After reading your book, I put many of your tactics into action. I work in a casino, so I get to meet a lot of beautiful young women. Once I got over the initial reluctance to ask them for their email/phone number, I started getting quite a few numbers in a night.
The other night there was a woman who was so gorgeous, it hurt. I walked over and chatted with her for a few minutes, then asked if she had email. She said "Sure, I do! Let me write it down for you." Without asking she put down her phone number as well. The younger guys who work for me now call me a "God". They have no idea how I can do it. Better looking guys are complaining that I get more phone numbers and emails in one night than they've got their whole lives. One of the women was classic. She looked like Sheryl Crow and Jennifer Aniston combined. She complained she wasn't winning on the machine and asked me what the secret was. I said, "I don't know the secret today, but if I figure it out, I'll email it to you. All I need now is your email address and your phone number in case email is down." She was taken aback, but asked for my pen and wrote it down. Now instead of being alone on my days off, I have a lot of options which are all great ones. Thanks for your advice and changing me out of wuss mode. I.
Options are great, aren't they?
And isn't it amazing how a woman will give out her email and number if you just talk for a few minutes and then ask for it?
I can remember when I first started learning this stuff it seemed to me that no woman in her right mind would just give out her phone number to a complete stranger
But then I discovered that no woman is actually IN her right mind! (Or at least this is my logical deduction, because they all seem to give out their phone numbers and email addresses so readily!)
But to get back to the concept of "options"
When you, as a guy, have options, it changes EVERYTHING.
When you have a date that evening plus three women to email or call, things are TOTALLY DIFFERENT than when you have nothing going on.
You feel different, you talk different, and you communicate in a different way.
I believe that one of the reasons that attractive women come across so powerfully is because they KNOW that they have options.
And one of the benefits of learning how to be more successful with women and dating is that you learn to CREATE YOUR OWN OPTIONS. When you know that you can walk out the door anytime you want and meet women, it frees up a lot of mental energy that was previously focused on other things. Energy you can use to improve other areas of your life
Thanks for your email it's inspiring.
I've read DYD, have been getting your newsletters, totally understand what's going on. I've seen it working, and know it's for real. But I've got a BIG problem. I've got to recondition myself from more years than I care to admit of doing things the wrong way. I always idolized superheroes like Batman Superman who always acted with the utmost respect and decorum. Like muscle-bound male versions of Miss Manners. My heroes were modest, reliable, helpful, well-mannered, and strong (OK -- they're not *totally* lame). Definitely not *cocky*. I always *hated* mouthy guys who are all show and no go.
As for sex, in my younger years it was Catholic training: everything sexual was *evil* (unless you're a priest hitting on the altar boys), and I was so naive and mixed up I really thought I was going to *hell*.
After I wised up and dropped that it was *sexual harassment* that I kept hearing about all the time. The message I got then is that it's not OK to be sexual until you're already going with someone. Of course now I know that that only applies to man who a woman is NOT ATTRACTED TO. OK, so now I *understand*. But am still reflexively *doing* the same wrong things. What's the best way to actually go about reconditioning my *behavior*? I can be a good smartass when I have the right stimuli, but what's the best way to practice loosening up with the sex talk? I don't want to klutz things up with awkward, forced attempts on women who *are* good prospects. I can be cool enough to get dates, but want to take it to the next level. The best thing I can think of is either to practice on female *friends* I've already written off or go to places I don't really care to hang around regularly, like techno-disco meat markets where I probably couldn't be as crude and crass as the average ass-grabber if I slammed a fifth of Daniels and *tried*.
This may apply to a lot of other guys who are "struggling with the material." Any better ideas how to get through the learning curve as quickly as possible without poisoning one's reputation by being tagged an uber-klutz? FB Michigan
Well, you say that you've read my book, but you need to go back through it remember, it's a reference manual, to be referred to again and again not a fictional book to be used as
If I were you, I'd get online and start chatting with women with instant messenger services and/or in chatrooms, as I describe in Chapter 7.
