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Love Dating Advice Change Your Love Life

Every single person looks for love dating advice. These advices and suggestions help a lot to people who want to start a relationship or are looking for a perfect partner. Today, we are sharing the same advice without our precious readers.

Either you talk about exam or date, result of both things comes later. It is important to invest your 100% effort to impress him/her. Respect is most important thing in dating. Respect your date and his/her opinion or ideas. Instead of contradicting him/her completely, try to change the topic.

Most of the people try to act really smart. It can be a biggest turn off. Don't act like you are the last man or woman in the world. Yes, it is important to tell him/her about your qualities but do not showoff much. And no one can afford to talk about past relationships on date.

Make eye contact with your date and win his/her confidence by showing keen interest in his/her talks. Don't forget, it is your date and you have to do various things to impress him/her. It does matter whether you like such activities or not.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Scott Peck - Dating And Falling In Love
David Deangelo - Double Your Dating How To Change Yourself

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Getting Laid Vs Getting Good

Post by Nashvilleplayboy off MASF directed towards the newbs.. some golden tips in there.. about the right approach to approach PU..

Lots of guys are gonna tell you you need to master alot of things before you can get laid.

You'll hear guys saying things like, "Hey, you need to learn these techniques. You have to know this method. You have to read these ebooks. You have to take this bootcamp and that seminar."

There are plenty of people who are going to teach you techniques, routines, lines, and methods to use to get laid. Thats fine, most guys who come here are going to need alot of that stuff.

What most guys won't teach you is to have a mindset thats going to make this journey in bettering yourself with women, as smooth and as easy as possible. When you're new to PU or have zero experience with women(or both), its easy to get caught up in the idea that you have to master every technique and every method that you see.

Its easy to get caught up in Guru worship spending thousands and thousands of hard earned dollars to learn techniques and things that you cant apply because you dont have the field experience to back up the techniques, basically just throwing your money away to have a guy yell at you to get in set and picking you apart when you come back(hell, I can do this right now, for free, lol).

It's easy to get caught up in wanting to be the top PUA in the community. The quest to be the best. Even I was infatuated with the idea at the beginning.

But if you wanna get from zero experience to hero in the field, none of these motivations are going to take you there in the long run. The desire to lay every girl you meet, the search for the perfect 10, the desire to pay back all those women who looked down on you before who are gonna kiss your ass when you show them the skills you've learned, for most guys, these motivations aren't gonna help you in the long run either.

What happens when you have the ability to lay alot of the girls you meet and PU gives you nothing to look forward to? What happenes when you lay A COUPLE of perfect tens and realize that beautiful women arent really that important? What happens when you lay all those chicks that looked down on you in the past, and you blow em off for better chicks that you picked up using your skills alone?

PU is gonna be empty. Youre going to have wasted alot of time searching to master every technique, wasted alot of money to learn basic skills, and spent alot of your life aiming to be the best. Then youre gonna go on your merry way looking for some other wordly pleasure to fill whatever it is thats missing in your life.

I've seen guys do it. Master every skill, sleep with tons of women, and they're still miserable. They move on to devote themselves to a religion they barely believe in to feel better about themselves. You dont have to go through that excrutiating process, and you have all the opportunity in the world to get what you want out of PU and out of life,. So lets get your heads together now while it can make a difference, before you go down that long road of wasting your time.

Theres basically two ways to approach learning pick-up and how to seduce women. You learn and pick-up with the intention of getting laid, or you learn and pick-up with the intention of getting good. This is about as simple as I can make it.

Where this is applies to you: DO NOT APPROACH PU WITH THE IDEA OF GETTING GOOD.

Not yet. You can see which experienced guys are simply out to get good just by watching what they're doing. Its all about how much can their skillset accomplish on its own.

You wanna get good? You put yourself in a position where you have little to rely on other than your own head. No social proof. No pivots. No wing. Dress down(no peacocking). Cold approaching only. Going for threesomes. Going for the hottest girls only. Ignoring logistics. Basically trying to bed women by will alone.

When youre new, if you constantly put yourselves in interactions that involve alot of those situations all grouped together, you're going to make it ALOT, for emphasis sake, ENTIRELY WAY TOO MUCH HARDER on yourself than it needs to be. You're going to make it hard for yourself to see success. To get laid. To meet girls that you're able to handle at your level of skill. Youre going to make it harder for yourself to be satisfied with your level of success.

