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Bothering Girls By Herbal

Hey guys,

Today's newsletter is a day late because yesterday I was on the plane to Japan all day and I forgot to copy the e-mail I was going to answer so that I could write it on the plane. Sorry about that.

I just spent a week in Hollywood with Style, and I got to see old friends like Mystery, The One, Formhandle, TokyoPUA. I also met the new Stylelife coaches, and they were all cool guys.

Fun times makes me wonder whether I should have stayed in LA.

I'm already a day late, so let's cut today's patter and get to the question:

Hey Tynan,

I have a bad belief. I know it's bad and I'm trying to figure out a way to get rid of it, but in order to do that I have to come up with a new one.

My belief is that since I enjoy being alone that if I walk up to a girl that's alone in a coffee shop, I'm going to be interrupting her alone time and since I don't like being interrupted when I'm alone, she won't like it either.

Does it make sense. Did you ever have this belief? How did you change it?

Thanks.

-AB

Hey AB,

Good question. You're right - it IS a bad belief for two reasons.

1. It will hinder your progress.

2. It isn't accurate.

First, imagine for a second that you're at a coffee shop working. You're working on something very important. A gorgeous girl walks up to you and playfully flirts with you.

How do you feel about that? Are you pissed off that she's bothering you, or are you excited to take a little break from your work?

I like being alone too. Some day soon I'm going to simulate solitary confinement for a couple days because they claim it will make you go insane after just a few days. I think it will be fun.

But still, if an attractive girl interrupts me to talk to me, I'm happy about it.

And why do you think she's at that coffee shop anyway? It's because she's HOPING that someone will interrupt her. Every girl fantasizes about randomly meeting Mr. Right. Now, if your approach is bad she'll SAY that she wants to be left alone, but that's about YOU, not HER.

Which leads me to my main point - you're (subconciously, at least) not really concerned about her. You're insecure about how she'll react to YOU.

So, my advice is twofold:

1. Learn to be attractive. I'm obviously biased, but I think my course is the best way to do it. I just finished a new version for 2008 that covers everything you'll need to know. The 30 day Pickup Lab that's part of it will get you over this issue (and many other issues) within 30 days. AB, I'm going to send you a free copy to get you started.

2. Get out there and DO IT. Approach 40 girls in coffee shops and see how they react. My guess is that it will be better than you think.

It's about 2pm here in Tokyo and I haven't eaten today. They have no street names and Google maps is in Japanese, so it's super hard to actually get to the places that we find on the internet. Wish me luck!

TYNAN

P.S. Send me your question (keep it short so that I don't have to edit it down) to weekly@makeherchaseyou.com. If I use your question next week I'll send you a free copy of my course, Make Her Chase You. The new updated version has more advice, more field reports, and covers way more material than the old version.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Tony Horton - Nutrition Guide Daily Journal
Dr Peter Davies - Big Picture Of Health

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Dating Tips For Men Its Not All About Looks

Today, we will share some important dating tips for men.

CATCH THE LINES - When a girl says a sentence it can contains the various meanings. It is important to understand what a woman wants from you. "You Are so Important for me" this sentence can be understood by many ways. However, a girl can use the same sentence for a friend and lover. So, be smart to understand the feelings of girls.

ADD SPICE IN RELATIONSHIP - Most of the boys take their girl-friends for granted. As a result, girls start looking at other available options. Yes, you may find it strange but it is 100% true. Nobody likes to spend life with bore person. Can you spend you life with a girl who doesn't know how to talk?

FEAR OF REJECTION - Generally, men don't take risk or propose girls due to fear of rejection. How can you forget the old proverb "No Risk No Gain". Don't forget, one NO doesn't mean the end of the world. One girl can not ruin your life. Keep trying and checkout your luck.

ATTRACT HER AND GET HER ATTENTION - Here, attention doesn't mean the extraordinary work. Your nice behaviour and soft talks are enough to attract any lady.

Hope, these dating tips for men would help lot of people around the world.

