Can You Say No

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RTICLES, books and dramas have been written in an attempt to analyze the modern trend of youth, the attitude of parents and the "what is the matter with us?" question. Yet this problematic situation can be summed up in -these few words: "We are forgetting to say NO." This is an age of gratification, of blindly following the impetus of elemental emotions. Youth does not wish to say "no." Parents are forgetting to say "no," or shirking in their duty to say "no." We Catholic parents, who have before us the great examples of men and women who knew how to say "no" to material pleasures, to worldly urge and to themselves, should take time to ponder over the importance of this little word,. which gave to the glory of our Church and edifica tion of humanity, such men as St. Paul, St. Francis, St. Anthony and many others


CAN YOU SAY "NO"? whose greatness stood upon the solid base of the word "no." Had St. Francis failed to say "no" to the worldly influences of his father's house, had he fallen slave to the material instinct in him, one of the greatest inspirational lights of the world would have failed us, and just another "rich man's son" would have passed as a grain of sand down the slim neck of time. Had St. Anthony not denied temptation, he would have been merely another rounder, another human failure. Had St. Paul not turned from his over-yielding mode of living and said "no" to himself, the imposing figure of one of our greatest Saints would have been lost. Even Jesus, in His superior righteousness, was confronted with the necessity of uttering a "no" when Satan tempted Him with visions of the ephemeral glories of the world. All of us are called upon to say "no" to ourselves and to those we love. "No" seems to be a destructive word, but in reality is a creative word since it contradicts that which would destroy our spiritual, moral or physical self. When I look about me and see the youth of today going forth seemingly bent not only on gratification, but on finding new desires to gratify, I look up to those great figures of our Church and wonder: "Has their example been given in vain?"



Do you fathers and mothers fully realize the importance of the word "no"? Or do you say to yourselves and those about you: "Boys will be boysMary can take care of herself-they are young but once-" Please consider that the greatest proof of love you can give to your children is in using the word "no"! Look back into your hearts. Do you not find that this word has saved you from many wrong steps... and that word "yes" has oftentimes led to regrettable situations? If things have worked out that way for you, so will they for your children. Nowadays the younger generation is not prone to do much thinking, and you just naturally have to do the thinking for them. Of course, each of us is likely to believe our sons and daughters are different from modern youth, as we have lately come to regard it. Perhaps a few of them are-many of them in fact-for I do hope that the Catholic atmosphere of our homes has kept the wolf of modern sophistication away from many of our doors. However, parents-even we Catholic parents-must sleep like the proverbial cats, with one eye open, and the catnip ball of "no" right under our noses, lest we be suddenly called upon to offer it to our children and find we have misplaced it. The word is one of the easiest to pronounce, easier in fact than Mama and Papa. Yet it is -5-

CAN YOU SAY "NO"? one of the hardest words to utter, especially to those we love. The over indulgent parent who often says "yes" to his children just as often lifts the barriers of discipline. How many times could a "no" have prevented tragedies and the first step that led down the hUl of self gratification?





How often do we hear our daughter say in a pleading tone in answer to our remonstrations as to scant body attire: "But everybody is wearing this!" or "Nobody is wearing th;:tt!" Who is "everybody"? If we say, "Well, I'm somebody... and I'm not wearing this or not wearing that," the young belligerent shrugs her slim shoulders. and mumbles: "Oh, but you're different!" For the benefit of those parents, and especially mothers, who might have heard this statement from their daughters' lips, let me cite an individual case to illustrate the message I am attempting to place before them. I had a friend. I shall call her Nora. She had a daughter. I shall call her Tilda. The mother was young, but thirty-two, Tilda sixteen. Nora was a rather retiring sort of mother. A pretty kind of woman who "just couldn't say no!" Daughters of women who cannot say "no," generally -6-

CAN YOU SAY "NO"? are flames burning upon the altars of modern youthand Tilda was a flame. Rouge, cigarettes, parties, dancing, bare legs, cocktails, joy rides, loud language-were all part of Tilda's self gratifications. When her mother tried to remonstrate, Tilda would expostulate glibly: "You're different... you do not.understand... times have changed since you were a girl!" One day I went to Nora's house and found her flushed and perspiring, dancing alone to a jazz tune bawling out of her radio. Quite confusedly she told me ' she had been learning new steps so.a s not to be "different" when Tilda entertained her friends at home. From that day on Nora changed. Knee-length ' skirts, cosmetics, bobbed hair, cigarettes. I suddenly became an old woman compared to her. Tilda seemed in the Seventh Heaven. The boys she brought home danced with her mother and declared her "a Queen!" In fact, they lionized Nora far more than Tilda. Months passed. One day, as I went to Nora's house to bring her some silver she had asked me to loan her for a party, I found myself standing on the threshold of the dining 'room looking on as Nora danced, smoked and even drank from a hip flask a young man was offering her. Tilda was standing in a corner, staring at her mother, her face blanching under her rouge. On see- 7 --

CAN YOU SAY "NO"? ing me she ran past me into the kitchen, sank into a chair and began to cry. I put my arms about her and the child clung to me, sobbing out: "Oh, I am so ashamed of Mother! So ashamed!" It was no time for me to say: "Well, Mother is not different now!" Later, I tried to talk to Nora... but she would not listen to me. The poor woman had gone jazz mad, just as Tilda had before her. Nora became cross, ill-humored, and began to explode to me on the least provocation on how unreasonable Tilda was getting to be. I noticed then that Tilda, since her mother's change, was seeing things from another point of view. To Tilda's horror, she saw in her mother what had awakened the first reproach of her mother toward her. Tilda withdrew from what she called "her crowd." That was the Spring that I went on a visit East, and upon my return I learned Nora had left her home, divorced her husband and married a young chap who had soon left her after squandering what money she had. Tilda was living a lonely, retired life with her father in a little apartment in the outskirts of the town. This is but one of the family tragedies that came to my notice. In spite of "what they say," youth wants to look up to its elders. So, mothers, when your child tells you "YOU'RE DIFFERENT," take it as a compliment, for your own child wants you to be different!