Even worse, most newer guys spend most of their time in the field trying to master ALL of those specific situations. And they have to spend thousands of approaches just to get past one stage. And thats because they never took the time to get comfortable with just going through the basics and getting their dick wet enough to not care if they're getting laid "tonight" or if theyre laying every chick, or seeing immediate success.

Trust me, in trying to master specific areas of sarging, you need to be completely outcome EDIT independent EDIT at all times to fully grasp and be objective about where you are as a PUA, what you need to be doing, and what you did right/wrong in the field. But the process becomes alot shorter when you already have field experience to thoroughly cover the basics.

Which leads me to: PU to get laid.

In the beginning, you need to be comfortable with just going through your sarges and interactions taking the simplest steps to get laid. Once your comfortable doing this and sex becomes less of an issue, THEN you can move on to mastering specific skills, working on perfecting your skillset.

So where do you start? Opening, duh.

But look, you dont have to be able to open every set or have 1000 openers to deal with every situation. You dont even need to perfect a routine stack. All you need: to be able to overcome approach anxiety to where you can open(literally just open your mouth and say something), and to be able to open and keep the conversation moving for a few minutes every few times you open. Thats as far as you have to master opening before you move on to the next step.

Second: Kino

You dont have to be able to take every interaction to the point where you're making out and feeling her up. All need is just enough experience to be comfortable touching her hand or arm here and there, punching her in the shoulder during or in response to a playful joke, putting your arm around her without feeling uncomfortable, and walking close enough or sitting close enough to her that incidental kino is bound to happen.

Then: #Closing and Phone Game

Once you can open and hold a conversation every once in awhile while throwing in some kino here in there, all you need are some simple ways to get phone numbers to keep the interaction moving along when there are time constraints you have to deal with. Really simple way: Just hand her your phone, really, shes not stupid. And if she resists or offers you some bullshit excuse, just say "cool." Hand her your phone again lol, sometimes her bullshit is just a shit test that you can ignore.

As for talking on the phone, dont wait forever to call her back. Within in the next two days is cool. You dont have to be super funny or super interesting EVERY SINGLE SECOND your on the phone. Just relax, dont make a big deal out of it and use the call to set up a Day2. "Lets go to 'such and such' tomorrow so we can do 'this and that'." Doesnt have to be some complicated well thought out strategy to get her to meet you. Not every girl you call is gonna meet you anyway. Get over it, its no big deal. You need just enough to get a day2 here and there.

Next on the list: Day 2s

Learn how to have a normal damn conversation. Not boring, but dont act like you havent ever talked talked to girls before. Learn to step up your kino a lil bit. Instead of asking yourself is now a good time to kiss or when should I kiss her, just shut the fuck up, move close to her, and do it. And dont shove your tongue down her throat either. Just brush your lips up against hers just enough so that she knows its a kiss but not so much that she can say you tried to rape her(lol). If you have to practice just having conversations and kino with your female friends(aka LJBFs girls) to comfortable enough to where its not weird to you, then do that.

Obviously: Isolation

Youre gonna have to find somewhere to go. Most new guys cant pull a girl into the bathroom at Waffle House to get some ass. Thats fine. If you cant take her back to your place, or you cant go to hers, or neither of you have a car, then you have to get creative. Other than that, just use dumb excuses to be alone. They can honestly be dumb. As long as you dont make a big deal out of it and you arent a weirdo, most girls if theyre into you, will be perfectly happy to check out your myspace page or play madden '07 with you for a few minutes. If all you have is the car, hell, take her to the park so you can see the ducks/fish/stars/wtf ever. It doesnt even have to be a really legit reason to be alone. Just let it be a reason, and one that you can justify when you get there. Then keep her around longer than JUST to do that one thing. Its not rocket science.

Moving on: Escalation

At some point, you have to be sexual. If anyone has been keeping up with my beginner methods, then you should arleady have no problem projecting the fact that your sexual in some way. Kino, EC, conversation topics, sexual humor... list goes on. You've got her isolated now, so obviously, she's not going to make the first move. You have to be comfortable enough to just go for at some point in time. Stop worrying about whether she likes you or is attracted to you or wants sex or whatever. If she's alone with you even though you gave her that bullshit excuse, she wants it, whether she knows it or not. Its your job to lead.

