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She Losing Interest

JULIE SPIRA IS A BEST-SELLING AUTHOR, CYBER-DATING EXPERT, AND RADIO SHOW HOST. SHE IS THE AUTHOR OF" PERILS OF CYBER-DATING: CONFESSIONS OF A HOPEFUL ROMANTIC LOOKING FOR LOVE "AND HOSTS THE WEEKLY RADIO SHOW, ASK THE CYBER-DATING EXPERT. VISIT HER AT CYBERDATINGEXPERT.COM WHERE SINGLES AND COUPLES CAN SHARE THEIR ONLINE DATING STORIES.

QUESTION #1: SHE'S LOSING INTEREST

I met a woman online and we have been dating steadily for 3 months. The thing is, she gets so caught up with work and her social life that she never seems to have time for me.

I feel like I'm the one who's doing all the calling, setting up all the dates, and making all the moves. At first, she cleared her schedule for me - I was the number one thing in her life. But now it seems that she is more interested in everything but me.

I feel like I'm losing her but she insists that this is just part of life and that she's still very into me. How can I make her make me a priority again?

"JULIE SPIRAS ANSWER:

Nothing feels worse than when you find your relationship slipping away. The first 3 months of any relationship is the "perfect stage." This is where couples are infatuated with their new love interest.

Being the man and calling to set up dates is something many women expect the man to do. After 3 months, things settle into a groove. If you are slipping down on the totem pole, it's time to have a talk with her.

Sit her down and ask her what she thinks of the relationship status. Let her know that you would like to spend more time with her. If she is happy with the present schedule, and you are not, perhaps it's time to start dating other women.

QUESTION #2: DATING MUCH YOUNGER MEN

I am dating a much younger man - he's 23 and I'm 42. He treats me

like gold and I love spending time with him. So what's the problem? Well, wherever we go, young girls are always hitting on him and treating me like I'm his mother.

At first, I didn't think much of it, but now it's really starting to take a toll on my ego. Should I stay with this guy who claims to love me or should I try to find someone my own age and settle?

I really adore this younger gentleman and he doesn't even seem to notice these younger girls. But I'm afraid that if we stay together, he will start to notice them in a few years. What do you think? Can relationships between younger men and older women really work?

"JULIE SPIRAS ANSWER:

With" Mania, Cougar "with Courteney Cox, and official Cougar Conferences, you are not alone in dating a much younger man. As a matter of fact, it's now in vogue.

Dating younger men is not a new concept. Look at the long-standing relationship with Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins which recently ended after 23 years. I'd call that a good run. There's DEMI and ASHTON, JULIET MILLS and MAXWELL CAULFIELD.

If he truly loves you and you don't notice him staring at women closer in age to himself, you might have a terrific relationship on your hands.

Where the problem may arise is if he is interested in having children. If his goal is to become a father, or if he is uncertain about this issue, you could get hurt. Find out if your life goals are the same, and if so, enjoy the relationship.

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Sociology How To Be Just Friends

How To Be "Just Friends"
How To Be "Just Friends" : Why is it so hard to remain "just friends" with the opposite sex? Studies show the relationship ends more times than not once sex is introduced. Keep the friendship. Keep it platonic. Why is it so hard to remain "just friends" with the opposite sex? Studies show the relationship ends more times than not once sex is introduced. Keep the friendship. Keep it platonic.

Step 1: Friends With Benefits

If you remember the real advantages of opposite-sex friendship, you probably won't throw them away for a one-nighter. Guys, you can express your feelings with her in a way you can't with the boys. Girls, you get a protective, big-brother type pal. And you both get the inside scoop on how the other sex operates.

Step 2: Dirty Tricks

If you do find yourself eyeing up your buddy, put up some barriers. Ladies, next time you go out with your guy friend, slack off in the hygiene department. Try wearing grandma underwear. Skip the shower. Don't shave those legs. It'll help you keep your pants on.

Step 3: Wear Yourself Out

Gentlemen, expending sexual energy before you meet up with your female friend will usually suppress any inappropriate feelings that may pop up. And gals, don't be ashamed. This will work for you, too.

Step 4: Converse With Caution

Don't let the chatter drift toward sexual innuendo. No one wants to hear another "that's what SHE said" joke. Instead...talk about your ex. Or irritable bowel syndrome. Or the reptilian humanoid conspiracy theory. Don't talk about how tight your bra feels today. If you need a back rub, keep it to yourself. Oh, and take it easy on the booze. Friends don't let friends drink...and dive into bed.

