FIRST OF ALL, I'D LIKE YOU TO BE HONEST FOR A MOMENT ABOUT THIS TOPIC.
Do you ever feel FEAR when it comes to women and dating?
Have you ever seen a woman that you'd really like to meet, but you started to feel fear and didn't do anything about it?
Or maybe you were on a date and you wanted to kiss a woman but you felt too afraid because you didn't want to make a mistake and screw up your chances?
Or maybe you even got a woman's phone number, but you were too afraid to call back because you didn't know how to start off the conversation or ask her out?
Have you ever been sitting there with the phone in your hand, dialing a woman's number, but you had to hang up because you were just too nervous to even talk to her?
Or out on a date with a woman, and you wanted to kiss her, but you got so nervous at the thought that you just decided it would be better to forget the whole idea and hope for the best?
ME TOO. MANY TIMES, IN FACT.
By the way, it's not exactly FUN to admit that you're afraid of things.
I'm sure you know that most guys would rather admit in public that they were unsure about their sexual orientation than that they were afraid of women.
Of course, this unwillingness to admit that you have a problem IN THE FIRST PLACE only makes matters worse
If you don't admit that you have the problem, then it's hard to get help and answers to it.
Well, the good news is that you're not alone.
Almost every guy I've known (including myself) has dealt with this issue MANY TIMES with women.
So, STEP 1 is to GET OVER IT. Get over your need to deny that you're afraid. Just admit that you're afraid, and come to grips with the fact that you're human
STEP 2 is to admit that you'd like to get this particular area of your life handled.
STEP 3 is to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Once you realize that it's not that big of a deal, then the improvement can start. On the other hand, if you just stay in denial about it, you'll probably just look for new tricks and techniques to use on women which, of course, won't lead to any REAL improvement.
I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:
PUTTING TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE ON WHAT THE WOMAN THINKS OF YOU AND WHAT HAPPENS IN THAT PARTICULAR SITUATION.
To put it in different words, most guys don't take action because they're afraid that they'll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.
The REAL problem though is that this whole process has become AUTOMATIC, and it happens INSTANTLY the moment most guys see a woman that they'd like to meet. Before they even have a chance to think about the situation rationally, they've become nervous, insecure, and upset.
I'm sure you know EXACTLY what I'm talking about.
As humans, we have these incredible minds and bodies, but sometimes they get wired up in ways that aren't exactly useful for the situations that we find ourselves in. Worse, sometimes our cultures, families, or peer groups teach us ways of thinking that just aren't useful at all for what we'd like to accomplish.
Here's something that I realized a few years ago when I was learning for myself how to be successful with women
I thought about this idea that I was having this instant, automatic fear in different situations with women, and that what I was really thinking was "I don't want to screw this up" and "I don't want her to think that I'm a dork"
And all of a sudden something dawned on me:
IT DOESN'T MATTER.
It doesn't matter what happens, and it doesn't matter what she thinks of me.
I realized that the fears I was experiencing were more from PROGRAMMING than from reality.
So, I started to remind myself as often as possible that the fear wasn't happening because there was any kind of danger and that my objective in a particular situation wasn't to have it turn out perfect, IT WAS TO LEARN.
Think about the difference between doing something because it's important vs. doing something in order to LEARN.
So, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet instead of thinking, "OK, I have to say something charming and original so she'll like me and if I screw up I'm going to be embarrassed" - I began to think things like, "I'm going to learn how to get a woman's phone number within a few minutes of meeting her and part of learning this is going to be trying a lot of different things that probably aren't going to work but in the end, it's all going to even out because I'm going to have the SKILL that I want."
See the difference?
Well, let me tell you, that change in attitude made a HUGE impact on my success. I was willing to do and try things that I never would have tried in the past for fear of screwing up
All because I had the attitude of "I'm going to learn something from this and improve my skills and it doesn't matter what happens in THIS PARTICULAR situation", I was able to improve very rapidly.
And the more I began to apply this idea, the more success I had in ALL areas with women from the first meeting, to getting them to go out with me, to taking things to a physical level.
So do this:
Go out RIGHT NOW and start a conversation with a woman.
I don't care if she's attractive or not.
But instead of having the objective of getting a date, have the objective of LEARNING SOMETHING.
In fact, if you REALLY want to improve fast, go spend a day starting conversations with women, but make the commitment to NOT get any phone numbers or dates all day.
In other words, no matter WHAT happens, you can't date any of the women that you meet that day.
See if you can just learn how to do a few simple things like say, "Hi" to every woman that walks by how to maintain eye contact with women until THEY look away and how to end a conversation "too soon" so she feels a natural vacuum and tries to keep it going herself
THAT'S ONE GOOD IDEA FOR DEALING WITH YOUR FEARS.
If you'd like to read more of my personal secrets for overcoming fear, including specific mental exercises and physical drills, then I'd recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating". It's full of all my very best thinking on this and many other subjects about success with women.
Just go to here and watch my video presentation.
I'll talk to you again soon.
Suggested free e-books to read:C Kellogg - The Secret Language Of Women
Wayne Ross - Secrets To Attracting Beautiful Women
Louise Andree Saulnier - The Yoni Massage For Women
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