up at a lair meeting once in Austin, having no idea that the other was into pickup.
We were both too embarrassed to tell the other one about it.
Anyway, my point is this - learning about pickup is AWESOME. Girls respect it IF you respect it. If you're embarrassed about it, they will think you're lame. Try telling ONE girl this week that you're learning pickup. My guess is that she'll be intrigued and probably try to help you.
Ok, moving on to today's letter.
> Hey Tynan, how're you doing in Panama?
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> Here's a little bit of background on me;
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> My childhood when it came to Relationships, was pretty much zero, just few friends and never talk to girls. High School was more of the same, I was very introverted, shy, and just a weirdo (I was so weird that I didn't roll around with geeks, I used to be alone).
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> My issue: My voice. Its not a problem of vocal projection, but rather a problem of subcomunication, while I talk, what I convey is: Im a nice guy, Im needy, My voice sucks and so do I.I want to change that, I want to convey DOMINANCE, and POSITIVITY, have a charismatic voiceWhen I hear my voice recorded In a tape I do NOT hear the voice of a MAN who has it all together and is good with woman, what I hear is the opposite.
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> Thanks man
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Hey D,
It's going great. I was actually just talking about this subject the other day with my friend who's traveling the world with me. We've been making videos about our travels and he thinks he sounds funny on them. In fact, if you watch our latest video at www.lifenomadic.com you'll hear him making fun of himself at the end of the tape.
Here's the thing: NO ONE likes the sound of their voice on tape - AT FIRST. When we hear our voice in our head while we're talking, it vibrates through our bones and makes it sound lower.
So every single guy on this planet's voice sounds less "manly" when recorded than it does when they talk.
I used to hate my voice too, but then I started rapping. At first I would actually blush when I listened to my own songs because I thought my voice was so terrible. Yeah, I would blush even if NO ONE ELSE was around. So I know what you're talking about.
Then I just listened to my voice a lot and finally got over it. Now I think I have a fantastic voice - which may or may not be true. I'm going to send you a copy of Make Her Chase You, which includes a one hour recording of me picking up some girls, so you'll get to hear what I sound like.
So, my first bit of advice to you is to record your voice every single day for 15 minutes and listen to it. This will take 30 minutes out of your day, but you can do it in the car or while you're doing something else. Eventually you will probably like your voice.
Next, your voice WILL ALWAYS reflect YOU. Everything you do reflects YOU. So the real question is how do you solve the PROBLEM instead of the SYMPTOM?
You stop being needy and you stop being a nice guy. That's the only way. How do you do that? Learn the right techniques and then get out there and get experience talking to girls.
I focus a lot on becoming confident and positive in my book, so I think that's going to help you.
My book also comes with a 30 day bootcamp where you get a lesson and a mission every day. Before I send you a copy of it, I want you to promise me that you're going to do all 30 days with no excuses and personally e-mail me your results every day. I bet that will solve the problem by itself. Fair enough?
Until next time,
Tynan
P.S. If you're not totally happy with your dating life and you have a specific question you'd like answered, or a situation you'd like help with, send me an e-mail to weekly@makeherchaseyou.com. If I pick your e-mail for my weekly newsletter, I'm going to send you a free copy of ALL of my products to get you headed down the right track.
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