Suggested free e-books to read:

David Deangelo - What Women Hate Most About Single Guys
Helen Ferry - Caring For Someone With Aids
C Kellogg - Dating Tips For Men Special Report

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Blind Dating How To Prepare For The Worst

Blind dating can sometimes be awful. This is why you need to know how to prepare for the worst. You will find that while you may have good luck on a blind date you are just as likely to have bad luck. You need to make sure that you know what to do whenever you end up with a dud for a blind date.

UNATTRACTIVE

If they are unattractive, then don't let this be a total deal breaker. While a physical attraction is necessary whenever you are dating a person you should still give them a chance. You may eventually find yourself falling for their personality to a point where you find them adorable. Don't allow an unattractive date to immediately make you dislike them.

BORING

It can be really easy for a blind date to get really boring really fast. There are a few things that you can do to try to fix this. If they don't seem to have anything to say, then take charge of the conversation. Talk about yourself to get the ball rolling. From there start asking them questions that they can't answer with just yes or no. If they only have boring things to say, then attempt to change the subject.

WEIRD

Face it some blind dates are just weird. They may have a nervous tick or they may talk too loud or too soft. If a person is just plain weird, then try to have fun with it and at least keep yourself entertained until it is time to say goodnight.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Allan Pease - Body Language How To Read Others Thoughts By Their Gestures
Elena Petrova - Dating Advice For The Newly Single
David Deangelo - Double Your Dating How To Change Yourself

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Man Falls In Love With Pillow

It's your typical storybook love affair, only in this case, the woman is made of synthetic fabric and doesn't really exist.

NISAN, 37, is a balding man who still lives with his parents (Co-stanza). He had a real girlfriend who dumped him about 6 months ago (I wonder whatever for) and he has since taken to dating a pillowcase that has a 10- or 12-year old on it.

It all started when NISAN (not his real name, by the way) was taken to a comic-book convention in Tokyo. That is where he discovered DA CAPO, a video game that is essentially about a schoolyard romance.

His pillow love, NEMU, is the younger sister of the main character. NISAN says it was love at first sight. Nemu had no comment. Nowadays, you can find NISAN and NEMU hanging out together at karaoke bars, restaurants, and even going on road trips together.

But the question remains: Will it last, or will NISAN spend so much time smothering NEMU that she decides she wants to hang out on a king-sized bed instead?

Suggested free e-books to read:

Scott Peck - Dating And Falling In Love
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Men Prefer To Marry Brunettes

While blondes reputedly have more fun, that's probably because none of them are getting married, they're just getting used for sex by men.

A survey of over 1,500 men by Philips Sensual Massagers reveals that many men find that dark-haired women are sexier, better kissers and are more affectionate than blondes.

* 61% OF MEN WOULD PREFER TO MARRY A BRUNETTE
* 60% THINK THAT BRUNETTES ARE THE MOST TRUSTWORTHY AND LOYAL WOMEN
* 63% OF MEN THINK THAT BRUNETTES ARE THE BEST CHOICE IF ONE WANTS TO ENGAGE IN A DEEP, MEANINGFUL CONVERSATION
* MEN WOULD PREFER TO HAVE SEX WITH BLONDES (NO STAT GIVEN)

Here's my question: Considering that most blondes are bottle blondes, does that sort of nullify this whole survey? Or are guys simply going on the current color women are sporting?

I guess men still tend to believe that blondes have more fun and are more carefree than their "good head on their shoulders" brunette counterparts, huh?

And isn't it a little bizarre that men think that brunettes are more passionate but would prefer to bed blondes? Hmm, I'm smelling threesome all up in this survey...

Suggested free e-books to read:

Chris Jackson - The Perfect Love Match Free Guide
Ross Quigley - Beautiful Women Prefer Nerds
Sean Nalewanyj - 7 Simple Steps To A Better Body

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Online Dating Can Be Tough

In my experience, the kind of guy who spends his entire day online chatting with women is not the type of guy I will generally go for. To me, chatting with strangers all day is not a particularly attractive habit, and from a purely practical perspective, the guy who keeps chatting you up when you’re online never seems to be the guy who’s interested in pinning down an actual time to meet in person.