Bust on them, tease them, talk about every topic you can think of, including sex (make sure you're talking to women who are of legal age, by the way!).
You'll find that starting conversations with women online and practicing your skills is a lot more convenient when you can do it from the comfort of your computer. And you'll see it's very easy to talk with women about any topic. Get over your preconceived ideas, and just do it.
And get over this worshipping Batman, dude. Didn't you see the Saturday Night Live skits where they were mocking him and Robin as the "Ambiguously Gay Duo?"
Not good role models, man.
Dave my man,
I've been reading your advice for a while now and I have to laugh because I discovered several years ago cocky and funny really work. I am naturally cocky and a smartass to boot, so it usually worked, but not always. Then, my buddy told me something that drives 'em wild. The dude is 6'3 and 300 lbs, and he always had a good looking woman on his arm. His advice: Show a little interest, then ignore them. Of course I over simplified it, but you know what I mean. How many men have said that you can't pick up women in a topless bar? I did all the time, and rarely spent any more money than on drinks for myself. The other guys are feeding the girls dollar bills and getting no where. I'm just an average looking guy, but the honies went for it like mad. You are on the mark and anyone that has problems meeting women should heed your advice. PS: I love the way you bust on the chicks that write to you and say how wrong you are!
Yes, women really love it when you show some interest, but then don't hang on them. Women, and especially attractive women, LOVE a good challenge. It's fun for them.
And yes, I do enjoy emails from women both positive and negative. I just wish more women would write me! (And I wish that when they did write that they'd send PICTURES! I have gotten a few, but cummon!)
Wasssup! I just have to tell ya that i think your a god to all guys out there who have trouble with women! I've been reading your e-mails for about two months now and i gotta tell ya, you're a genius! I haven't even purchased the book yet but everything you say makes perfect sense. So i have decided to purchase Double Your Dating. I can't wait to see how it works out. I have the hardest time meeting women and the bad thing about it is most girls think im good looking. But they think im boring.
Here's my question to you. Im not sure about the whole cf thing, how do i be cocky yet not come across as an a*hole? And I've really never been the funny type of guy i just don't know how without saying or doing something that might make me look like a wussy. Can you help a bro out PLEASE?
OK, here's the basic formula for Cocky Funny:
Take an arrogant comment, then add humor.
It's a killer combination. The key is that it HAS TO BE FUNNY. It actually has to make others laugh.
You must make sure that you are Cocky enough, because if you're only FUNNY, then you will come across as GOOFY, which isn't what you want.
So, for instance, you might be at a bar, and you're having a drink. Let's say your drink has too much alcohol in it, and you're going to comment on it.
An arrogant comment might be:
"This bartender sucks. There's too much booze
in my drink."
Add a touch of humor, and it turns into:
"Whoa, this bartender either loves me or is trying to kill me. This drink is pure alcohol. Is there an AA meeting nearby? Cuz I'm gonna need it when I'm done with this one."
You feel me?
It's the COMBINATION that makes Cocky Funny work like magic. Too little or too much of either and you will come off as an idiot.
And remember, have fun. Practice is what will help you improve.
(If you're reading this right now, and you KNOW that you need to brush up on your "Cocky Funny", then go get yourself a copy of my "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program. It's the ULTIMATE education on Cocky Funny, and you can only get it here:
Man, life has changed over the last 4 months since grabbing your book and applying CF! My friends are amazed at how many women I am dating and life is great! One of the most important points I have followed from you is breaking down the whole pickup/dating/score routine and approaching each part as a skill I must learn. Got past the email/phone number part, past the first date and first kiss part, and finally the step towards intimacy. But alas, I'm down to the one skill that I have problems with and that I've never seen you really address: The graceful exit skill Let me explainOK, I meet a girl, we go out, maybe we end up in each other's arms, maybe not, but there comes a point when I just want to end it and move on to another girl. I always get nervous with the "Well, it's been fun, but we this isn't going to work out so have a good life" Do I call and leave a voice mail? Do I phone her? Do I break it off face-to-face? What's the confident, CF way to leave a girl and not have PLAYER stamped onto my forehead because of it? Loving life, S.R. P.S. You should pay people for referrals as I have got about 10 of my friends to buy your book! HA HA
You're a very, very, very bad man.