Finally, if you find yourself waking up with your best bud, take some space, then talk. Remember, you're friends for a reason and if you really do care for each other, it won't be hard to figure out if it's love, lust, or just the liquor.

Thanks for watching our video How To Be "Just Friends" For more how to videos, expert advice, instructional tips, tricks, guides and tutorials on this subject, visit the topic Getting A Date.

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Dating Book Review Why Cant You Read My Mind

Why Can't You Read My Mind? By Jeffrey Bernstein

Too many women I know expect their men to be psychic and figure out what they really mean by what they say, and now author JEFFREY BERNSTEIN, with contributor SUSAN MAGEE, address this very issue in" CANT YOU READ MY MIND?

If you find yourself having the same silly fights with your boyfriend or husband over and over again and feel like you're getting nowhere, then this book is definitely going to help you with the very toxic behaviors and thought patterns that are leading to the same arguments" CANT YOU READ MY MIND? will help you point out the toxic behaviors on your end that are sinking your relationship and will serve to teach you how to address the issues that matter and resolve them without having to yell or break anything.

Of course, reading the book won't instantly change your toxic behavior - it will take you some time to make the changes and make them stick, but at least now you'll be equipped with the knowledge of what's causing these issues and the steps you need to take to have a happier relationship.

Reading this book is easy because Jeffrey Bernstein's style is upbeat and fun, and he uses plain English to drive his points home.

And perhaps you don't think that you have anything to do with the problems in your relationship, but after you read" CANT YOU READ MY MIND? , you may change your thought process on that.

RATING: 4.5 OUT OF 5

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Antonio Sabato Reality Show

If anyone remembers ANTONIO SABATO JR., it sure ain't for his acting skills. ANTONIO SABATO JR. starred as Jagger on the hit "General "and then modeled underwear for CALVIN KLEIN before doing a couple of crappy movies.

Well because the world [read: women] has not tired of looking at him, ANTONIO SABATO JR. is starring in a dating competition called in which 13 women compete for his affection, and it airs on Sunday nights on VH1

It's obvious that ANTONIO SABATO JR. is trying desperately to hang onto his looks - the teeth whitening, Botox and over-tweezing give him away. And the chicks... well, they've had a couple of procedures done as well.

The show takes place in Hawaii, and his mother and ex-wife also make appearances and sabotage his efforts at finding "true love".

Many things make the show laughable but the award winners are:

ANTONIO SABATO JR. cuts one woman for wearing open-toe sandals

He dumps another because his mother makes him

One bachelorette is obsessed with the notion that the other women want to steal her clothes

And one woman is like that chick in Seinfeld who cried about everything. Everything.

It's obvious that Antonio is just trying to hang on to the limelight for those last 15 minutes, but it makes me kind of sick that the F-list celebs are taking the limelight away from the nobodies who strive to be on reality shows.

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Flirting Tips How To Flirt In The Right Way

Flirting is no longer a taboo in the society, even girls and boys both enjoy it. Flirting is an interesting activity if done wisely. Flirting is fun, it indicates that someone is interested in you or you are interested in someone. Flirting means giving the complete attention to him/her by touching, smiling, playing, talking, making different facial expression.

While involving in flirting activity, always keep in mind that flirting should express your feelings - in a respectful, decent, polite manner. There are few body language and body behaviour which help you to know, whether other person is interested in you or not:

BODY LANGUAGE

o eye contact

o Dilated pupils

o Arched eyebrows

o eye movement and blinking

o toying with hair

o Smiling

o Kissing lips

o Touching the lips or teeth with tongue

o Thrusting chest or breasts outward

o copying posture

o Winking

o Crossing legs

Conversation

o Smiling

o Laughing

o Whispering

o Personal questions like relationship status

Other Behavior

o touching

o hands in hands

o nervous

o avoidance of eye contact

o Standing on one leg or shifting weight back and forth

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How You Can Get A Chinese Girlfriend

Why do you want a Chinese girlfriend? Have you considered the true answer to this query? I believe for many men it's really easy to answer as they have either been staying in China for years or else they have considerable experience with Chinese culture and Chinese ladies. On the other hand, if this is a dream for you and you haven't had any experience with China you might need to consider a bit on why you want a Chinese girlfriend.