But most importantly, chatting online with somebody you’ve never met is simply no substitute for a genuine connection. No matter how enjoyable the online chat. I’ve had some fantastic online chats with my aunt, my cousin, and my best female friend—but I don’t want to date them. (My best female friend is on the market, though, so comment here for a chance to win a date with her—or at least an online chat.)

Here’s a little secret that those of the female persuasion keep from us guys: Women, even very beautiful women, like to be approached by a confident and interesting man. Are you surprised? It’s true...and confident and interesting are much more important than looks to ladies of all ages, too. That’s true for internet dating, as well as, dating in your brick and mortar world but we’re talking about internet dating here...so back to the subject at hand.

Once you have joined an online dating service, you will find that there a lot more men than women and that the men are much more likely to browse profiles and make initial contacts than women. Yes, it’s a woman’s world...still. It’s “traditional” for men to make the first move. It always has been and it always will be. Some things never change. That’s why your profile and picture are so important.

Remember...confident and interesting....and that does not translate to cocky and self-centered. It’s important that your profile lets people know that you have friends you care about and that you are passionately interested in a variety of things...not JUST sports. Another thing about that all-important profile....please don’t start it with, “I’m the guy your mama warned you about”.

You will have just shot yourself in the foot with that line. Another one to never use is, “I could be the man of your dreams”. The lady HOPES you are but she will be the judge of that...so don’t insult her intelligence. Remember....exude confidence and interesting and you will find that lady you have been looking for...or she will find you.

Won’t it be nice to have the ladies contacting you instead of you having to do everything? If you write a great profile that stands out in the crowd, that will happen.

During my first month of online dating, I used the instant messaging feature. I didn’t gain anything but a few pounds since the chats were cutting into my gym time, and I didn’t lose anything but time that would have been better spent at the gym. Unless online chatting is your end goal on your dating site of choice, turn off the instant messaging feature and fast forward toward a face-to-face connection!

Suggested free e-books to read:

Joseph Matthews - Meeting Dating And Seducing Women
Carlos Xuma - The Dating Black Book
Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets

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Getting Her To Ask For Your Number

When you're out and working to pick up women, it's always fun when the girl asks for YOUR number.

It's a fun turn of the screw... as men, it's within our gender role to ask for the number, and for as long as I've been at this, I'd say that I'm the one taking the number 80% of the time. In the long run it doesn't make a difference - you still have to follow up well - but pulling it off means you're making great progress in your game and you can attract women..

So let's start by asking ourselves - what would make a woman *want* to take your number? How do you attract women?

a.) she's so enamored with your life and your world that she wants to be a part of it

b.) she feels such a strong connection to you that she couldn't imagine it not continuing

c.) she's feeling incredible chemistry with you and wants to feel it again

Any of the same could be said for "solid" numbers that you take from women. So how do you set it up such that she's the one who asks you?

One key principal - doing a LOT with a LITTLE.

The dynamic of the interaction needs to be such that she's doing most of the work. You are going to be leading it with some -bait- and some -questions- but you will do very little talking about your own life. There is something of an "ad hoc" formula to this:

1.) you start by "baiting". you casually mention something about your life that really connects with whatever she just said, in a very "high value" sort of way. It can't just be bragging - it genuinely has to demonstrate that you know what she's talking about.

2.) she asks you about the bait.

3) you screen her on it.

4.) you screen her again.

5.) you screen her a third time

6.) you keep screening until it makes sense to stop

7.) you reluctantly qualify her, and finally answer her question

8.) future project, or include her in your life in some way

Let me give you an example, from the first time I consciously saw this happening. It came about when I was talking about myself. Later on, I'll show you how to use this in your own life.

You might know that I DJ from time to time in Manhattan. I've done some private parties, and a few cool venues, but I've never been in rotation at a huge club. So while being a DJ is generally an asset when it comes to talking to girls, my particular experience isn't noteworthy. It's more of a hobby..