In the best way possible, of course.
I think the key to dating more than one woman, or to not seeing a woman more than once or twice is to NOT ACT LIKE YOU'RE HER BOYFRIEND FROM THE BEGINNING.
Women will only resent you if you mislead them. So don't. It's not necessary.
Just have fun, be straight up, and enjoy
You don't have to break something off if it never was "something" to begin with. Are you with me?
The big mistake is to call twice a day, see her five times a week, act like her long lost love, and then drop her without explanation.
I think you get what I'm saying.
I have been subscribing to the newsletter for about 6 or 8 months and have purchased your ebook a couple after subscribing. Your information has been invaluable and well worth the price. It has completely changed the way I look at women, I never pine over them anymore and wonder "what's wrong with me". Now I know what was wrong with me, I was a wuss! But that's all changed now and have become the Jedi Master. I've even come up with some Jedi Techniques of my own.
At any rate, I met this one girl at a party one night who I knew came with a few acquaintances of mine who I told about the party. I got to talking to her and we talked for a few minutes and poured on the CF, but I never got her info. I know, I know, the 3 minute technique, but I knew I could obtain it from her friends, and the way she interacted with me, I knew she wouldn't have minded at all (Important Note: this is my success story, I wouldn't recommend doing things like this unless you have developed the confidence that your book helps teach). Well, I never had to even asked her friends because two days later, she ended up looking me up in the University's online student directory and then she looked up my IM name and IMed me with a "mysterious person" message. I immediately figured out it was her and then accused her of stalking me and told her that's pretty illegal. She almost thought I was mad at her! It was great! Anyways, she is a real quality girl (not to mention about a 9, not perfect, but gorgeous nonetheless) and we set something up to go play pool at a local bar where I again poured it on thick. Now mind you, I hadn't made any big advances or anything but as she dropped me off back home, she came in to use the bathroom. After she came out, she wrapped her arms around me and let me have a little taste. I said goodnight to her and that was that night. A few nights later, I told her I was going to be cooking and that she should come over which leads me to
One of the best techniques is to invite a girl over for dinner at your place, especially if you know how to cook. I find that many women don't know how to cook or only "cook" stuff like Mac and Cheese and other junk. The best part about this is they get to see your skill, which is pretty attractive to women when you can make a good meal, and you have the most control because it is your own place. The other part, is make sure you don't start making dinner until she is already at your place, she's not getting an entirely free meal! Make her help. If she refuses, use the CF techniques and have her do something. Put her on a task that's not too difficult so she can't mess it up. For example, if you're making lasagna, make her grate cheese or something (making her wash dishes is rather insulting unless you're doing most of them and she wants to help, which she just might). And when you're all done with dinner, take it to the couch and turn on the TV or watch a movie or something. Which brings me to
If you're sitting down next to a girl that you're talking to in a private setting and you get a little of that silence, not the awkward kind, but the kind where you just kind of look at each other. If you're thinking to yourself "should I be kissing her?". The answer is a screaming "YES". This can be preceded by the "kiss Test" as well, but I know a lot of guys will still have insecurities about this kind of thing.Think about it this way. If you don't kiss her, then she'll probably think you're a wuss because you don't have the balls to do something she probably wants you to anyways. After talking with a number of my girl-friends, I've found out that if a guy tries to kiss a girl, unless there is an obvious unattraction, she will most likely go with the kiss. At any rate, in this day and age, she's not going to slap you and walk out the door. It's not like you grabbed her crotch or something.