For whatever reason, there are a large number of Western men who have a thing for Chinese women. It might be the slim bodies, the attitudes or the attention of Chinese ladies that causes them to be so sexy, but the point is they ARE sexy. Getting to China is simple enough and you might be surprised to learn that getting a Chinese girlfriend is simple enough too.

There are the obvious ways of connecting with ladies such as bars, but I wouldn't counsel going this route unless you're ready for distrust, requests for money and heart ache. There are better methods and you'll find that there are many awesome websites online to help you meet Chinese women. These websites have tens of thousands of girls all looking for the exact thing you are, friendship, love and maybe even marriage.

Any of the Chinese personals sites can help you meet literally 1000's of sexy Chinese girls who are anxious to make themselves your girlfriend. It won't matter whether you're in China or somewhere else in the world, these dating websites will make certain it's simple for you to locate a Chinese girlfriend. You'll find that a lot of the ladies sign up for love, but many are also there simply looking for some fun.

After connecting with some the girls, getting past the inevitable language problems and getting to know a few of them you're very likely to spend a bit of your time emailing and chatting online. If you can get a webcam this is superior as the ladies will definitely need to see what you look like. It shouldn't be too long until you get a fairly serious communication going with 1 (or more) of the ladies.

At this juncture you'll likely want to head over to China, if you're not already there, and meet up with the ladies in person. While the personals scene in China is fantastic for Europeans, there are thousands of guys who have gone the route of connecting with their Chinese girlfriends through Chinese dating websites. It definitely beats meeting the woblokes in a bar or club.

If you do end up going to China and meeting a lady in a club there are definitely some things to be aware of. It appears that many blokes lose all common sense when meeting Chinese women in bars, so attempt to maintain your wits and don't add to the fodder for tales about love gone bad on the net. Always remember that the entire reason women work in pubs is to make cash. They may fantasize of a knight in shining armor to take them away, but this is simply that, a fantasy, and earning cash comes first.

If you do correctly and take your time then there's no reason you can't find a Chinese girlfriend and love through the Chinese dating websites. Many sites on the web attempt to tell you about finding a Chinese girlfriend as if it is a set process, but it's really no different than beginning a relationship anywhere else. Just take it easy, be yourself and trust your gut.

It's not possible to completely tell you how to find a Chinese girlfriend in a post like this, just as it wouldn't be possible to completely tell you about finding a girlfriend anywhere in the world. The first step is to begin connecting with the women and the most simple way to do this is through the Chinese dating websites. After that it's up to you where you need any potential relationships to go. All I can say is that Chinese women are great and locating a Chinese girlfriend is simpler than you might assume.

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Good Girls Ho And Freaks

The one that started it all. PlayerSupreme's classic post that has now been subsumed as part of the relationship matrix.

PlayerSupreme is one of the best proponents of dominant game. Where the man is the Man. We do miss him on masf. But you can catch his excellent podcasts here

I am going to borrow a few words from Da kidd from the pimps network and add

some of my own Sh*t to it to help talk about observation. I do hope those in

the know will add their own shyt at the end of this post so we can pool our

collective knowledge into one big assed info fest.

Observation

In this game, observation is the key. Without the ability to properly observe a

situation, the analysis of any given situation will be far from accurate.

It also helps to know what you are looking for in the women that you select.

According to Arthur Gordon there are 3 types of women out there:

1. the good girl. This is the type of B*tch whom a N*gga wants to marry or

settle down with. She is the nice one who does everything for her man. She

comes from her heart. Everything that she does is based around how in love with

you that she is.

2. The Freak. Ahhh the freak is the one who breaks N*gga's hearts, have them up

at night wondering where she is at and who she is fucking. Freaks usually

become strippers or those bitches you see who dress like all she wants is

attention. Freaks come at you on the sexual tip. If you look like your packin

and can put it down then they will be all up on ya. These are usually the ones

you see chasin after brotha's cause of our reputation for fawking and having

big dycks.

Which is exactly what they want, and they will get it from anyone. Most freaks

love sex and will always have a waiting list of N*gga's to call. You've seen

them with their garish outfits and overdone make up on. Usually they are the

freakiest dancers in the clubs. These are the bitches who just need a little

push to put them on the stage and from their onto a track selling that cat.