The first "no's" are the hardest, for one weak "no" will create the possibilities of thousands of other little "no's." The man who "just can't say no" to his friends who offer him a swallow from their hip flasks, is as the girl who "just can't say no" to the first man who asks her for a kiss. Young folks fear the word "no." They are afraid it will hurt their popularity. But popularity based on the word "yes" is never desirable. Good young men, clean young men, fear the word "no," for at times it brings about cutting remarks, teasing and laughter from "their crowd," until they are led to believe their "no" is a sign of weakness. It is the escutcheon of strength, for that little word stands for strength of character, of convictions, of principles. Let us not be ashamed of this word. Let us not fear to be called "prudes, sissies, unreasonable, narrow-minded" and all that caravan of words which go to mask the real meaning: "He or She is striving to be the decent sort!" What if a girl should lose the company of that certain young man simply because she said "no"? Chances are, if he placed her in the necessity of saying "no" he would not be a worthy companion anyway. In youth we find it very hard when the spirited horse of our emotions tugs at the reins of our reason. But in youth is the time to learn how to 'say -9-

CAN YOU SAY "NO"? "no"... a firm "no"... not a "please don't" which generally means "coax me again." find that a man senses the meaning of "no" with acute accuracy. "You mustn't do that!" said with a tilt of the head and a pucker of lips means, "Please do!" and the young man knows it. The first "no" is what builds the foundation for others. If a girl stands by her first NO she will not be called upon to chant a litany of "no's"... "Please don't's" and "You mustn't do that's," all end with the usual result-yielding, and tend to make the next "no" all the more ineffective. What if Bill should lose prestige with "his crowd" on account of a sharp "no" when a suggestion is made to take a hand in a poker game, to go to a certain road h(juse, or take a "swig" from a hip flask? Even the very young men who tease and jibe at the "lack of nerve" of the chap who says "no" feel, in spite of themselves, a subtle jealous admiration for him. To follow the crowd, to be one of them, is a cheap triumph. Not long ago, 1 was called upon to go bail for a young girl who had been caught in a raid at a certain wayside inn where intoxicating drinks.were served" When 1 asked her how she came to be there, she, the. daughter of a prominent family, sobbed: "I had to go. They were all going-I didn't want them to think 1 was.afraid!" Afraid? She was afraid-TO SAY NO!



Some say that the "wild time" girl will eventually make the best wife for, having had "her fling," she will settle down only too gladly after marriage. This is erroneous. Youth is the foundation of life. When that foundation has been built upon marshy ground, chances are that the structure of matrimony will crumble. The increasingly high percentage of divorces is to some extent due to the slack discipline of youth., the shirking of responsibilities by the parents and the regarding in a superficial light the deep shadows and values of life with its serious problems. For financial gain, books and productions tending to destroy respect for authority are periodically flaunted before the eyes of. youth. In these the mother or father is painted with obvious dark colors, as obstinate and unreasonable, in order to establish the moral that "children know best." To these sugarcoated pills children lend an. attentive and willing ear. But if a scenario or book exemplifies the reverse message, namely: "Parents know what is for the best welfare of their children," or production would be labeled as "inspirational blah" which young folks would not crave to read or see. For here again comes into play our instinct of contrariness which makes young people crave to see and hear that which is less constructive to their moral character. Let a picture be advertised as ~n inspirational or educational production and an audience must be inveigled -11-

by some clever device, or the production will show to an empty house. If, however, the news spreads that the book has been banned, or the picture is objectionable, people will stand in line for hours before the ticket office. This is only a proof of how people react to the instinct or contrariness. Going even deeper into the tragedies of life which a "no" could have prevented, let us take the matter of suicide among young people. I have,s canned statistics and had the misfortune of coming into rather close contact with more than one individual case, and I find that what brought about the consummation of the drastic action was the hectic quandary in which the young victim had been afraid to say "no." The greatest fallacy, which is oftentimes traded from lip to lip after,a case of suicide, is this remark: "What nerve he had!" No, it does not take nerve to commit suicide-it takes cowardice. For all suicides prove in the act of taking their lives, that being afraid of the conditions which face them, they choose taking their lives as the less frightful of the two. In choosing what in the moment seems to them the course of least resistance, they prove themselves cowards, for had they had the courage to face the condition confronting them, they would not have resorted to the revolver, poison, or the river. Again another quandary in which the party could not say a forceful "no" to the cQwardice in him. It takes courage to say "no" even to fear. -12-



