| Pick-up Library

2011 Pua New Years Resolutions

Every year I make a list of goals I want to accomplish by the end of the year. I had a great 2010 so I thought I'd make a list targeting some PUA related goals. This list is going up on my wall where I can it every day. This isn't some list I'm going to forget about in 2 months. I'm going to drill this list into my head until every single one is achieved. I'm not going to settle for an ordinary lifestyle and you shouldn't either. So here's what I'm aiming to do in 2011.

* Pack on some muscle - I'm not overweight but I'm lacking in the muscle department. I've already started the P90X program and planning to hit the gym more often.
* Improve my day game - I've missed some great opportunities to meet women outside of the bars/clubs. Approaching a woman without a drink in my hand is intimidating but it's something I desperately need to improve.
* Stop using canned openers - Canned openers are great for beginners but I've been doing this for more than a year now. It's time to take off the training wheels.

So here's to the best year of our lives. Happy new year everyone. Now go get some!

Let me know what your 2011 PUA goals are in the comment section.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Cucan Pemo - You Can Save Your Relationship And Marriage
Tyler Durden - Puppy Dog Routines
Laurie Weiss - 24 Tips For Having A Great Relationship

Keywords: i love you pick up lines crazy pick up lines pickup artist tips understand body language sms pick up lines david deangelo pdf free dating advice chat pick up lines tumblr

Posted by
loki

Are There Free Senior Dating Sites The Truth

There are many free dating sites for seniors. While most dating sites allow users to sign up for free and then ask they pay a fee to connect with someone, there are a select few that allow you to sign up and mingle for free. Most of these sites are geared towards those under 40, but they do exist for seniors as well. Within the general dating sites, you may find

seniors looking for friends or dates, but it is not the norm as most are intimidated by the younger crowd. If you are looking to make friends with other seniors, it is best to find a senior dating site catering to people in your age group.

Free senior dating sites, remember that some are more like social networking sites than dating specific sites. This means seniors are looking for friends in their area who share a similar interest and want to hang out and see if there are any sparks. Many seniors are not comfortable getting to know someone online since it can be a new medium of communication for some. There's nothing wrong with meeting people online and becoming friends in real life, but it's crucial seniors protect themselves and stay safe when making new friends.

The best free senior dating sites offer anonymity that protect you and your privacy while you're getting to know someone. This means there's no sharing of your first or last name and you keep things light and strictly within the confines of the dating site. The best free senior dating sites will have several applications that allow users to interact with each other before taking things off the site. Remember to keep your own safety in mind when getting to know someone online. It is important to watch for inconsistencies in their story and ensure you're safe if you decide to meet this person in real life. Never assume that because someone has signed up for a senior dating site, they are who you think they are. A phone call is a good way of getting to know someone before meeting them in real life. You should also notify a family member or friend of your plans.

Many of the free senior dating sites allow you to delete your profile whenever you'd like. This means if you run into trouble at a site or wish to take your profile down for whatever reason, it can be done immediately, on your own. This is great for seniors who want to get their feet wet, but feel violated if the profile stays up while they are not looking to make new friends or get a date. This privacy makes seniors more comfortable trying free senior dating sites because there's no serious commitment if the site isn't a good fit.

Some free senior dating sites offer forums and chat rooms. This means you can get to know a person in a group setting. For seniors who aren't accustomed to online interaction, this is like a mixer, where everyone chats in one area about a topic. It is a good way to see if there is anyone out there who catches your attention with their wit or humor. Often connections made on forums or in chat rooms are wise to purse through direct or instant messaging. You know the two of you already have much to talk about and it will be easy for the conversation to flow once you take the conversation off the forum or chat room.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Shawn Nelson - The Dating Resource Report
Slade Shaw - The 3 Destructive But Common Dating Mistakes Men Make

Keywords: dating women reading body language exercises relationship advise pick up lines hilarious need relationship advice computer science pick up lines alpha male studio

Posted by
loki

How To Make Blind Date Unforgettable

Blind date is becoming quiet popular day by day and it is a no longer a taboo for society. However, it is important to keep few points in mind before leaving your home for blind date.

PLACE - Either you are boy or girl makes sure that you spend the complete blind date at public place. The reason behind the public place is security. You don't know the nature and personality of other person.

DURATION - Blind date should be short and simple. As far as duration is concerned, make sure that you should not spend more than 1-2 hours. It is a safe bet because if you like your partner then you can extend the time and in case you don't like him/her then you can leave the place easily.

CLOTHES - Yes, it is true that you should look good and attractive on your date. But don't forget the comfort. Many people make this mistake when they prefer look more than the comfort.

ACTIVITIES - As it is your first date with unknown person, it is important be confident, cool and calm. You are not required to do any special activity to impress him/her. Your way of talking, smile, nature, personality etc. are more than enough to impress.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Anthony Berger - How To Drink For Free
Rob J - How To Get Woman Laid In A Day Or Less

Keywords: online dating in usa pick up artist neil strauss love dating pick up lines for ladies dating how to online dating review online dating photos flirting body language men public speaking tools

Posted by
loki

Positive Psychology Beautiful Ukulele Music

I love beautiful ukulele music - or beautiful things of any sort, for that matter.