I also don't like to bs girls, so rather than give full answers, I'd rather be evasive and turn the conversation back on her. Here's how it played out:

I was talking with a girl about parties.

Me: "yeah, I dj'ed the last party we threw. It was a great time, tons of people, went really late..." You notice that the only thing about *me* in there is the bait - that I DJ. Everything else is just factual stuff.

Her: "Wait, you DJ?, Where do you play?" This is her taking the bait

Me: "Yeah I do. What kind of music do you like to dance to?" Notice that I intentionally avoided her second question, and rather than self-indulgently telling her everything about myself (which I couldn't do anyway in this case!), I turned it around and asked a screening question.

Her: "Oh uh... I don't know, I like everything."

Me: "Heh, everyone says that. What's your favorite song to dance to right now?"

Her: "Oh ummmm.... [song name]."

Me: "Yeah, I love that one. People always go nuts to it. Ok so you're into hip hop... have you heard [song name]?""

Her: "Yeah, I love that one too!"

Me: "Haaaa, nice. What does it take to get you to dance on a couch at a club?" At this point, I am taking the conversation from topical (song preferences) to personal (stuff about her personality). Your screens should go in this direction.

Her: "Ohh you know some good music, some fun people and a few shots!"

Me: "That's it? (tease). How often do you go out?"

Her: "Oh maybe one or two nights a week."

Me: "Cool, so enough to make your promoters happy. So what are your favorite spots?"

Her: "Ummm, well last few times I went out I was at Pink Elephant and 1Oak."

Me: "No kidding.... man I had no idea you were so cool. I'd love to have you join some of our parties" (this is the qualification - finally)

Her: "Haha thanks! So wait where do you play?"

Me: "Oh I do a lot of private parties... I've done a few other spots... I was doing Empire Hotel for a bit. Fun time, have you been?"

Her: "Yeah, I've been there! Wait, so are you a full-time DJ?"

Me: "No, it's just a hobby, I have a real job too. Wait, what do you do for work?"

Her: "I'm a... [her job]."

Do you see the trajectory here?

It's screen after screen after screen on my part. I demonstrated some value and authority in the very beginning. And my questions continued to do so.

In fact, she has to really work to get any information out of me, while volunteering a lot of her own.

But she *wants* to volunteer it because the right questions are being asked. I'm demonstrating a real interest in her, and showing no need to validate myself to her.

And critically, I'm not doing any "me too" answers. Any time I relate to her, it shows that I empathize with and understand her and her world, but because I haven't explicitly stated anything about my personal experiences and preferences, they remain something of a mystery. The -only- times I talk about myself are at the beginning and the end.

And at the end, when she asks if I'm full time, I mention that I have another job, then immediately turn it around on her.

Yet another thing I had to learn to do accidentally - you can't just come out and tell people that you run a company that is the real-life version of Hitch - it's all they want to talk about.

So right now you might be thinking, "well this is well and good, but I'm not a DJ and I don't run a company like The Social Man, so how can I do this?"

Well, here's another time it happened. This time we were talking about cheeseburgers. She had mentioned that she absolutely loves burgers.

Me: "Yeah, New York has some of the best burger joints in the world. I think I've been to them all." _(bait)_

Her: "So what's your favorite?"

Me: "Ummm, there are two that really tie for me, I can never decide. Shake Shack is one of them, have you been?" _(more bait)_

Her: "Oh my God, yes. It's so good."

Me: "So what burger you order when you go there?"

Her: "It's always the same... double cheeseburger"

Me: "Can't do anything else. Fries, shake?"

Her: "It depends... you know, I've got to watch my girlish figure."

Me: "Yeah I was gonna say _(eying her up and down),_ doesn't look like you eat burgers all the time. How often do you work out?" _(screen)_

Her: "Ha, like four or five times a week."

Me: "Nice - morning or evening?"

Her: "Usually after work. I just can't do it in the mornings."

Me: "Yeah, plus when you do it after work you can work off the burger you had for lunch and you feel so much better about yourself."