3. Ho's. These are the professional bitches who already ho. These bitches will

only do it for money or material gain of some sort. The mild form of a ho is a

gold digger. The serious form is your common street walking ho. According to

Gordon, many high school cheerleaders are ho's in training. They sell their

bodies to the atheletes for the currency of popularity. I'm sure you've seen

fine women with old assed men. Look at Anna Nicole Smith. She is a ho. Many

ho's become groupies for Sports or Entertainment stars. These are the ones who

marry those guys and then divorce them later for millions.

Knowing what type your dealing with will determine what type of game you spit

at her. Good girls you do the old fashioned Sh*t. Freaks since they only want

fun and sex, you show her how much fun it is hangin out with you. Freaks you

use your career or where your going in life and how much money and toys you

have.

To try the approach of a ho on a good girl will get you nowhere. I'm sure many

people have seen or heard of idiots trying to impress a good girl with how much

money he makes and getting shot down.

Ok now back to further observation skills:

The amount of observation necessary varies per situation. If you are out of

town (or out of your environment), you shouldn't spend near as much time

observing as you would where you live.

The reason for this is simple. When your azz is on vacation, you can afford to

make a few mistakes like cold approaches (i.e. very little if any eye contact,

etc.), because you aren't going to be there long enough for the consequences to

affect you. But, since the majority of us aren't going anywhere anytime soon,

so lets focus on long term observation.

The first thing you want to do when observing is to set up your 'base of

operations'. This is where you sit yourself down somewhere, be it school, the

club, the mall, whatever, and remain stationary. What I like to do as you've

seen me post is stand on the edge of the dance floor so that I can be seen and

can see who is looking at me.

You gotta fight the temptation to eye ball your surroundings. This makes you

look hungry like the rest of the nyggas up in thurr. Trust me, if a biytch

likes what she sees, she will put herself in your perimeter. Just make sure

that you are sitting or standing somewhere highly visible.

If you have to be the 1st one in the club to get a good seat. What you want to

keep an eye out for is what Da Kidd over at the pimps network (and whom I took

the outline for this post from) calls 'the perimeter breach'. This is basically

when a girl is all in your

area. She will probably glance at you occasionally and jock you on the subtle

tip. She is wondering why if all of these other guys are up her ass, why aren't

you.

How you react to this depends on environmental factors. "If you are out of

town, throw your fingers up and beckon that B*tch to you. If you are on your

home turf, try to chill. Remember, chances are that the B*tch lives there too,

and you will probably see her again. This is where patience kicks in."-Da Kidd

Da Kidd also said remain a mystery to them. He further went on to say that you

shouldn't try to run down every girl that you see. Remember the saying "chase a

ho and get a chumps cop, Stalk a ho ( do your homework on her ass) and get a

pimps cop. Cop stands for having her on your team.

This shyt will take some time to get used to, but will pay off in the long run.

"Remember...you aren't going anywhere, and neither are they. Drive their

curiosity to a fever pitch. When they finally do speak to you or you decide

that they are jocking you so tough that it's time to make that move, the amount

of static she gives you (depending on your approach, of course) will be much of

nothing."

One key thing to remember is this... women jock men on the sneak. Not the way

the we jock them. If you know this, you can use this against them. If you can

see them, then they can see you...ie my standing on the edge of the dance floor

or sometimes in the middle of it. I make people move around me sometimes. At

the edge or in the middle of the floor.

If a byitch is on your Sh*t, she will position herself where she can get a good

view of you. If you are sitting near the dance floor, and hoes start dancing

like right in front of you, chances are they are jocking you. Especially if the

dance floor isn't packed and they didn't have to dance right there. The less

crowded an environment is, the more 'clean-cut' observations are. If the joint

is jumpin', then you will have to rely

more on eye contact, proximity, and other subtle factors.

Here is an example: Lets say that you went to a mall or a lounge at school, and

a B*tch is sitting quite a ways from you and tries to throw some trash away in

the can that is in your proximity. No big deal right? WRONG. How about if there

was a trash can a lot closer to her than yours was. She didn't have to come way

over here just to throw away a lollipop stick, then return to her seat. Most

people don't think twice about things like that, but they should. That is an

excellent example of subtle jocking. If your obsevation skills are not up to

par, you would miss that incident and quite a few more which could have been

very revealing. Observations skills are hard to teach over the internet.