When I took Martin Seligman's character strengths assessment, my top strength (both times - I took both the current and the new "beta" version) was:

APPRECIATION OF BEAUTY AND EXCELLENCE You notice and appreciate beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in all domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to science to everyday experience.

One of the top recommendations of positive psychology practitioners regarding the character strengths survey is to take your results and focus on your top strengths. This is the best way for any of us to charge our batteries and make us feel we're living fulfilled lives. So I look to TED for inspiration on a regular basis.

Here's the beautiful ukulele music, in all its TED glory. Enjoy!

Suggested free e-books to read:

Peter Latourette - How To Meet Beautiful Women
Havelock Ellis - Studies In The Psychology Of Sex
Tranceboy - The Psychology Of Social Engineering

Keywords: tacky pick up lines smooth pick up lines for girls executive online dating thanksgiving pick up lines james borg body language dating advice chat rooms jewish online dating

Posted by
loki

Settling Down

I thought I would make some history in my first official DCB post: I will write about relationships. Who ever thought they would see a post about *that* around here?

I used to love playing the game. I loved the anticipation of adventure each night out brought. I enjoyed the personal challenge of risking my ego on each approach. I found satisfaction in gaining the interest of attractive women who had been strangers to me just minutes before. And then there are those moments of triumph when everything fell into place and neither one of you wanted the night to end. Man, me and my wings thought this was the life and those guys in the dating world were chumps for buying dinners and presents for their girlfriends who would then spend "girls nights out" in Adams Morgan grinding (and sometimes plenty more) with player dudes on the dance floor.

But funny how time changes things. After what seemed an endless blur of nights out, I started to grow increasingly frustrated with the costs of the game. Mindless conversations with drunk girls who can't focus on anything for more than 30 seconds. Smoky bars that seem like certain lung cancer incubators. Feeling like I wanted to sleep on the floor of my office due to too many nights out past 2:00 AM per week. And the bane of every player's existence: the flakes. There were times when I got a phone number from a girl who seemed so interested when she gave it to me that I wanted to notch my belt in advance, only to have her never return my phone call.

Right in the midst of my growing frustration, it happened: I met a girl I really liked. No, not my current girl, but the girl who made everything that happened with my current girlfriend possible. She was fun, shared many of my interests, and treated me very well. Though I kept on going out to bars and clubs for part of the time we dated (she and I had "an understanding" about our lives apart from each other), pretty soon, the drunk girls in bars seemed far less tolerable. Why should I be out in these smoky bars until 2:00 or 3:00 AM talking to girls who I didn't have any feeling for or any real possibility of forming a connection with? Why wouldn't I rather being spending my time with a sweet girl who would treat me well and assure me a good time?

After a year it didn't work out with that particular girl, but I had changed. I wanted a serious girlfriend now. I wanted someone who could make me happy on every level. When I met my current girl and everything between us was perfect in every way, the game didn't stand a chance. I had found a super smart girl who has her act together, never plays games, and treats me like a king (and she is damn cute too). I stopped going out to bars, committed myself to perfect exclusivity, and never regretted the decision. The symbolic end of my personal player era came one night at club with my girlfriend. We were ordering drinks and I saw two guys approaching two girls just as I and my wings might have in the past. I pointed it out to her and perhaps I seemed wistful, because she asked "Do you miss it?" I thought for a moment and said truthfully, "No, this is better."

I have heard some say that guys settle down with the first girl they date once they become ready for marriage. I am not so sure that is true, at least not always. I think some guys grow up assuming they will marry the first great girl they meet and never play the game. Other guys have to go through this 'playing the field' process until they grow fed up with it. In my case, it was a combination of becoming ready emotionally after playing the field and, through luck and good karma, meeting someone who was ideal for me. If I had not met someone as great as my girlfriend, who knows, I might still be out there searching for that special one.

If you girls out there are searching for Mr. Right, don't give up on a guy who has a player past, even a recent one. Check first to see how he feels about the game and give him a chance to see you as a better alternative. Giving that type of guy a chance might be the best move you ever made.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Geoffrey Miller - The Mating Mind
Bobby Bodenhamer - Goal Setting
Dr Dennis Neder - Getting Women

Keywords: relationship advice for men what is body language love online dating digital body language free chat online dating speed seduction find online dating online jewish dating nurse communication skills

Posted by
loki

Another Miracle

A woman takes her 16-year-old daughter to the doctor. The doctor says, "Okay, Mrs. Jones, what's the problem?"

The mother says, "It's my daughter Darla. She keeps getting these cravings, she's putting on weight, and is sick most mornings."