If we take into oonsideration the Ten Command-

ments, placed before us, not only for our ultimate spiritual and moral good, but also for our materia~ benefit, we can see that they are ten "no's." They. cannot be classed as affirmative, for they have been placed before us to contradict evil and destructive impulses rather than to second natural leanings. Human nature has an uncanny instinct to bedrawn to contrary moves. That is when our inner self must say "no." Were we drawn to constructive and beneficial tendencies, then "yes" would be the word which should stand paramount before us. Unfortunately this is not the case. From the very bud-ding of our elemental emotions we find that our instincts are to act contrary to constructive ends. We seldom find a child reaching up into the pantry shelves for the milk bottle. but rather for rich pastry. This contrary instinct is puzzling and alarming. Not even a sense of preservation halts the hand 0[, the child as it reaches for bright objects such as: pins, pieces of glass and the like. and place~ them into his mouth; or sends him splattering with his feet in the puddle of water and smear his face with mud. Were it not for this contrary instinct in us and were, we subject only to a reasonable amount of 'ilatural logic and observation of what has gone on before us, -13-

CAN YOU SAY "NO"? we could live sanely and wisely, taking only into consideration what befell Biblical characters thousands of years ago. Knowing that certain actions bring about certain consequences, we would, through a sense of at least self-preservation, automatically abstain from wha't another has proven is not for our ultimate good. In other words, a dozen men having lived, sinned, reaped and recorded their experiences, -would be suffiJCient example.s for us to look back upon. But this is not the case. In spite of the fact that we know certain laws cannot be broken without detriment to 'Our physical and spiritual selves, each life has to live its own experiences. The example of what happened to others seems to matter litHe, and bad examples are more readily followed than good examples. We seem to derive an uncanny satisfaction in proving to ourselves that we too can,s lide down the sandy hill, skid here and there and laugh, as we dive to the bottom, on finding 'Our-, selves yet alive. The crosses along the way matter not, but add to our thrill. If we happen to meet with an accident, we often slide breathlessly down that hill again, thrilling once more in attempting to escape the very dangers to which we fell victims but yesterday. The development of our will power is the most important factor, not only in,the success of our ma- ' terial life, but alslo for our eternal salvation. Will power speaks through us with the word"no," a negative word which makes for a positive balance. -14-

CAN YOU SAY "NO"? "No" is an antidote. An antidote at times can be poison in i,t self. But when taken to counteract another poison, it annuls itself a.s well as the poison. If we were endowed with a natural leaning toward goodness, "yes" would be the word contradicting evil influences. But as things are, "no" becomes the big, important word, springing from our will power-the big, constructive word, the corner stone of right living, of fairness toward ourselves and our fellowman, the solid conductive rungs leading up the ladder to eternal salvation. CAN YOU



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Types Of Women Men Avoid

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When all is said and done, everybody needs somebody sometimes, as Jewel would say. And most, if not all, of us, want to be in a good relationship that makes us feel happy and fulfilled.

Of course, finding that special someone isn't always that easy; if it were, I wouldn't be writing this article, right?

Sometimes, it's all about your personality; at some point, if you're unable to find a man who enjoys your company consistently, then perhaps it's time to take a good look at yourself and face the facts.

If you find your character traits listed under one of these types of women, then you might want to think about making some changes.



This is the woman who manages to find something wrong with any and everything, and is never happy with the way things are. She can't appreciate anything because she's so busy looking for what's wrong all the time.

She is not necessarily a miserable person; she simply makes an art of finding what's wrong with everything. Needless to say, men tire quickly of this type of woman and begin to avoid her at any and all costs.



When will women learn that they should stop judging every man based on what a few have done? It seems that all men are being forced to pay the price for what a few rotten apples have done.

The Man-hater has nothing good to say about her father, brother, uncle, exes, or any other man she has come into contact with over her lifetime and thus opts to come up with creative ways to blast men simply for existing.

Men find it incredibly insulting having to sit through a conversation in which a woman decides that she should give them a rundown of why they are such terrible human beings.



If you've slept with an entire football team before the age of 22, it's probably best not to offer up that information to guys. Even if he says it doesn't bother him at all, no man wants to go down on a girl who's a hot dog stand.

I'm not suggesting you lie, but don't brag about it, either. For many men, it's a matter of self-respect and there's a good chance that if you've gotten down on your knees for 100s of men, you don't have any (self-respect, that is, not knees).

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Dating After Divorce A Big Secret To Success

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Presently, it is not easy to being single. One never planned on being back in this place of starting over from square one. This is not a life that you signed up for but it is the one that you got. So, what needs to do while getting ready for dating after divorce? If you start working on these things then you can save you from heartbreak and lead you to biggest success

It seems quite difficult for lots of people and it also may be hard for you. You just need to feel that you were so lonely while you were in your marriage and finding a relationship that can meet some of your requirements. Or you need to talk with a counselor and spend some time with him. If your marriage might not have worked out the way in which you wanted to, then doesn't mean that you have to stop yourself from learning, growing and getting ready for rest of your life.

One needs to take extreme care of him or herself at this critical time. One can start living in a good way by taking some professional advice. If you can't afford counseling, then simply visit your place of worship. Being divorced is your time to recover yourself, relive your lost dreams again. Build yourself from the inside or meet some other healthy people.

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Successful Online Dating

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"Your Profile Is The Window To Your Soul PART 1"

That's right I said it - MAY SOUND CLECHE' but neverthless it's true. Your profile is the window, and how you write your online dating member profile will determine how much of the curtains or blinds are pulled. You can decide to stay distant and cold, but WHAT'S THE POINT of being a member of a dating site at that point? On the other hand, if you are too direct, and you decide to share your ideals, principles, lessons, cultural impressions, political views, sense of humor, intellect, sarcasm, and and overall view of the entire universe. You will likely make everyone believe you are TOO GOOD FOR ANYONE. There has to be balance, period.