I always tell my buddies that I'm "on" 24/7. If I'm awake then I am alert and

paying attention. I always notice when women are jocking me. This is why I've

been successful in the night clubs at meeting women. You must pay attention at

all times.

About 4 years ago I went to this thing called Burningman

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I was working for channel 6 in Sacramento with my buddy doing a story on this

week long freak fest up in the Nevada desert. I was at one of the huge rave

tents and had fallen asleep to the driving beats of techno/trance.

Suddenly I awoke to feel someone starring at me. I looked around and saw a ho

that I new from my own town trying to figure out if it was me or not.

Here is an exercise that I want you to try: sit yourself down in the mall or at

school or a book store and just practice. Watch which hoes decide to sit near

you even when there are chairs all over the damn place. How many times a

particular broad walks back and forth in front of you for no damn apparent

reason at all.

Do this for a little while, then try your luck at the club. In the club,

however, hoes are a little more aware that they are being watched, and will be

a little harder to read. But, if you know what subtleties to look for, it won't

be too hard. Soon you won't be getting dissed anymore because you will know

exactly which broad(s) actually want to holla at you. As you know about my

direct approach style based on my eye contact post, I don't holla unless the ho

is choosing.

There are other styles out there such as indirect and other seduction mixes.

With indirect you holla at every ho even if there is no eye contact. This style

you gotta have your game intact and going strong. There are pro's and cons of

each style out there.

But for this one get to practicing.

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Winning Your Ex Husband Back

After having a difficult divorce or even annulment with your ex husband, you should give yourself some time before you consider getting ex back. If all the good and fun memories of you both are greater than the bad moments, it is an obvious sign that you get him back and relive your lives as a married couple once again before everything gets too late.

First things first. You have to stop acting desperate and start appearing smart. Calling him almost every hour, crying relentlessly and begging on your knees for your ex husband to come back is a waste of time and could only make get your ex back worse and more difficult. You have to let him think about thinks and give him space and time to reflect on the situation. Most of the separations are caused by uncontrolled anger and pride, and only after a couple of days, he will be able to see things rationally.

Stop making any communication with him for a while. It will only make him feel that he is really a lost on you and heighten his pride even more. During your silence and nonchalance, do not get surprised if you will get a call or a text message from your ex husband and he will ask you out. however, even if it is a good sign that he is willing to make all ends meet, do not count on that as a way to get your ex back. Give him a week or more to set things right and pursue you as if your ex husband is courting you again.

While he doing his part on getting you back as well, work on by yourself to find the problem and fix it. There is no way that you two got separated without a reason. Look for that flaw and patch it up. This will help get your ex back even more.

After giving him and yourself weeks to fix things up without communication at all and you have successfully done everything, it's time to get reconciled with your ex husband. Call hi up and ask him to meet you, as there is a very little chance that he will turn it down. However, if he refuses, just give him another week to think and miss you. Before the big day when you will meet and get your ex back, make sure that you look attractive and strong.

On the day when you will get your ex back, the most important thing to have is honesty. It is not the time to play hard-to-get on your ex husband. Play your cards right and explain everything about your side. Tell him what has been wrong and how to fix things. Tell him that you miss him and you are working hard to get him back. Show him that you are serious about it.

Also, you have to remember some DON'T's when it comes to the day when you get your ex back. DON'T cry, DON'T beg and DON'T harass him or give him ultimatums. You will just humiliate your self make things harder for your to get your ex husband back. However, you have to be humble. This will make things a breeze for you and work out your relationship once again.

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She Losing Interest

Sociology How To Be Just Friends

How To Be "Just Friends"

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Dating Book Review Why Cant You Read My Mind

RATING: 4.5 OUT OF 5

Antonio Sabato Reality Show

He dumps another because his mother makes him

Flirting Tips How To Flirt In The Right Way

BODY LANGUAGE

Conversation

Other Behavior

o Standing on one leg or shifting weight back and forth

How You Can Get A Chinese Girlfriend

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Good Girls Ho And Freaks

Observation

Ok now back to further observation skills:

About 4 years ago I went to this thing called Burningman

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He dumps another because his mother makes him

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About 4 years ago I went to this thing called Burningman

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