Name: Asian Playboy (the PUA formerly known as JT47319)
Previous Occupation: Engineer
Current Occupation: Entrepreneur and Pick Up Coach
Time in the Game: 2 and a half+ years active. KJing and school social circles before taking my first bootcamp with Mystery.
DESCRIBE THE MOMENT, WHEN YOU SUDDENLY REALIZED, "I NEED TO WORK OUT THIS PART OF MY LIFE."
I realized I needed this worked out when I moved to Los Angeles after graduating college. Previously, I had been in a serious LTR and basically every other girlfriend had been achieved via school social circles.
Enter an occupation and career path full of old people, few women, divorcees, kids, the works. It wasn't the kind of social environment teeming with women. After struggling with "normal" type social mixers (like singles parties, speed dating, internet, etc), I knew it just wasn't working out. I had decent Inner Game and I KNEW that brought something to the dating table, but women in the "real world" just weren't being magically enlightened.
Frustration grew into curiousity when I read Neil Strauss' article in a Los Angeles newspaper. Back then, bootcamps were inexpensive and because I had my health and wealth portions of my life down, I knew I needed to tackle why normal dating wasn't working for me.
Have you had any mentors within the community/life that have helped you improve your game, and what did they teach you?
Both mentors and a strong support structure. I studied Mystery, RSD, and BadBoy/Shark. I also winged and grew as a PUA with some really great guys who are themselves very successful with regards to pick up. Guys who started off as random PUAs, but grew into my friends and supporters.
From Mystery, I learned the Art of Conversation, social proof and the female mind. From RSD I learned the intricacies of club dynamics, AMOGing, and buying temperature. From BadBoy/Shark, I learned to project and convey sexuality through tonality, action, and body language.
All essential lessons that form different parts of my overall gameplan.
CAN YOU DESCRIBE THE FIRST TIME YOU USED A COUNTER-INTUITIVE ROUTINE THAT YIELDED IT'S PROMISED RESULTS, AND HOW YOU FELT?
I still remember my first ever set I cold approached. First time in my entire life that I went up to complete strangers with the intent to flirt, pick up and seduce. Terrifying to say the least.
Herbal sent me in a 5 set that had 4 hot sorority girls and one stocky, built dude. My stomach was churning, my hands were clammy, and cotton formed in my mouth. Then Herbal says, "Open with who lies more!"
And you know what?
The women opened up and the guy was paying attention. Unfortunately, I was so terrified, I simply got their opinion, said thank you, and ran away as fast as I could with my heart pounding in my chest. THAT was simply mind blowing that I could go in with a canned opener and start a social dynamic with the intent to succeed with women.
COULD YOU DESCRIBE WHAT YOU'RE LIFE WAS LIKE BEFORE YOU WERE AWARE OF THIS, AND/OR WHAT OPTIONS YOU HAVE WITH WOMEN NOW?
Before this, I had predominantly dated white, blond women that I had met via school social circles. They basically had to hit me over the head and then again for good measure. Right before moving to California, I broke up with my serious college girlfriend whom I had moved in with. I simply wasn't ready to settle down and knew it would be unfair to her if I asked her to move with me or "wait" for me.
Currently, I do very little true cold pick up and don't restrict myself to dating Caucasian women (experience the rainbow!). I do cold
pick up anyways for bootcamp on weekends. Now, I hook up via social circles. Both girls I'm seeing are through social circles.
One's bisexual whom I met through a previous hookup. The other is an exotic dancer whom I also met through social circle settings. In fact, I've got my eye on another dancer whom I recently met via a female friend of mine (and whom has girlfriends I previously hooked up with). Pick Up really is no longer a separate pursuit for me.
It's a lifestyle and I enjoy being a social, fun loving guy. Moving to Dallas knowing absolutely no one, I did have to cold approach in
order to establish myself. But for the most part, I never burned bridges when it came to women whether the chemistry wasn't there, I had taken them out, made out with them, or there was absolutely nothing between us. I always tried to maintain social networks.
And it's totally paid off.
WHAT WAS YOUR HARDEST/BIGGEST STICKING POINT?
Conveying sexuality. I think that was the hardest sticking point I had
that reached up to 3 months of hard, persistent work.I overcame it by
experminting hardcore with the direct style of Game.
Whether it was something particular to myself or endemic to other
Asian men, sexuality was the hardest skill for me to acquire and one
that I commonly see in burgeoning PUAs all the time.
Do you have a favorite routine/step in your model, can you describe it, and what it accomplishes?
