Creating Tension For A Great First Kiss By David Wygant

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Typically good relationships have some element of surprise and the unexpected in them. The key to this is tension. TENSION IS CRITICAL in the early stages of a relationship and can be a healthy stepping stone in establishing a deeper connection down the road. While it may seem counter-productive, tension actually helps to create a positive environment. Here are a few tips on how to create tension in the first kiss.

In a new relationship, most men make the mistake of rushing forward like Speedy Gonzales, and inadvertently they end up killing tension. Like guiding a sailboat on a placid lake, they assume everything is going just fine and forget that all the fun and memories are created when you survive a stormy sea. A relationship without tension is like a boat on a placid lake -ultimately it creates a status quo experience, and nobody wants to be just status quo.

IMAGINE A ROMANTIC EVENING at your place with your intended over a bottle of wine. If you are like most men, then you will simply wait for the wine to take affect to see how far things will go. However, a far better way to go about things is to use the evening as an opportunity to create tension, thus establishing a stronger foundation for your future relationship together. Here is how you need to play out the scenario to create tension:

You: Lean over to casually play with her hair while talking to her.

Her: She seems not to mind as we continue to talk.

You: Intentionally stop playing with her hair.

You: Then wait a minute and start playing with her hair again.

Her: She reacts to this by smiling while you continue to chat.

You: Stop playing with her hair and look into her eyes.

Her: She puts her hand on your leg and starts caressing it.

You: Start playing more intensely with her hair and slowly move into give her a soft kiss on each cheek, and the pull back for a moment to create tension. Then lean in to give her a slow kiss on the lips.

You: Next, you stop kissing her while still playing with her hair. (Note: You are pulling back with the kissing while still moving forward.)

You: Lean to kiss her again and after a few moments (maybe 30 seconds), You will feel her energy opening up indicated by the pressure of her lips now pressing on yours. They key here is that she is initiating the pressure.

You: Gently pull the pressure of your lips and pull your lips back which triggers her increasing the pressure.

With glasses fogging over, I think you have the idea of what I am talking about here. The idea is that the constant "push and pull" creates in her the desire of continually wanting more. It amps up the chemistry.

On a deeper level you are also sending information that you are a patient man that is self-disciplined. Self-disciplined men are more attractive to women because they are more likely to have self-discipline in other areas of life which is a necessary trait for success.

Pulling back and pushing forward also has the added benefit of sending mixed signals to the nervous system which keeps it from being able to fully adjust, with the end result of feeling wonderful to the receiver. Remember, one thing you should do when being physical with a women is to be consistently inconsistent. This is one of the few forms of inconsistency that she will greatly appreciate.

Read more from David Wygant, at his website and blog.

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Nice Guys Do It Too

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I’m talking about online dating, of course. When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of assorted varieties.

That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone. Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it...we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships. It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it...that and patience.

There is a saying that "you never get a second chance to make a good first impression." With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.

- Compliment Her. The first thing to say to her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4 for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.

- Listen to Her and Ask Questions. Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and letting her talk than talking yourself.

- Prepare for the Conversation. The last thing you want is to be sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.

Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away.

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