There is no bigger challenge on a dating member site, than staring at your keyboard, while trying to think about HOW TO DESCRIBE YOURSELF to the entire world. You are literally trying to explain why you are worthy of an eyebrow to raise, a smile to form, and emails to be written to you. At the same time, you are attempting to explain what TYPE OF PERSON YOU DESIRE. I'm going to offer some tips on this for you.

Imagine yourself, MEETING SOMEONE for the first time. Make the setting in your mind, somewhere comfortable for you. Now think about what you would say, to HELP THAT NEW PERSON, understand what kind of person you are right now in your life. This is the only way to write your online dating member profile.

Make sure it doesn't sound like a checklist, resume, or business merger proposal. It needs to COME FROM YOUR HEART first and your mind second. Keep the tone "matter-of-fact" but don't get boring and snooty.

You don't want to lose most of your potential dates, while they are reading your profile. It's much like the old DEPARTMENT STORE WINDOW advertisements. If they don't grab attention and make people want to open the door and walk-in. Then, it means they have LOOKED AWAY and plan to walk on down the street, to look in another window.

This will take some work. You will need some editing, it's not going to be easy. However, just remember HUMOR IS THE KEY to standing out. It's an opportunity for you to flirt, sound relaxed, and tell the world where you are coming from.

TO BE CONTINUED - More on this article, later today

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Dating Violence

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To be perfectly honest, a woman has probably decided whether to sleep with you or not from the very first moment that she met you. Guys need to remember that a lot of the things that make them attractive, and which present them as a sexual option for women, are all communicated on a non-verbal level. All of those things which a guy does when he approaches a woman and tries to seduce her just serve to lead her because she can't do it herself. Women need you to be the one who leads things because that takes the responsibility off them. It is much easier and more comfortable for women to have sex if guys take charge and lead the way than if they try to do it themselves.

I've actually had the experience of having sex in broad daylight with a girl who was a virgin just an hour after we started our date. All that it took was for me to make her comfortable, flirt with her, and lead things in a sexual direction. That last step is the one which so many guys never take, but it is a lot less work than what they think.


I think that the most important thing which guys should learn is how to touch women the right way. Learning how to touch women in a smooth way is going to make everything so much easier. The best resource which I can recommend is the Vin DiCarlo "Escalation Ladder" which is available online. This will teach you how to approach, touch, and seduce women as part of a smooth progression without any unnecessary steps. It will give you something that you can practise and apply in the real world.

The other thing that guys don't seem to realize is that women want sex and need sex from a man. So if you can't give her sex, then you are only good for a few other things in her life, like carrying out chores. Do you really want to be that guy in high school who does the homework for all the girls who he likes? You don't want to be that guy. You want to be the guy who she wants to have sex with. But that can never happen unless you get your head right and at least try to take the lead.

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Lr First Threesome Of 2007

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A2damir is a PUA with some mad skillz. Anyone of his LR's is educational reading and a standard to aspire to. Here's an LR of his first 3some of 2007

whats up guys, havent posted here for a while.. i know i owe you guys a LR:HBAss, which i wrote 90% of it but never had the chance to finish it, im very busy this time of the year..happy new years to all..

last year i posted a "LR: first 3some of 2006", well i have a new "LR:First 3some of 2007"... and it happened on January 5th...not a bad start to the year..

for those who dont know me, i suggest you read a couple of my LRs to get familiar with my style...aight,so this i what happened...

it was friday night at the club, i usually wear jeans and a tight t-shirt ( im very jacked, i get so much attention and ECs when i wear t shirt, but this night i was dressed up like a gentleman, black dress pants, peach color dress shirt, and an orange and blue stripe tie with a suade i couldnt use my muscles as an advantage...

oh btw this goes to show it really doesnt matter what you wear ( which i always preach, dont spend alot of time on peacocking, just peacock your body and your all set)...

so about an hour later, i see 2 chicks, one brunette and the other redhead, the redhead was a 7, fuckable, but a lil chubby, the brunette was a 9, nice body, and probably the best pair of titties in the club that night...i did a quick math, 9+7= 16, divided by 2 = 8... i fuck 8s and above, so i decided to game both of them.... i was on the vip section, and the 2 chicks wanted to come up there, but the bouncer had to make sure they had a special stamp to get up there, i told him to let the chicks come up there although they werent VIP...

so the chicks came up there, they knew I had put in a word for them

me: hey you guys gotta behave up here now that i put my neck on the line for you

Brunettewith an accent) thank you, why didn't he let us come up here?

me: ( there were alot of chicks up there) oh nothing this is my harem up here, he didnt know i was adding to it tonight.

Brunette:your what?

me: my harem

Brunette:whats a harem

me: ( she ruined he whole joke) nothing it means its my party up here and you werent on the guestlist

Brunette: is it your birthday?

me: no where are you guys from you have an accent

Brunette: Quebec

me: ( to the redhead) you too?

redhead with a slightly less accent than the brunette) yeah

me: so what bring you down to my neck of the woods?