At some point: "Fuck a Calibration"

Just fuck it and go caveman. Grab her ass, pull her too you(i dont mean like a maniac, have some gentile nature about it), and kiss her. Drag her to the bedroom and basically throw her on the bed. You might even have to put her over your shoulder and carry her in there if shes not there already. Who cares. THEN back to calibrating again. Start learning the difference between "No" (stop, i dont want this, you're weird, im gonna call the cops) and "No" (we shouldnt be doing this, but I want you, but maybe im just not completely comfortable, slow down and turn me on first, press the right buttons and this will turn to yes, aka No, dont stop).

This should go without saying: Have sex.

If you havent had much sex, turn your lays into FBs so you get that experience with little to no extra work(aka sarging a new girl). I shouldnt have to go into all the reasons why its important to have some regular sex at some point when you have no experience with women. Obviously, you cant read any information offered to you if you need an explanation.

Until you get some lays and enough experience in all of these areas to simply be comfortable with doing these, YOU SHOULD NOT BE SPENDING TONS OF APPROACHES TO MASTER ANY ONE THING. Thats basically it. You work on getting good later.

How do you judge how much experience you need with each before you move on to working on the next stages? Well, have you done the stage before it yet? Do you feel like if you have to do it again with a new girl that its possible? Do you still have anxiety when it comes to any of those things that youre currently working on that makes it very difficult to go through with it? Are you having enough success with what youre doing to feel like you can take it to the next level soon? Being able to answer all of these questions can tell you whether you need to keep working on this one particular area or move ahead with this girl and come back to it in your future sarges.

All you have to do now is just go get in the field. Once you have the basics down, then you add the bells and whistles that augment your ability to apply the basic skills. Basically, you add everything in a PUA's arsenal that can help you get laid. From social proof, to advanced techniques, to wings and pivots and everything else. When you get to the point where you understand the dynamic between you and the girls you're sarging, and you have no problem getting laid or using the principles conventially relied upon in the community, then you move on to getting good.

You can drop all the extra stuff and start focusing again on mastering the skills that make you great regardless of whatever cards you have up your sleeves(social proof, peacocking, etc).

Get to work.

Credit - Nashvilleplayboy MASF

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Alphahot1 - Seduction Trends Getting To Sexual Yes
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Catholic Dating New Face Of Dating

Catholic dating is becoming more and more popular around the world. Not everyone knows the reason behind the popularity. Today, we are sharing this secret with you. It is also known as Christian dating. This dating has been introduced for those people who share catholic kind of faith. This dating provides a place where singles people from catholic community can come and find suitable partners. Christian religion and thinking is more liberal as compared to other religion. It can be the biggest reason why many youngsters and teenagers like to find a perfect partner through catholic dating.

Catholic dating is popular because dating is not a sin according to their religion. On the other hand, many religions declare dating as sin. Catholic singles who are dating can discuss their life and about the partner with the leader of church. Even, these leaders help those singles by sharing good knowledge and information. After considering the popularity of this dating, many websites have come in market and that are offering various dating services to Christian singles. Another important reason of the popularity is that Christians can date with anyone without any discrimination of race, religion, nationality, etc.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Shawn Nelson - The Dating Resource Report
Brian Caniglia - Online Dating Secrets

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How Do I Get Abs By Brad

"A FEW GUYS HAVE ASKED ME WHY I HAVE A ARTICLES SPECIFICALLY FOR FITNESS AND EXERCISE. HERE'S MY REASON: YOUR FITNESS LEVELS DIRECTLY EFFECT YOUR CONFIDENCE, MENTAL HEALTH AND PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. THEY ALL IMPACT PICKUP IMMENSELY! HERE'S BRAD:"

Today, I actually sent Brad Pilon (one of the co-founders of Strength Works the developers of the Adonis Effect) an email that a subscriber sent me about abs and ab work how much is too much, etc.

Here's what he sent back:

One of the most popular topics that I routinely get questions about is ab training: ie "How do I train my abs", or "how do I get abs".

The answer I give people is so simple that I think they don't believe me. I think they actually want a more complicated answer than I am giving them.

So here goes one more time.

1. If you don't need to train your abs for a specific reason like rehab, or an upcoming ab crunch competition then I find little reason to workout your abs directly.

2. Excessive crunches do little for training the whole core and might actually increase your risk of spine and low back problems

3. Scientific research doesn't even know exactly how all the ab muscles work yet so its hard to give one perfect answer to ab training

4. In order to see your abs all you need to do is lose fat. You don't actually have to ever train your abs to see your abs

These are my simple answers to all the questions I get about abs. Working out on your abs can only do two things to them:

a. Make them bigger

b. Give them more endurance

Your abs are just like every other muscle, so why would they act any differently than other muscles. If you want to make your arms bigger you would just train them more often with increasingly heavier weights. So if you want to make your abs bigger you would just do the same thing.

