Hmm, let me explain. We all have a notion of who we are - this is called our "identity". Our behaviors are tied to this identity. So if you've been told that you're a "nice guy" your whole life, and that's what you believe about yourself, then you'll probably be, well, nice. You'll do nice things for people, go out of your way to help people, and you'll probably be very considerate of others. Nothing wrong with any of that. But if being a nice guy prevents you from doing things that, in your conception of a "nice guy", aren't very nice, then you might have a hard time doing some of the stuff that women find insanely attractive and you will find it hard to get women. It just doesn't "feel right."
This isn't to harp on nice guys. A kid who grows up on the streets and is told that he's a "thug" his whole life is probably going to have to make some adjustments if he manages to escape the hood and join, say, the business community. His identity is going to drive a set of behaviors that are defensive, walled-off... all the stuff he needed to survive in the streets. Another example is the kid who grows up in an upper-middle class household, gets everything handed to him on a silver plate, and never learns to hustle.
He skates through college, then gets out into the real world and lands a sales job. If he still holds onto the notion that he's above hustling - a prerequisite for any good sales guy - he's going to find his ass out of that job mighty fast. Point being, when we have a conception of who we are, one that's been reinforced for anywhere from fifteen to fifty years, it can be tough to break out of the mold. Sometimes it's easier to adopt a new identity, or alter-ego, altogether. Since The Game and The Pickup Artist came out, many men have decided that being a pickup artist is preferable to being whatever else they may currently be.
Often, this is accompanied by the addition of outlandish clothing, silly hats, and certain behaviors and values that somehow permeated the "pickup community". Many of these are counter-productive, childish, and don't reflect the reality of the real pickup artists and how they get women, the hustlers and lady killers who have no need for an alternate identity because they're already slaying it out there. As I've stated before, I have no idea where you're coming into this book from.
Your sense of self could be incredibly strong, or incredibly fragile. What I'd encourage you to think about is this: there are going to be some things that you have to do or say which may be beyond your comfort zone. If you ever find that little voice in your head saying "I'd never say that" or "I'd never do that," you now know where it's coming from (your identity) and you have to ask yourself if the "I" in that situation is really looking out for your best interests.
But I want you to understand that the cult of the pickup artist is one that has been created, and reinforced, by insecure guys who weren't getting women when they decided that they wanted to be called PUAs and hope that now they will get women. But don't get too hung up on a name. We're here because we want to teach you how to get women, and whether you become a pickup artist in the truest sense of the word... or a lady killer... or a social man... the goals are the same, trying to attract women. Call it what you like.
Find out more about how to attract women today.
Suggested free e-books to read:Decibel - The Pickup Artists Field Guide Mastering The Art Of Pickup
Tyler Durden - Complete Articles Collection.pdf
Juggler - How To Be A Pickup Artist A Practical Guide
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