Brunette:your what?

me: ( aight fuck it, i'll treat them like im running an ESL class from now on... and i knew this was gonna ruin my game, cuz alot of shit i say is witty and these chick had a hard time understanding english) my neighborhood, my city.

Brunette: we want to visit most american cities

me: what language do you speak?

Brunette: french

me: ( to the redhead....i didnt want her to feel ignored) you speak french too

redhead: yes

me: well you guys have fun up here, if you need anything come find me, you cant miss my shirt

( both of them laughing)

Brunette: ( put her hand on my arms to touch the shirt ) i like the color

me: yeah that makes 2 of us in the club

redhead: it looks nice on you

me: thank you, let me introduce you guys to the bouncer just in case you wanna go in and out of the vip section and im not around

Brunette: oh thank you very much

(takeaway # 1... it wasn't as strategic as my others cuz I really had to go see some other friends in the club too, but you can call it a takeaway)

anyway, i introduced them and i went to mingle... i had alot of friends up there and in the club, mostly chicks too, even at one point i the vip section 2 of my friends came on the stage, both of them are just a notch down from HBGodess, but they are deffinately both HB11s or even more, almost everyone was staring at them,

they came one of them screamed and jumped and hugged me in front of everyone, they bought a round of shot for me, then they wanted to go to another club which the door was closed cuz it was packed, but i walked them in the backdoor,,, an no i havet fucked those 2 chicks yet, and probably wont...

they have " a special circumstance" which i wont get into...

btw my fucking eyes are watery and killing me right now cuz im on a plane and writing this, and this dude next to me was bascially reading everything i was writing, i would look at him and he'll steal his eyes off my laptop, so now im writing this with a fontsize 5 or 6, so fucking small i cant see shit..

anyway, i had left the club to take those 2 megahotties to the other club, and then i went back to the vip area... im rushing these part, i probably had spent 25-30 mins with those 2 chicks, talking, one of them had their ass against my body very friendly talking and when i went back on the vip section i saw the 2 initial chicks, honetsly i had totally forgot about them cuz those 2 mega hottites had elevated my blood pressure and testosterone levels...

Brunette: you have a very beautiful girlfriend

me: thank you, i'll let her boyfriend know when she finds one

Brunette: she wasnt your girlfriend?

me: oh you dont know why they threw this party for me up here tonight ? ( BS, it wasnt my party i just made that up)

Brunette:no why?

me: they are celebrating me being single

( both of them laughed)

Brunette: really?

me: sort of

redhead: what do you mean sort of?

me: it means im single but they arent celebrating that, or at least they wont tell me that to my face cuz it would make me feel like a piece of meat

( both of the laughed again)

at that point i saw a very good girlfriend of mine and i excused myself from the 2 Canadian chicks to say hi to her,

and doing yet another takeaway from the Canadians.

10 mins later i leave the vip area and go chill with another bouncer, then someone from behind basically walked through me, bumped me on the side and kept walking, and it was the Brunette... i didnt think much of it at that point, i thought she was drunk, i spilled my drink and the bouncer wanted to kick them out cuz he thought they were drunk, ut i was like fuck it let them have fun... 6-7 mins latr the same thing happened but not as hard as the first time, again it was the brunette..

now i deffinately thought she was drunk..but again i let her get away with it.

i go back up on the vip section and i see her, and as soon as she sees me she comes towards me

Brunette kinda hostile) is this your club?

me: no why?

Brunette: everyone knows you here, are you the manager

me: nope, i just have alot of friends, so you guys having fun?

Brunette: yeah its fun, what time does the club close?

me: in about 20 mins, do you guys have a hotel?

Brunette: yeah we got a room

me: where?

Brunette: on commonwealth avenue ( ray you probably know which ones she's talking about, they arent hotels, kind of like 4 story building with different units on each floor)

me: are you guys gonna go to an after party?


me: why not? are you guys that boring?

Brunette: no we have to get up at 7 tomorrow and drive back to quebec.

me: so, that doesnt mean you cant party tonight

Brunette: then we cant get up early

me: i'll wake you guys up myself how is that

Brunette: we'll see

me: ( those titties were still top titties a the club that night) thats fine we can just party at your place so you can just sleep there

Brunette:what party?

me: nothing big, i'll get some alcohol and come over and have a couple drinks and chill

Brunette: are you coming alone?

me: i can bring this whole club if you want to

Brunette: my friend wants a guy too ( she fucked up, at that point i knew i was getting laid, she gave it, they were probably talking about me and as TOkyoPUA once said, they "Splitted the dick between themselves"... so i knew they were seducded... ok now there is this black bouncer, tall dude, i kept telling him about the chicks i fuck and every hot girls he saw at the club i had claimed to him that i had fucked her,

so now it was time to back my shit up for him, not that i had to prove anything, i was looking for a wing, so what the hell... oh i think in my LR: My Masterpiece, i say the N word and some dickhead started all this shit about me being racist and how it was inappropriate to use that word and blah blah blah... well you see homie, i fuck chicks with black dudes, i roll with black dudes too so get your head out of your ass and stop looking for an excuse to play the race card,,, specially on this board)

me: how about this bouncer here? he's the one that let you guys come up here

Brunette: ( said something to her friend in french)

Brunette: yeah ok ask him if he wants to come

so i asked him, and he was cool with it... i'll skip through the rest of the night ( I spent the rest of the night with them, gaming them more and maintaining their interest level), after the club was over, i asked them if they wanted a ride, but she said their apt was close by and they'll just walk, i got their phone number, their address ( which # on comm ave). their room #, and she even gave me the passcode to buzz myself in to the main entrance...