If you want to build endurance in a muscle group like legs then you would train them for longer periods of time with lighter weights. The same thing applies to your abs.

There is no magic to ab training, they are just muscles like every other muscle. They just happen to be covered in a thick layer of fat on most people. So the true answer to 'getting abs' is just removing the fat that is hiding them.

Every exercise you do works your abs, they are constantly active from the minute you get out of bed until you go lie back down at the end of the day. The abs are designed to hold you upright and stabilize your body and spine. They are not designed to lift massively heavy weights and crunch down hundreds of times per day.

Try doing a good sprint workout tomorrow and you'll see how sore your abs get without ever doing a crunch or sit up.

Being physically active and doing a variety of different exercises is all the work your abs will ever need. Losing the fat around your belly is how you can show them off. Even If you've never worked out a day in your life or have ever done a 'core workout' I guarantee there is a six pack of abs underneath whatever fat you have around your midsection. As soon as your body fat gets low enough you will be sporting a shiny new "washboard stomach".

Don't stress over how to train your abs, if you go to the gym on a regular basis no matter what your training goals are I guarantee your abs are getting enough work. Spend some time focusing on fat loss and you'll see that you've had abs all along.

Go get the Adonis Effect, it rocks your body to the core.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Ann May - How To Be A Lady Killer
Real Social Dynamics - How To Get Her Chasing You

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David Deangelo Latest Product

I'm excited to fill you in on David DeAngelo's latest DVD set called Man Transformation.

Here are a few QA's to catch you up on the overall gist of the program, in case you've been neglecting the community lately =)

QUESTION: "Is this program just another version of everything you've taught in the past - summarized?"

No, it's not. In fact, you shouldn't even buy this program unless you've first read his book "Double Your Dating" or watched his Advanced Dating Techniques program FIRST.

This is NEW material - and it's ADVANCED. There are tons of new concepts and techniques that he guarantees you've never heard before - ANYWHERE.

Sure, you'll learn a lot, even if you're new but don't expect David D to teach stuff from the past in this one - it's not a "rehash" of old stuff.

QUESTION: "How long is this program?"

The program is about 25 hours long, on 20 DVDS. Yes, the longest, most intense program he's ever done.

Get ready for a powerful education.

QUESTION: "Who are the guest speakers?"

Everyone from Neil Strauss and David Wygant to Lance Mason, Hypnotica, Steve P., Vin DiCarlo Sean Stephensen and MANY others (including a couple of cameo guest appearances by some AWESOME female dating and relationship experts David DeAngelo has featured before).

They'll blow your mind - a new level of amazing.

QUESTION: "How much is the DVD program?"

The main question is "How Much?" of course.

The price is (an incredibly reasonable) $485. And yes, he's offering a payment plan - 5 easy monthly payments of only $97. You can't beat it.

And YES, this program comes with a 100% "no hassle" guarantee. Try it for a MONTH - and if you don't dig it - just send it back to him. But don't plan on sending it back - because you won't!

That's 20 DVDs of Man Transformation and 3 killer "Ultimate Live" training DVDs. All for the crazy bargain of $485 (or $97 per month).

Unbeatable, period.

Check out the what other guys are saying about it at the Man Transformation website at the link below:

David Deangelo's Man Transformation DVD set

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Ba Mcdonald - A Guide To Speaking In Public
Michael Hall - Why And Human Neuro Semantics Part1
Larry Mclauchlin - Advanced Language Patterns Mastery

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Dating Tips Online Tips To Increase Your Chances

Here are some important dating tips that can help people in day-to-day life.

Eliminate your worries and don't expect anything - Dating is all about enjoyment and entertainment. It is strongly recommended that you should not take any type of tension or stress. Success of dating is important but it is not the end of the world. Be positive and enjoy your dating like anything.

TIME Time plays important role especially when you are on date with your partner. You can spend n number of hours with your partner if you are in relationship for last few months or years. However, you should spend only 2-3 hours if it is your first date.

CONTROL THE ENTIRE SITUATION Few people compare the world control with dominate. No, it is not correct. Dominate and control both is two different words and contains different meaning altogether. Please keep in mind that no body likes to be dominated.