I try and keep it simple. I call it the ABC's.
A - Approach and Attract (you can have enough attraction within 30 seconds)
B - Buying Temperature (maintaining attraction or plowing if the Approach didn't stick)
C - Comfort and Connect (form an emotional bond with her as well making her PHYSICALLY comfortable)
D - Direct Interest (phase shift dont' be a dancing entertainment monkey make your move, but do it with panache and style)
E - Extract and Escalate (get her out of there and make something happen and ALWAYS have your logistics down)
F - You can figure this one out (and dealing with LMR)
A-B-C, in my opinion, is a totally different beast than D-E-F. You CAN get laid via only D-E-F. You'll also more than likely get buyer's
remorse, but comfort game doesn't get you laid. Sexuality (and logistics) does. A-B-C means you're good at socializing. D-E-F means you're good at SEDUCING. A perhaps subtle, but key difference, in my opinion.
HAVE YOU HAD THE EXPERIENCE YET, WHERE YOU FEEL THAT YOU'VE REACHED A CERTAIN DEGREE OF MASTERY?
I don't know if I'd label myself as a master, yet. Damn good, but master? Eh, we'll see. I "got it" before I moved to Dallas and
"officially" retired my old newbie PUA name of JT47319 and took on Asian Playboy.
I think traveling Europe was a defining moment for because it was 1.5 months of not only hardcore sarging with my best friend, OCWaterboy, but doing so in foreign places where we didn't know the dynamics, language, and so forth. And then for half a month I sarged a couple of Scandinvian countries on my own, the lone PUA in a sea of Scandinavians. Great times!
That was an awesome experience where it no longer felt "hard" doing pick up. Everything just CLICKED, women were more responsive, I was hooking up, and having a great time with my bros. I then lazed about for several months in California before moving to Texas, transferring both the Outer and Inner Game I had finally achieved through consistent, hard work.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO NEWBIES STARTING OUT, IN ORDER TO GREATLY ACCELERATE THEIR LEARNING CURVE?
Have a support structure and have fun. The sad fact is, a lot of new guys (ones not successful with women at all) don't understand that this is a long journey of self-improvement and social mastery. I use the analogy of going to "Pick Up College." It takes time, it takes lessons, and it takes doing your homework/labs (ie field work).
You also need to surround yourself with good people who are also your friends beyond simply hanging out because you do pick up. That doesn't last and is a totally superficial relationship. That won't in the long term because you do need to enjoy flirting, seducing, and women in general. The longer you last, the better you'll get. And the way to sticking in longer is through mutual minded friends and having fun in this.
I also think creating some sort of journal (blogs are the big thing now) and documenting your FRs/LRs/etc are a great tool as well. After all, you don't want to be making the same mistakes six months down the road.
WHAT'S YOUR BELIEF ON INNER GAME, AND HOW DID YOU IMPROVE IT?
I think it's ESSENTIAL.
Now, which one to work on first is like asking, the chicken or the egg? Outer Game and Inner Game are necessary for a successful PUA. Inner feeds Outer which also feeds Inner. You need both and they can be worked on in parallel. Doing field work, but also taking time to center yourself and pursue a successful lifestyle.
DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL FAVORITE FIELD REPORT THAT YOU COULD RELAY?
I don't write too many FRs any more simply because I have been found out here in the Dallas scene as being "APB." Don't think I want to get sued or deal with any of those hassles.
Now, some really old ones that I still remember had my biggest AMOG set (something like 8 guys, 2 girls and #closing my target after
befriending/ignoring the AMOGs) as well as Geoff writing up how I held a 8 (12?) set of girls at Saddle Ranch, moved them around, dominated, cavemanned, etc. Aaaah, good times, when you feel like you accomplished something that I once considered impossible.
WHAT IS YOUR CURRENT STICKING POINT?
How do I get better?
Hmmm. haven't mastered threesome game so that's something I'm going to try and accomplish with the bisexual. I'm pretty comfortable with where I am. I never set out to be a pick up expert, I just wanted to be decently successful with women.
Now I will see where life takes me and what challenges I can overcome.
What are you goals now within the community, and in life?
Continue building up my separate entrepreneurial endeavors, one of which is being a Pick Up Coach.
Suggested free e-books to read:Maurice Alpheus Bigelow - Sex Education A Series Of Lectures
Tranceboy - Fast Seduction 101 Player Guide
Alphahot1 - Alt Seduction Fast Posts
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