so i waited for my wing to get out of work, he was with his boy, so we go to teh front of the apt, my friend double parks and his boy just sits in the car and waits, and i parked on the st. i called her, she told me she had just got their and was walking up the steps and she'll come down and open the door for us..

anyway we go up...the redhead was horny, she went to the bathroom and i basically pushed my friend in their with her and they shut the door, i went and grabbed the Brunette from behind and she said " go sit on the bed i have things to do... she was getting most of her shit ready for the next morning, it took her 3-4 mins to get them straightened out, then she started changing into her PJs...

man she took her top off and damn, she had the nicest pair of NATURAL titties... no i take that back, second best pair of natural titties that i had ever seen in my life, i only saw it from the side..., then she wanted to take her jeans off, she told me to look away

.. that pissed me off... its aight though, she wanted to play hardball she changed, and she came stood in front of me, i was sitting on the side of the bed... she called her friend, they came out, and then the bitch said " ok nothing is gonna happen tonight we have to sleep because we have to wake up early tomorrow"..

oh no no no... i didnt give up all those other lays for nothing...

me: what happened to partying?

Brunette: sorry to decieve you, but nothing is gonna happen. ( decieve? interesting choice of word)

( remember what i said about not having the muscle advantage because of my dress shirt, i loosened my tie and told her i dont wanna wrinkle my shirt and took it off... she paused for a good 5-6 seconds just looking at me... )

Brunette:you have huge arms

me: yeah i know ( cuz now i was pissed), so you guys wanna start the party?

Brunette: no i already said we have to get up early tomorrow ( she still not buying in)

me: yeah yeah that decieve thingy you talked about... ( with my shirt off i walked up to her, she was sitting on the side of the bed and i was standing, i put my hands on both side of her face, held her face and gave her a kiss on lips and said

me: have a good night sweetie and drive safe tomorrow, i'll call you at 7 and wake u guys up tomorrow ( and with my head i signaled to my friend lets get out of here... )

Brunette:no you dont have to go

me: i have alot of fetishes but watching a chick sleep isnt one of them

Brunette laughed, maybe a fake laugh I dunno) you guys can sleep over if you want, we can all fit ( they had 2 queen beds which were against eachother, so i winked at my wing meaning WERE IN BUSINESS and started seperating the 2 beds per their request) they also had another sliding /folding bed...

so anyways, it was a lil awkward, nothing like this specifically had happened to me, but one thing was for sure... i will never be alone with a chick, be in the same bed with her, and have my shirt off, and not fuck the chick, so i knew i was laying her, it was just a matter of strategy...

so she's laying on the bed, with her back against me, my dick is against her perfect ass and im getting a hard on, and i put my arm on her shoulder, she grabs my arms, brings it under her arms and put it on her chest and she is holding my hand too... try visualizing that... oh btw my eyes are really killing me now.. i see the guy next to me try to look at it but he cant see shit....fuck i cant see shit I guess his eyes must hurt worse than mine...

so i kiss her on the neck and whisper in her ear

me: your in a bad mood, you should loosen up

Brunette:no im not in a bad mood

me: yeah you are, you seem to have alot of stress, let me give you a back massage

Brunette: i have to sleep

me: i know, you can sleep while i give you the massage, you'll wake up feeling great

this is where a lot of guys fuck up, and end up not banging a 100% lay... you see whats going on here? Im the guy that had a pussy buffet at the club, and I chose her, now she wants to hold back on sex thinking I'll be begging her to have sex with her, but instead im laying down there next to her, I haven't touched her ass or titties or anything ( she put my hand close to her tits not me), and im offering to give her a massage so she would wake up feeling better... not even once do I mention sex to her...

( and i started rubbing her back and body,I massaged her for a couple of mins, but fuck her she didnt deserve a massage)

me: turn around i wanna see your face

Brunette: ( she did without hesitation)

me: ( just looked at her and kissed her, and then we started making out)... (again, I haven't SAID anything, she's just following her heart..sounds romantic eh?)

i'll rush some parts now, my boy and the redhead went to the bathroom and i think they had sex, cuz my boy was done in like 5 mins, and i was still making out but we were both naked and she was rubbing all over me...

so my boy wants to leave now, and the brunette says he cant leave and he has to stay ( they didnt wanna feel like sluts, fuck em and leave em sort of thing... u think the same Ray?), so i told them my boy had double parked and he's gonna go move his car and come back and i winked at my boy meaning he doesnt have to come back..

he leaves, and the brunette was smart, she says if he (my boy) doesnt come back i cant have sex with her cuz i'll probably do the same thing( fuck her and leave her), and i was like " ok if he doesnt come back in 5 mins i'll leave".. i knew she didnt wanna me to leave..the damage was done, poor girl couldnt do anything now but put up some last minute resistance sruggles...

at first i was gonna show her some more power, wait the 5 mins and then tell her " hey my friend didnt show up so im gonna leave", and i knew she wouldve wanted me to stay which gave me the upper hand again but i was like fuck it, i started making out with her again, a good 7-8 mins went by she didnt mention anything, although the redhead couldnt shut up, she kept talking, she went and turned the radio on, she seemed impatient,

this meant one of the 2 things im my opinion...( ray add more if you think of anything else)

1) she was horny and wanted to fuck me too, but she either wasnt that open with her friend, or maybe they had a pact and they had already "splitted the dick" as ray once said..