TEASE Yes, you can tease your partner with small things but don't bother him/her more. Try to attract his/her attention with the help of small pranks. They will definitely help you in long run.

Suggested free e-books to read:

C Kellogg - Dating Tips For Men Special Report
Michael Hall - Mind Lines Lines For Changing Minds

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How To Make Women Think About You

If you've seen the classic cult movie "Swingers", then you probably remember the part where the guys are discussing how long a guy should wait to call a woman after he's gotten her phone number.

The scene really hits home for a lot of guys because it gets down to a real-world situation that we all confront and ponder.

I get a lot of emails from guys asking me what to do in this very situation.

The more I've thought about it, the more I realize that this particular question (and the answer to it) are part of a bigger, more important CONCEPT about how to deal with women.

Let me explain.

When a guy asks me "How long should I wait to call her?" this immediately tells me a few things:

1) The guy doesn't feel like he's in control of the situation. If he felt like he was in control, then it he wouldn't ask, because it wouldn't matter.

2) The guy doesn't really "get" how male/female attraction works. If he did get it, then he'd be thinking in those terms rather than trying to figure out the exact best amount of time to wait before calling.

To put it differently, the "when do I call her back?" problem is part of a bigger concept, and once you understand that bigger concept better, then you'll have an automatic feel for when to call a woman back.

Most guys don't "get" one simple point:

If you want a woman to feel ATTRACTION for you, then you must behave differently than if you want her to feel that "just friends" feeling.

In the world of ATTRACTION, things are completely different.

For instance, our moms taught all of us guys to "be nice" to women. This usually includes being sweet and complimentary when first meeting them, answering all of their questions directly, and giving them what they want when they want it.

But if you want a woman to feel that INSTANT GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION right from the beginning, then you're going to have to put aside this kind of thinking, and start learning some NEW ideas.

For instance:

1) A challenge is generally attractive to women.

2) Teasing and being evasive is generally attractive to women.

3) Making fun of a woman's appearance in a flirty way, as counter-intuitive as it might sound, can lead to ATTRACTION.

I'm trying to communicate the idea that when you're dealing with ATTRACTION, you have to put aside old "normal" ways of thinking and behaving.

I would like to mention one more point before getting into the specifics here

These days, people are becoming very sensitive to having "techniques" used on them.

If a salesman uses a sales technique on us, we immediately get defensive and resistant.

If a panhandler asks for money in a way that smells of "tricks or "techniques" we pass them by without pity.

If a business treats us like a "thing" or a number instead of an individual person, we avoid them or buy elsewhere.

We humans don't like having manipulation techniques used on us, and when we detect that someone or something is using one to get the better of us, we resist.

So let's get back to the "how long to wait before calling her back" issue.

If you think about it, every situation is slightly different. One time you might meet a woman in the morning at coffee, and another time you might meet a woman at a club at 1 in the morning.

If you wait too long to call her back, I think you run the risk of seeming like you're just using a technique on her and you come across as a player who's trying to do your thing on her.

When deciding how long to wait before you call or email, I think it's important to ask yourself this question:

"WHAT WILL LIKELY INCREASE THE ATTRACTION IN THIS SITUATION?"

Here are a couple of ideas I have used with great success:

1) Email instead of calling first. I personally email the next day. I'll start with a charming email to get the conversation started and then tell her that I'm going to call in a day or two. This has the effect of making contact with her relatively quickly, but still creating anticipation because you haven't actually talked.

2) Call the next day, and make a joke about the situation. I might call and say, "Yeah, I was watching Swingers and they said to wait three days to call, but I was kind of in more of a one day mood"

If you didn't get her email address and you MUST use the phone, just do your best to avoid being AVERAGE.

I personally believe that our attention spans as humans are getting shorter and shorter. We have more and more information coming in from television, newspapers and other sources - and we're getting cultural A.D.D. I think that if you wait too long, you're risking either being seen as using a technique, or risking being forgotten altogether.

But if you make the opposite mistake and call too soon (for instance a few hours later), you run the risk of being seen as a needy Wuss who has no life.

In past newsletters, I have written about why it's important to leave immediately after getting a woman's email and/or number.

How long you should wait to call her back is a natural extension of this.

As a matter of fact, if you get a woman's email/number and then you keep coming over to talk to her, it can almost be seen as waiting 5 minutes to call her.

There's no anticipation, and it says all the wrong things.