MC from the Mediterranean asked a question about calling the next day. I just wanted to point out you have already answered this
question in some form and you know what to do! You can generally sense if a girl is sensitive about something like that. If not, send her some sort of message that next day, preferably email, but if you're on the phone, have something you're on the way to or busy with. Call, say "hi" and that you had a great time, don't ask how she's doing or what she thinks about what or if she had a good time, but find some way to use CF to make a light conversation that will keep her wondering and even thinking about you. Don't bring up the sex unless she does so in a favorable manner.
Not so much a getting girls technique, but rather something you need to do alone. In your spare time or even when doing mindless tasks, go over your past failed attempts when you have a clear head about them and think about what happened. You'd be surprised at how easy it is to find the things that went wrong. You'll also be surprised to find out that these are probably mistakes you make all the time! This is the best way to recognize the problem and rectify it so that its not repeated. Your techniques are nearly priceless and have stroked the confidence of guys everywhere. I've even recommended it to friends that have some serious wuss problems. I have yet to see if they've taken it to heart or even subscribed, but I'll help them yet! Things are going great with that girl and I know it wouldn't have happened if it weren't for your book. Its now become second nature, and you get all the credit. Thanks again Dave Your once Jedi Apprentice, now Master, D.M.
Great ideas great.
Nothing else needs to be said
Except that you stole those ideas from me, loser.
I'd just like to say your book helped in my confidence level and my cocky/funny routine. I have always been funny and was always successful at making women laugh. I had the problem of, well, closing the deal. I would strike the conversation, make them laugh, and just joke with em, but could never get their #. And I would never ask at the right times, being shot down was a large part of my night.
After reading your book, I met and talked to this girl online. At this point I didnt care about relationships or anything. I just wanted to have fun. So we talk about 3 days online, and I called her maybe 1 time and asked her to lunch. The whole lunch I am making her laugh and break out a little of the cocky routine. She's laughing and we both having a good time. Later this month it will be 6 months that we've been together and I just recently was told, that she tried everything she knew the first 2 weeks to turn me on. Shes easily a "8-9 and any other man would have given in and been the "proverbial" wussy. Let me tell you cocky/funny/un-clingy = ATTRACTION. It works, it really does! Thanks for the confidence boost. I just have to give you kudos to what you have discovered here. I think you have solved the "8th" wonder of the world: Women and dating.
You da man K.N. Ohio
And you're right: Most attractive women DON'T KNOW WHAT THE HELL TO DO when they meet a guy that is charming, funny, "un-clingy" and in control of himself and the situation.
They get turned on, they think about you all the time, and they generally feel a level of ATTRACTION that they can't control (and don't want to control, because they love it!).
Good job, and I'm glad to hear that you've found a nice girl for yourself. MAKE SURE YOU DON'T TURN INTO A WUSS-BAG and screw it up!
you are really the man! i started reading your material and realized what i wuss i had been with the one girl i dated. before we were dating i was textbook cocky and funny, but after we were dating i became super-wuss man and i became "just a friend". well every girl since then has been absoultely begging for my attention (even girls I meet online that live hundreds of miles away that i practice on). i have two or three girls call everyday but i'm always too "busy" to talk for very long (hey i have to watch my sportscenter) I was on an airplane to NYC when this hott girl sits down in the seat next to me (i was window and she was aisle) i had my laptop out and when she sat down i acted like i didnt notice. well a few minutes later i had to put away my laptop so I pulled out a book and began reading it. she then pulls out makeup (yes makeup) and starts putting it on in the plane. i gave her a funny look and said "didnt you have time to do that at home?" Her: "(laughing) i did have time, but i didnt want to. all i'm doing today is flying." Me: "oh I see(pause) you're lazy." Her: "no i'm not" Me: "sure you are. but then you saw me and decided you want to look good right? Her: (just laughs) Me: "hey, dont worry about it nothing new to me." Her: "(laughs) well i mean" Me: "(interrupting her) it's fine! dont be embarrassed. you're not the first woman to try and pick me up this morning." Her: "(still giggling) how can you be so mean to a complete stranger?"
now i'm stuck i didnt have anything left to say so i just said "i dont know" and (luckily) she continued the conversation and i eventually got her email and number and everything. but if you could tell me something cocky and funny that I could have used to respond to that it would be much appreciated. thanks!