2) she was jealous, her hotter friend got the better guy, and now the redhead wanted to cockblock me and pussyblock ( yeah im coining this phrase) her friend...

only one solution to both those problems, join her in on the action..

me whispered in the brunette's ears) are you bisexual?

Brunette: we have kissed before but we wont do it for you

me: dont flatter yourself i didnt ask, your such a fag

Brunette: (laughed and bit my ear... ladies and gents, this is a HUGE IOI, that meant she just needed me to push her some more)

me:have you done more than kissing?

Brunette: why do you ask?

me: just wondering ( i think she got mad cuz)

Brunettewith a lil hostility) if you want her go get her ( but from the tone of her voice i think she meant that if you get her, you'll loose me)

me: i want you i thought i made that clear already ( and immediately french kissed her again( irony cuz they spoke french).. i kissed her to play with her emotions a lil)

Brunette: ( after we were done kissing, she paused for like 10 secs )i know you want her ( see...she brought it up again, did she want me to have her join us?Ray?)

me: no i want you, she is just an added bonus

Brunette: every guy wants 2 girls

me: im not every guy, 2 girls are boring for me now, do you have any other friends in this area?

Brunette laughed) boring?

me: yeah it gets boring after a while

oddly enough the friend had shut up for 3-4 mins now, so now i HAD to keep her awake just in case i talk her friend into a 3 some... anyway i wont bore you guys, i had to multi task like an intel core duo processor, keeping the redhead awake while not letting her cockblock me and at the same time showing 100% interest in the brunette chick and meanwhile try to show her that i want a 3some too... not easy brothas, not easy

at first i as unsuccessfull, so i was like fuck it, honey enough chit chatting now blow me ( i didnt say that to her in those words),

so she starts giving me head, after 4-5 mins she comes up, i tell her i want somemore, she said her mouth got tired ( btw she gave the worst head that i can remember getting... and this report is giving me the worse eye pain even), so i told her

me: maybe you should ask your friend to help you, sharing is caring

Brunette bursted out laughing)

so now the redhead wanted to know what she was laughing at, and the brunette told her

me: well...

brunette: well what

me: do you wanna share or not

Brunette: we havent done this before

me: its fun if you dont like it you can stop...

thats about it.... they both started giving me head and we fucked...

i'll discuss my exit strategy too since i havent posted here for a while i owe you guys...

ok so by the end of the night, chii chiing, jackpot i think she was in love, she did so many romantic things to me that only my previous girlsfriends had done, like romantic hugs and kisses and smooching, licking my toung and face and ears blah blah blah,

so she told me she wanted me to hold her tight from behind and sleep with her, so by now it was around 5:35 in the morning,... remember that she had to get up at 7 am right? i tried different strategies, first i told her that after the great night of sex i couldnt sleep for a couple of hours, i told her that so she might let me leave since i wont be sleeping, but she said " suprise me and wake me up in an hour and start making love to me"...damn god must've loved me tonight cuz that gave me the perfect exit route,

i told her that i dont have any more condoms and i have some more in my car ( oh at one point i had to go grab some extra condoms from my car), so i told her i have to go get some condoms from mycar which was bullshit, i had 3 more in my pocket, but i told her i have to go get some more, so once i leave i will not come back... so i slept next to her for 10-15 mins, it did feel good, she looked so cute all ucddled up and sleeping, so once her breath level reached a steady pace i figured she's asleep, i packed my shit and left....

she left 3 messages in the morning around 7:30, she sent me text messages... but it was all over, i wish i couldve left her on better terms

some thing that she said later on:

she did say she kept bumping into me on purpose to get my attention

she didnt like me talking to all the chicks, but she said at the end of the night i was in bed with her so she didnt care

my boy gave me mad respect the next day, he said that takeaway that i did was classic and got him and me a lay...

aight the pilot just said we gotta put away all electronics, so im gonna end this.. comments, criticisms all welcomed... i'll check back if you guys have any questions..

btw, this was probably one of the 6-7 lays that the chick never called me an asshole or cocky or something like that...

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Simple Dating Mistakes That Even Smart Women Make

Simple Dating Mistakes That Even Smart Women Make Cover
Have you just entered a new relationship or are simply trying to avoiding repeating prior mistakes? Here's our guide on being the smartest dater you can be.