A couple of other quick pointers for when you're making that first call:

1) Be busy. If you're going to ask her to join you for tea or something similar, make sure you mention two times that you're busy for every one time that you're available.

2) Don't linger on the phone. Make that first call short and to the point. If you stay on the phone for more than a few minutes, you're running the risk of getting into a normal "What do you do?", "Where do you live?", "Where did you go to school?" conversation. Avoid this.

To summarize, when in doubt wait a day or so to contact her again.

But more importantly, think about the situation in terms of anticipation and ATTRACTION, so when you do make contact it creates the correct context.

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Dont Compare Yourself To Others By David Wygant

So someone asked me a really good question, and he said, "man, I've been involved in the pick-up world, I've been doing all of this stuff trying to pick up women, and I've been at it a full year now, and there are some guys who are just better than me!"

What is funny about that is that, for one, life is a marathon - not a sprint. You can't compare yourself to other people and their accomplishments. Everybody learns at a different pace. Everyone learns things in different ways.

Not only that, but there are so many different ways to understand how to meet women - there are so many different methods. My method is more based on natural conversational styles and real inner confidence, which happens to take a little bit longer to learn and to manifest.

There are other guys out there that teach "handy-dandy pick-up lines" that you can use in an instant - and that works for some guys. But you have to realize that everybody's learning curve is different. Everybody has to learn at their own speed.

What a lot of guys fail to do is to embrace their small wins. They are always looking for the complete victory - it's almost like it's baseball preseason and you're already thinking about being in the World Series - you don't even want to play the full season, you're just trying to get to the Series.

But you've got to get up to the plate everyday and take your swings, and you also have to be okay with fucking up! It's really okay just to fuck up.

So you've walked over to a woman, you've approached her, and what you said didn't resonate with her. It doesn't mean that what you said to her was wrong; it means that you just didn't resonate with her. There just wasn't any chemistry.

You can't manipulate every single situation to work in your favor. You have to be okay with screwing up. You have to say to yourself everyday, "okay I'm going to go out, and talk to ten women today, and some of them are just not going to like me" - but what are you trying to do? What are you trying to accomplish?

What you are trying to do is to find one or two women to have an amazing conversation with. If you really think about it, you can't have chemistry with every person that you talk to. You just can't. You really need to grasp your mind around that and understand that it's okay to go out there and screw up.

If you go out there and screw up, it means that you are trying. If you are trying, then you are going to get it right, because if you practice, then you will start getting it right all the time.

You will start understanding situations better - you'll start trusting your gut instinct. Most guys don't trust their gut instinct when they first start out - they compare themselves to other people who are "better" than them - they just want to be that "better" person.

They never really think about what that "better" person went through - personally, I know what I went through, and it was YEARS of torture trying to figure this stuff out! In my 20s, I had days that were amazing, and I had days where I couldn't even spit out the word "hello" to a woman. And I couldn't figure out how I could be so good one day and so bad the next.

I used to take things personally. I would go and talk to a woman, and she just wouldn't be interested, and I would think it was something that I did. But then I realized it wasn't me, there just wasn't any chemistry between us - she wasn't vibing me, I wasn't vibing her.

You've got to realize that whatever pace you are going at is the pace that's right for you. As long as you are out there, every single day, trying - going out there, opening women up, flirting with women, talking with dudes (because you want to talk to guys too, so your conversation skills improve), listening - then you are doing well.

If you're doing the three key elements: observing (opening somebody up with an observation you made about them), having a conversation (and a conversation means listening and not just talking at that person), and leaving that person with the feeling that you had a positive interaction together, then you are going to be doing things that are right.

But you have to give yourself that permission to go out there and screw up. Most guys don't want to give themselves that permission. They think that if they don't get this one girl, it's all over - or they compare themselves to somebody else and they feel insecure. They say, "god, I've been doing this for a year!"

Think about this: how long does it take to become a good major league pitcher? Years, right? How long does it take to become Barry Bonds? Years and some good steroids, right?

How long does it take to put on a good campaign for President of the United States? Years! You are branding yourselves right now, and what you first have to realize is who you are, what you're all about, what you stand for, and what type of people you attract.

It's not about trying to win, and it's not about being better than other people. You want to be the best that YOU can possibly be.

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Suggested free e-books to read:

Wayne Ross - The Complete Guide To Handling Women
Wayne Ross - The Complete Guide To Attracting Women
Anthony Berger - Improve Your Looks By 3 Notches

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