BADBOY, of Badboy Lifestyles is who I had the privilege of interviewing.
BADBOY OF BADBOY LIFESTYLES
I'm 27 years old and live in Croatia.
I've never had major problems with relationships with women, even I though I was "too nice" most of the time. In high school and in college, I had lots of relationships, but usually these came from my social circle or from school. I was not able to go to bars and clubs and pull women by approaching people who I didn't know. I didn't have a game plan or understand what was going on out there.
That's where I wanted to improve, and in last 5 years I tired everything, and eventually developed my own method, that has proven to work best for the type of beautiful women that most men seek. I had so much success with this that I started writing about this online, and then people started visiting me in Croatia to learn more. That's when I got the idea of teaching structured workshops, writing books, and making DVDs and CDs. I figured if people were going to try to do what I do, they may as well learn it properly. So now I split my time between doing that and some of the computer work.
CAN YOU DESCRIBE THE FIRST TIME YOU USED A COUNTER-INTUITIVE ROUTINE THAT YIELDED ITS PROMISED RESULTS?
Being a "jerk".
We are all thought to respect people and to be nice to them, and that doing so means that they will like or love you. It's a bit
counter-intuitive, and we explore this in more detail in my book, but the more of a jerk you are, the more you appear to disrespect beautiful women, the more they will like you.
Sometimes you feel very bad for doing it, but its crazy how well it works.
HAVE YOU HAD ANY MENTORS (PERHAPS WELL-KNOWN PICKUP ARTISTS) WITHIN THE COMMUNITY/LIFE THAT HAVE HELPED YOU IMPROVE YOUR GAME, AND WHAT DID THEY TEACH YOU?
Unfortunately, I never had any good teachers; I learned from observing my own successes and failures. This is one of the reasons why I was inspired to start teaching others, so they wouldn't have to go through the long process that I did. Of course, now that I have reached the level that I am at, I've met some other guys who are really good with women and we share ideas all the time. Cortez is, with me, our top instructor and we learn from each other a lot.
DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE ROUTINE/STEP IN YOUR MODEL, CAN YOU DESCRIBE IT, AND WHAT IT ACCOMPLISHES?
One of my favourite things to do is to make deep eye contact with the woman I'm talking to, smile, grab her arm, and lead her to a dark corner of the club for a make-out session. It's the principle of being very alpha and dominant and leading the interaction, without using force of course. Most women love it. This is the way I usually isolate and start getting physical.
HAVE YOU HAD THE EXPERIENCE YET, WHERE YOU FEEL THAT YOU'VE REACHED CERTAIN DEGREE OF MASTERY? CAN YOU EXPLAIN THE TIME, AND HOW YOU GOT IT?
I don't think my learning is over. In this game, learning in endless. Anyone who says that they have achieved mastery and does not have a lot left to learn is deluding themselves or doesn't know how good it is possible to be. There are so many areas where one can improve and develop. Even have my years in the game, I still learn something new every day, or something I didn't see or realize before. That's why I love the game.
You should be dedicated to learning from every mistake you make. And trust me, you will make millions of them in the beginning.
IS THERE ANY ADVICE YOU WOULD GIVE TO NEWBIES STARTING OUT, IN ORDER TO GREATLY ACCELERATE THEIR LEARNING CURVE?
I have lots to say about this. In fact, the third CD of my CD set is focused around actual "missions" that people should go through to develop that skillset. But for right now, I think the #1 thing you can do is develop your emotional intelligence. Don't just talk with women you are attracted to; talk with everyone around you. Once you develop this kind of intuition, you will be much faster and more accurate at predicting how the woman you want feels, and how she will feel in a variety of different situations. This will help you avoid bad moves, since you will get an intuitive sense that the pickup is going in the wrong direction. In the end, Its all about her emotions. So start paying attention!
WHAT'S YOUR BELIEF ON INNER GAME, AND HOW DID YOU IMPROVE IT?
I believe that inner game is absolutely crucial. You can have all the skills on the planet, but if you don't believe in yourself and in those tools, they won't help you. If you just start believing in yourself, even through something simple like "They all want me" then you will start saying and doing things from that mindset. Everything starts from inner game.
The interesting thing about this is that the world around you is to a large extent just a reflection of what you think about yourself. If you think you are a loser, so will many women you meet. If you think you are a sex machine, they will too.
So be careful what do you think about yourself
DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL FAVORITE FIELD REPORT THAT YOU COULD RELAY?
There are too many to list here. Most of my own experiences I talk about in our carpe diem forum, which is just for advanced guys who have taken our workshop and some of them make it into our newsletter. You can sign up for the newsletter on the home page of our website. I also hope to post more field reports in our blog http://www.badboyseduction.blogspot.com/.
Honestly, I much prefer to read our students' field reports than my own. Everyone knows what I can do. I'm more interested in what I can teach others to do. That's why I really like reading Carpe Diem, so I can learn what my old students have been able to do on their own, after the workshop. Sometimes the changes and results are breathtaking. You can see some of this stuff in the public forums too, like some recent reviews of my workshops. That's why I teach.
Suggested free e-books to read:
In10se - Audio InterviewAlphahot1 - Alt Seduction Fast Posts
Derek Rake - Deadly Seduction Manuscript
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