* DONT BE TOO AVAILABLE. This does not mean to lead your partner on, it means simply to live your life for yourself. Indulge your passions and allow a little selfishness. Rather than constantly leave your friends to see him, tell him you're enjoying a girl's night out. It's no fun if there's absolutely no chase involved. When there is nothing to work for, it is a much less satisfying relationship so make him work a little bit and smile at the little guilty pleasure you can derive in seeing how bright his eyes light up when he does get to see you.
* SEEKING PERFECTION. We are not perfect. Humans are not perfect. Everybody has their own idiosyncrasies which determine who they are. There are some qualities we feel we must have but are they actually necessary? Movie-star looks would be nice to have, but there are so many more important qualities such as honesty and genuineness. He may be a mess when it comes to cleaning up, but don't let that stop you from loving him!
* FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF. When you're single and you see all your girlfriends in relationships, don't fall into the trap of jealousy. Don't fault your single status, embrace it. Date yourself. Consider joining ballroom dancing or visiting a sight or place you always wanted to see. Let love come to you and let it be spontaneous. Sitting at home wondering when Prince Charming is going to come is never going to happen because you have to be out there for him to find you!
* SEX TOO SOON. It is your operative whether or not to have sexual relations with a sexy stranger you just met. However, it can often be the wrong move if you are looking for a more long term love-interest. Men will often value you less when they feel they have already achieved the pearl of your love. When there is no work involved, men will become complacent and start to disregard you as always available. By not rushing into bed, it allows both of you too gage whether or not you should take things further and how quickly. Do not fool yourself into thinking he will be forever smitten; instead, take your time and enjoy the process.
* BELIEVING IN THE ONE. We have all heard the adage of finding and experiencing true love. But the world is vast and chances for love infinite. Don't let your ideas of what should be dictate your relationships. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has regrets they wish they didn't do. Let your love be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Rather than search for a perfect match, let yourself be open to shaping imperfection to a perfection that suits you.

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Women Cheat More Lie Better

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It's about time that someone actually figured out that, yes, women do cheat more often than men and are 100 times better at lying about it.

While men always had a reputation for being the cheaters, nowadays, it only makes sense that women are the ones doing all the cheating.

According to DR. DAVID HOLMES, psdychologist at Manchester Metropolitan University, women are cheating like crazy, even though it seems that men are still winning at the game. Almost 20% of men cheat and bit over 15% of women cheat.

The big difference lies in the behavior: women can carry on an affair and live their normal lives without anyone knowing, whereas men always do something stupid like use their credit cards for hotel stays and get caught in a flash.

That's why I think that even the figures are skewed; women lie about affairs all the time so why would they ever admit they're having one to a survey?

In the days when it was almost considered normal for men to have a mistress, men worked, women stayed home and secretaries were the woman of choice for affairs. But now, many married women are working and they are surrounded by men - men who would be more than willing to have sex with them.

And let's face it; when it comes to extra-marital sex, more often than not, women have a host of options whereas men tend to have "Monica Lewinsky".

So it's only fitting that the numbers are changing and women are the ones who have been humping around.

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Tips On How To Find Love Online

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Online dating has provided single men and women to be involved in a relationship and find love online. This method of dating has revolutionized how single people portray themselves in an online community. There are many benefits of using this method and countless people have already found their perfect match through a dating website. THE USE OF A DATING SITE TO FIND LOVE ONLINE The first step to participate in the online dating world is to look for the right dating site. You've probably heard of or These websites are popular for a reason. Many people rely on them to find love online. Numerous single men and women use these websites to choose their partner. Today, there are other dating websites in every region and every country. Some are fake and don't help at all while some are useful enough to find that special someone. There are also other websites built that focuses on specific groups of people. They categorize single people according to religion, race, interests, hobbies, and profession. For example, you can search for a match on if you're Jewish. POST A PICTURE Step two involves you posting a good photo. Physical appearance is the first thing that anyone will notice so make sure you pick a photo that makes you very attractive. Before looking at your profile or your interests, single people will first notice your photo. Be careful that you post the picture that best represents you. Other people will post an outdated picture of themselves hoping to look younger than they seem. Their online partner will eventually know what they really look like so there is no use pretending. WRITE A CATCHY INTRODUCTION In looking for love online, it's important to write a credible and creative introduction of yourself. It is an avenue to show who you are as a person so don't be afraid to more boastful than usual. However, don't overdo it and sound too perfect. The introduction should portray the real you and not somebody fake. Also, make sure that what you write is creative and original. Other people don't want to read something generic so make the effort to change things up a bit. For instance, don't just say that you love sports. Be more specific and state what kinds of sports do you like and who your favorite athletes are. Just be yourself and write something nice about yourself. SAY WHAT YOU LIKE In your personal webpage, you'll also be given the chance to what kind of person you are looking for. This is your chance to hope that someone will go to your page, view your photo, read your profile, hook up, and eventually find love online. It's important that you specify what you like and you don't like. This will help other people have an easier time selecting a match online. You wouldn't want to be preoccupied by single people you're not interested in, so make the effort to show others what you are really looking for in a relationship. Since this is the Internet, you'll hopefully find someone that matches your interests, hobbies, and passions. The Internet is a very good way to find a relationship and look for love online. Because it's a powerful tool, you have to be careful how to use it. If you're looking for a serious relationship, then create your page in a serious manner. The world is filled with many single and lonely people. Don't be one of them by looking for love online.

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Blind Date Tips On How To Know A Total Stranger

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Blind date and love at first sight is not the same thing. Many people do get confused between these two terms. Blind date is an organized procedure where two unknown people meet at the predefined place. We have seen many successful relationships and marriages that are result of such dating technique. Are you planning to adopt this technique in future? If yes, then please consider various points as well. It is mandatory for a person to wear the correct attitude whenever he/she leaves home for blind date. Since you are meeting the person first time, then you can expect some extra consciousness, stress and mistakes.

The basic difference between blind date and regular date is the finding the date process. Usually, your friends, colleagues and cousins can help you to better to enjoy blind date. Many people find difficulties to find a date especially when they do not have good friend circle. People who have good presence of mind, sense of humor and right attitude can win the blind date easily. Please make sure that you make minimum mistakes and do not talk much about yourself. Let your partner to speak so you can know him/her better.

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