The doctor gives Darla a good examination, then turns to the mother and says, "Well, I don't know how to tell you this, but your Darla is pregnant- about 4 months, would be my guess."

The mother says, "Pregnant?! She can't be, she has never ever been left alone with a man! Have you, Darla?"

Darla says, "No mother! I've never even kissed a man!"

The doctor walked over to the window and just stares out of it. About five minutes pass and finally the mother says, "Is there something wrong out there doctor?"

The doctor replies, "No, not really, it's just that the last time anything like this happened, a star appeared in the east and three wise men came over the hill. I'll be damned if I'm going to miss it this time!"

Suggested free e-books to read:

Honore De Balzac - Another Study Of Woman
Masterclass - Light Her Fire

Keywords: funniest pick up lines mexican body language cute funny pick up lines watch pickup artist women dating older men dr joy browne single women dating nlp ebooks does he like me body language gangster pick up lines romantic kissing pics public speaking ebook

Posted by
loki

Love Top Beautiful Love Sayings

LOVE SAYINGS

Love without return is like a question without an answer

When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.

- Elizabeth Bowen

Love is not a matter of counting the years

But making the years count.

- Michelle St. Amand

A heart that loves is always young.

- A Greek Proverb

Just because someone doesn't love you

in the way you want them to,

doesn't mean that they don't love you

with all they've got.

- Anonymous

In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.

- Janos Arany

You can give without loving,

But you cannot love without giving.

- Amy Carmichael

True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.

- Honore de Balzac

All love that has not friendship for its base,

is like a mansion built upon the sand.

- Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.

- Samuel Lover

The most precious possession that ever comes

To a man in this world

Is a woman's heart.

- Josiah G. Holland

You love simply because you cannot help it.

- Kim Anderson

True love always makes a man better, no matter what woman inspires it.

- Alexandre Dumas Pere

Arguments out of a pretty mouth are unanswerable.

- Joseph Addison

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech

when words become superfluous.

- Ingrid Bergman

Love, and do what you like.

- Agostino

Suggested free e-books to read:

Wayne Ross - Secrets To Attracting Beautiful Women
Peter Latourette - How To Meet Beautiful Women

Keywords: body language attraction how to get the girl of your dreams local online dating famous pick up lines dating for married mario pick up lines country pick up lines improve communication skills workplace hot online dating

Posted by
loki

Are You The Weekend Bar Stalker Lurker

ARE YOU THE LURKER? Are you that guy who goes out to a bar on Friday and Saturday nights, takes a position somewhere in the bar (maybe standing at the bar or standing at the corner of the bar), and you basically lurk all evening long?

You stand there and spend your entire night just lurking. You don't really talk to anybody. You never look like you are having much fun.

Maybe a woman will come into the area where you're standing every so often. You will start a conversation with her that lasts for about fifteen seconds. You smile while you're having that conversation, but yet she leaves. Every time this happens you wonder, "Why is she leaving?"

SHE LEAVES BECAUSE YOU ARE THE LURKER! You are the guy who is lurking around, not looking confident, and not looking like you are having fun.

"Does that describe you? Are you that person? Are you that lurker? "

If you are, then you need to really start working on yourself. HERE'S WHY and here's exactly how you come off to women when you are a lurker.

When you go out to a bar and lurk, the longer you do it the more it repels people. Women notice guys who are standing there doing absolutely nothing but looking around and lurking.

The lurker is usually the guy who is always looking around. He never really looks at his friends. He may technically be talking to his friends, but his eyes are always wandering and looking elsewhere. His head looks a little like Linda Blair in The Exorcist -- it's always spinning around wondering where the women are.

It's almost as if he is thinking, "Where is the girl? Where is the girl? Where am I going to find her?" The problem is that when you are the lurker, there is no way in the world you are going to have the guts to go and talk to her -- even if you do find her.

You have to start figuring out who you are when you go out at night. One of the best exercises you can do is to go out to the bar and identify yourself through observing other people.

"Are you the lurker? Are you 'entrance man?' Whom in the bar are you like? "

When you find that person you are like, take some time and watch 'yourself.' See how you act. See how you come off to people. See how people respond to you.

If you are not successful in a bar, then you probably are a lurker. So go ahead and watch 'yourself' as the lurker -- watch a fellow lurker so you understand why you are not having much success.

Connecting with women is very simple. Make an observation, react, talk about the observation further. Speak with clarity, conviction and confidence. It is no different in a bar than anywhere else.

I don't write about bars that often, but in reality they are a blast. They are a blast when you understand the dynamics of human communication. If you are a lurker, though, you don't get it yet.

"So look in the mirror." If you are a lurker, admit it and go seek medical help. Okay, you probably don't need medical help -- but you do need to seek my help! GET MORE OF MY ADVICE AT MY BLOG, OR MY WEBSITE. DON'T WAIT AROUND WISHING. DO IT!

Suggested free e-books to read:

William Robinson - Woman Her Sex And Love Life
Joseph Matthews - Break Out Of The Friends Zone