Her: "I know, wait... so you said there was another spot you like?"

Me: "Yeah, Soho Park. Have you been there?"

Her: "No... where is it?"

Me: "What? How can you call yourself a burger lover and not have eaten there?" _(screen)_

Her: "I don't know! I feel like I'm committing a sin!"

Me: "You almost are. But you definitely know your burgers. You should go down there sometime so you can absolve yourself." _(qualification)_

Her: "Well you'd have to tell me, or show me, where it is."

Me: "Well you'd have to get in touch with me for that to happen."_(smiling, of course)_.

This one isn't -quite- as linear as the last one. A new subject appeared: exercising. But notice how she brought it back to the original thread? There was some suspense and intrigue... not quite as much as with the dj'ing... but enough to bring it back. And it didn't take much for her to volunteer herself for a date.

So what, again, is the formula?

1.) Volunteer a small amount of information about yourself.

2.) Don't answer her questions directly. Screen and screen and screen.

3.) Eventually, qualify her

4.) Subtly suggest a way to bring her into your life

In the former example, I told her she'd fit in at our parties.

In the latter example, I tee'd it up, and she took the swing.

Now, how to go from this to getting her to ask for your number?

Simple - do this same "pattern" two to three times in a conversation. That is, connect on something important to her, show genuine interest and comprehension of her world with the questions you ask, and don't talk about yourself too much. You will pick up women with aplomb if you're doing this.

When she indicates that she wants to be a part of your world - which she probably will if you've been fun and have intrigued her enough - you just flirtatiously suggest that she should make it happen. You have to attract women.

Of course, when she takes your number, I suggest that you have her call you. And unless she's completely throwing herself at you, establish the protocol for who will follow up with who.

"So tell ya what - text me tomorrow and we'll set up a time to go down there."

"Ok, so if I don't hear from you by tomorrow I'm gonna call you and we'll set something up."

This whole sequence - this style of conversation - is something you should be working on anyway. I always get into trouble when I talk too much. There is some fun, flirtatious stuff you can throw in along the way, but the foundation here is solid - and that's what's going to work no matter who you're talking to.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Dating Insider - Getting The First Date
Brian Caniglia - Getting The Most From Online Dating

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Teenage Dating Tips Now Enjoy Your Love

Teenage dating tips is something that can help you in searching the consequences of dating when you are a teen and wants to make dating an voyage without any repulsive circumstances. Although several teenagers have considered that they know everything about dating. Given here are some of the good teenage dating tips.

1. The first and foremost thing is how you present yourself. The date is the only thing where you can get the best opportunity to make a good impression. Dress up nicely and be well prepared.

2. Tips for Girls: Don't rebel your parents if they ask you to be at home at certain time. You want to negotiate, you can but after few dates. And, if your date has presented a good impression then you will be in the position to negotiate with them on the pose of trust.

3. Tips for Men's: Be gentle, and always go to the door for picking up your date. Greet with respect with her parents and familiarize them when you will leave her home.

4. Remember to converse on your first date. Whether it is related to any topic or any kind of activity, interact with each other, as it is quite better than just sitting and watching a movie and looking to each other without any conversation.

5. Physically intimate cam unavoidably lead to some or the other complications. If the relationship ends, the hurt feelings will feel much deeper that you may regret about whatever you have done.

6. Usually, girls, don't dress up for their date. But you should look attractive and comfortable too. Dressing up too much can give the wrong impression. Remember, your personality is only the most attractive quality and not your body.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Quinn Hicks - 20 Tips For Finding And Dating The Man Of Your Dreams
Shawn Nelson - The Dating Resource Report
C Kellogg - Top Dating Tips For Weary Singles

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Bothering Girls By Herbal

-AB

So, my advice is twofold:

TYNAN

Dating Tips For Men Its Not All About Looks

Blind Dating How To Prepare For The Worst

Man Falls In Love With Pillow

Men Prefer To Marry Brunettes

Online Dating Can Be Tough

Getting Her To Ask For Your Number

Teenage Dating Tips Now Enjoy Your Love

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