J. from OK
lol you get it all, and you're trying to tell me that you didn't know what to say in this situation?
How about this:
After she said, "How can you be so mean to a complete stranger?" you could have said:
"I'm not being mean at all, I'm just trying to let you know that it hurts my feelings when you treat me like a sex object like a piece of meat to be used for your entertainment can't youjust get to know me for who I am? And then later use all the makeup tricks to seduce me?"
There are all kinds of directions you could go with this you were doing great.
Just make sure you always end by turning it around, playing hard to get, and getting the email/number.
"OK, look. You're nice and everything, but you're moving a little too fast for me. Here here's a pen. Write down your email address and number, and maybe we can talk on the phone later then we'll see."
Or if you want to get together right after you get off the plane, say:
"Hey, I'll tell you what. I see that you only want to use me for my charm but why don't we have a drink tonight so I can find out if there's more to you than just the makeup and cheap lines."
You're doing great.
i don't know if my story fits in with your success story, but here it is for what it's worth. as a 50 year old dutchman, never been married..great.. and having lived in holland, the us, mexico, australia, most parts of asia and now the ast 6 months in china, i can say one thing, i totally agree with your cf concept and also that it is a proven international concept. even though i don't have your e-book i have been practising your cf concept all my life in countries where the chicks have different cultures and don't speak english. funny is'nt, yes, the answer is simple, don't be a WUSSY, girls are the same everywhere it's just the more you do cf the easier it gets! there is not a day or every couple of days that go by without a number to
contact some of these pretty things 18-25 year olds. sometimes i don't even have to ask, they give me their numbers to me, why because i am cf, rude, unpredictable, then smile, then rude again and say hey babe just because you give me your number does not mean we are getting layed tonight, i am too busy anyway, just give me your number and maybe i will call you in the next couple of days when i have time. in china it works slightly differently because of the language barrier, so I use body and sign language, think about that one and tend to pick the babes from the shops or hotels where they work(as it is easier to get them after work for some fun) same cf thing i tell them i'll be back in 2-3 days, very busy etc. then i drop in the nexy day or so for a quick hello and tell them again that i'll be back in 2-3 days, this keeps them curious and hungry. when i get back i pick them up near closing time, so i know I am set for the night. the only drawback! is that as i travel so much is that i stay mainly in hotels and so they are knocking on my door for more, often whilst i am busy with another chick, this creates great cf scenarios and the funny thing is they want me even more after that! so I am having great fun and i still don't know how manage to get some of my work done. so great work,david keep it up! cheers, s.
A 50 year old Dutchman that dates 18-25 year olds all over the world by being naturally Cocky Funny, huh?
Well thanks for your email, I love stories like yours. Stay in touch and share some of your techniques with us!
and if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself, "You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women so I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling I have" then YOU'RE RIGHT!
I think that every man should invest in himself, and learn this skill.
Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want.
Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract women.
What's the difference?
I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.
And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend you learn the things that I learned FIRST.
It's taken me a long time to figure all this stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time, effort, and energy on my part to put it all down on paper and on audio and video so that any guy can learn from the things I've discovered.
I'd like to personally invite you to check out my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn things that it took me YEARS to figure out all from the comfort and privacy of your own home.
If you haven't downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to go and do that now. You can download it and be reading it in a few minutes from right now. It's here:
I'll talk to you again soon.
Suggested free e-books to read:Dating Insider - Getting The First Date
Michael Hall - Getting The Edge In Business
David Deangelo - How To Get A Woman Phone Number And Email Address
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