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Bothering Girls By Herbal

Hey guys,

Today's newsletter is a day late because yesterday I was on the plane to Japan all day and I forgot to copy the e-mail I was going to answer so that I could write it on the plane. Sorry about that.

I just spent a week in Hollywood with Style, and I got to see old friends like Mystery, The One, Formhandle, TokyoPUA. I also met the new Stylelife coaches, and they were all cool guys.

Fun times makes me wonder whether I should have stayed in LA.

I'm already a day late, so let's cut today's patter and get to the question:

Hey Tynan,

I have a bad belief. I know it's bad and I'm trying to figure out a way to get rid of it, but in order to do that I have to come up with a new one.

My belief is that since I enjoy being alone that if I walk up to a girl that's alone in a coffee shop, I'm going to be interrupting her alone time and since I don't like being interrupted when I'm alone, she won't like it either.

Does it make sense. Did you ever have this belief? How did you change it?

Thanks.

-AB

Hey AB,

Good question. You're right - it IS a bad belief for two reasons.

1. It will hinder your progress.

2. It isn't accurate.

First, imagine for a second that you're at a coffee shop working. You're working on something very important. A gorgeous girl walks up to you and playfully flirts with you.

How do you feel about that? Are you pissed off that she's bothering you, or are you excited to take a little break from your work?

I like being alone too. Some day soon I'm going to simulate solitary confinement for a couple days because they claim it will make you go insane after just a few days. I think it will be fun.

But still, if an attractive girl interrupts me to talk to me, I'm happy about it.

And why do you think she's at that coffee shop anyway? It's because she's HOPING that someone will interrupt her. Every girl fantasizes about randomly meeting Mr. Right. Now, if your approach is bad she'll SAY that she wants to be left alone, but that's about YOU, not HER.

Which leads me to my main point - you're (subconciously, at least) not really concerned about her. You're insecure about how she'll react to YOU.

So, my advice is twofold:

1. Learn to be attractive. I'm obviously biased, but I think my course is the best way to do it. I just finished a new version for 2008 that covers everything you'll need to know. The 30 day Pickup Lab that's part of it will get you over this issue (and many other issues) within 30 days. AB, I'm going to send you a free copy to get you started.

2. Get out there and DO IT. Approach 40 girls in coffee shops and see how they react. My guess is that it will be better than you think.

It's about 2pm here in Tokyo and I haven't eaten today. They have no street names and Google maps is in Japanese, so it's super hard to actually get to the places that we find on the internet. Wish me luck!

TYNAN

P.S. Send me your question (keep it short so that I don't have to edit it down) to weekly@makeherchaseyou.com. If I use your question next week I'll send you a free copy of my course, Make Her Chase You. The new updated version has more advice, more field reports, and covers way more material than the old version.

Dating Tips For Men Its Not All About Looks

Today, we will share some important dating tips for men.

CATCH THE LINES - When a girl says a sentence it can contains the various meanings. It is important to understand what a woman wants from you. "You Are so Important for me" this sentence can be understood by many ways. However, a girl can use the same sentence for a friend and lover. So, be smart to understand the feelings of girls.

ADD SPICE IN RELATIONSHIP - Most of the boys take their girl-friends for granted. As a result, girls start looking at other available options. Yes, you may find it strange but it is 100% true. Nobody likes to spend life with bore person. Can you spend you life with a girl who doesn't know how to talk?

FEAR OF REJECTION - Generally, men don't take risk or propose girls due to fear of rejection. How can you forget the old proverb "No Risk No Gain". Don't forget, one NO doesn't mean the end of the world. One girl can not ruin your life. Keep trying and checkout your luck.

ATTRACT HER AND GET HER ATTENTION - Here, attention doesn't mean the extraordinary work. Your nice behaviour and soft talks are enough to attract any lady.

Hope, these dating tips for men would help lot of people around the world.

Blind Dating How To Prepare For The Worst

Blind dating can sometimes be awful. This is why you need to know how to prepare for the worst. You will find that while you may have good luck on a blind date you are just as likely to have bad luck. You need to make sure that you know what to do whenever you end up with a dud for a blind date.

UNATTRACTIVE

If they are unattractive, then don't let this be a total deal breaker. While a physical attraction is necessary whenever you are dating a person you should still give them a chance. You may eventually find yourself falling for their personality to a point where you find them adorable. Don't allow an unattractive date to immediately make you dislike them.

BORING

It can be really easy for a blind date to get really boring really fast. There are a few things that you can do to try to fix this. If they don't seem to have anything to say, then take charge of the conversation. Talk about yourself to get the ball rolling. From there start asking them questions that they can't answer with just yes or no. If they only have boring things to say, then attempt to change the subject.

WEIRD

Face it some blind dates are just weird. They may have a nervous tick or they may talk too loud or too soft. If a person is just plain weird, then try to have fun with it and at least keep yourself entertained until it is time to say goodnight.

Bothering Girls By Herbal

-AB

So, my advice is twofold:

TYNAN

Dating Tips For Men Its Not All About Looks

Blind Dating How To Prepare For The Worst

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