Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here’s how.
Greeting Cards- Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O. Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not have to be an artist to make something homemade and special for the new friend in your life. Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your date that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a click.
Photos - As a wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc. Then you’ll even have more to discuss during online dates via emails and chat rooms. Search for “photo albums” to find places that store your photos.
Very few online daters have mastered this skill. I took the easy way out for decades (just kidding—I haven’t been online dating for decades….it only feels that way sometimes), responding to his request at the end of the night for future dates with an overly-friendly and ultimately misleading, “Yeah, email me, we should definitely hang out again!” This served as an immediate means to avoid the uncomfortable “I’m just not that into you” conversation, but it also deceived a perfectly nice person into thinking I was interested, and likely left him wondering why I neglected to respond to future voicemail and email messages.
Additionally, I found myself unprepared for the karmic retribution that awaited me. While I live in a fairly big city, I found myself bumping into these former dates all around town; in restaurants, coffee shops, the gym, and even other singles events. I’d be subjected to narrowed unfriendly eyes, behind which probably lay the thought, “There’s that girl who acted interested and then never returned my calls.”
So get online and get active! No need to risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge!
I finally conquered my fear of the uncomfortable conversation a few months back, when I decided to boldly go where no online dater has gone before and give good old-fashioned honesty a shot. While I assured him I’d had a wonderful time and thoroughly enjoyed spending the evening with such an engaging person (okay, 90% honesty, 10% little white lie), I also acknowledged I wasn’t attracted to him romantically and didn’t want to waste his time or mine. And true to karma, I’ve since run into him twice, and am happy to report that due to finally having given the situation the delicate consideration it deserved, our exchanges have been pleasant and minimally awkward.
So today’s online dating tip is to dare to be real with your date, even if your message may disappoint. Good luck!
Suggested ebooks:Michael Webb - Dating Exercises
David Deangelo - Double Your Dating Bridges
Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets
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