Superkids The Hurried Generation

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David Elkind's book

Now in its third edition David Elkinds book is worth a read.

Two basic metaphors have underpinned learning but now we have third. The first (and oldest) is the idea of the blank slate, or tabular rosa. This is the basis of our current industrialized mass education system, best seen in our secondary schools. This metaphor results in students gaining education from knowledgeable teachers in an assembly line factory schools, divided into forty minute periods, run by bells, books, tests and timetables. It is a 'sit and git' model - or 'jug and mug'!

Much of the current school curriculum developments, imposed on schools, continues this metaphor with its obsession on educational measurement and the need to demonstrate the 'added value' the students have gained from their teachers.

The second metaphor is that of a growing plant. This is seen best in junior schools. This metaphor is based on providing a stimulating and supportive environment to encourage the learner to grow and to develop their gifts and talents appropriately.

The latest metaphor, and one with unhealthy consequences, is that of the 'super kid'. This has resulted in what Elkind calls the 'hurried child'. Arising out of an ideology of individualism and competition, this metaphor puts pressure on parents to hurry their children through childhood to give them an advantage in the future. It is an outcome of the 'dog eat dog', 'me decades', or the 'yuppie me first' culture!.

This hurrying is understandable in an age of increasing speed and insecurity and there is a growing industry ready to provide whatever any parents requires to give their child an academic advantage, non the least the computer industry! Parents often feel guilty if they aren't providing all they can.

Unfortunately most of what is being provided goes against what we know as age appropriate learning. What young children want is not to grow up quickly but common sense parents with clear values who, care, love, understand and give their chidren their time.

Children, Elkind writes, need to learn self confidence, to be able to cooperate with others, require 'normal' competition, and most of all, time to do whatever they want to do the best they can. They need to value their spontaneity and be able to make age appropriate choices and not be forced to grow up to soon. They need to value their own creativity and expression and not be rushed into pseudo pre - school readiness activities. They need time to mess around, to explore their natural environment using their senses, to play imaginative games with others, to learn to think for themselves, and in the process, learn to appreciate their unique gifts and talents.

Rushing children, Elkind writes, leads to anxious and stressful children. Children can easy begin to blame themselves for their failure by not getting the 'right' answers. Trying to reach impossible expectations seems to realize its worst effect in the teenage years resulting in 'learned helplessness'. This is a term that expresses the feelings students have when they cannot meet what others indicate are necessary expectations. For such students school becomes 'like a bad job', resulting in depression and burnout. Free floating anxiety, aggression, withdrawal and uncertainty, and worse, are the prices to be paid for rushing.

In school rushing children leads to standardization, testing, uniformity and an unhealthy obsession with doing things right rather than experimenting. Social skills and creative arts suffer as schooling is increasingly focused on literacy and numeracy.

The key is to live well in the present and not be so concerned about rushing into the future. Parents should enjoy simple experiences with their children and schools, rather than rushing to cover everything, should stop and do fewer thing well.

Instead of rushing, Elkind says, children need to be nurtured in a relaxed environment which gives young people opportunities to make age appropriate choices and, through trial and error and sensitive adult help, grow in discernment. Freedom, responsibity and reasoning cannot be rushed and all grow from healthy relaxed trusting relationships.

Elkind writes. 'The art of living is the most difficult task children have to learn. It is the children's right to be children, and to enjoy the pleasures and to suffer the pains of childhood that is infringed by hurrying. In the end, a childhood is the most basic right of children'

Where are people actually rushing too?

Are there aslo hurried teachers - trying to achieve impossible imposed expectations with equally stressful effects?

Quality if life is what it is all about.

Worth thinking about?



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March 14 Is Steak And Bj Day

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In an effort to make up for all the chocolate and flowers that men have to buy women on Valentine's Day, men now get their own day in which women have to give them the gifts that they want. It's on March 14, and it's called Steak and BJ day.

Every 14th of February you get the chance to display your fondness for a significant other by showering her with gifts, flowers, dinner, shows and any other baubles that women find romantic. Every Valentines day you rack your brains for that one special, unique gift that will show your wife or girlfriend that you really do care for them more than any other.

Now ladies, I'll let you in on a little secret; guys really don't enjoy this that much. Sure seeing that smile on your face when we get it right is priceless, but that smile is the result of weeks of blood, sweat and consideration. Another secret; guys feel left out. That's right, there's no special holiday for the ladies to show their appreciation for the men in their life. Men as a whole are either too proud or too embarrassed to admit it. Which is why a new holiday has been created.

March 14th is now officially "Steak and Blowjob Day". Simple, effective and self explanatory, this holiday has been created so you ladies finally have a day to show your man how much you care for him. No cards, no flowers, no special nights on the town; the name of the holiday explains it all, just a steak and a BJ. Thats it. Finally, this twin pair of Valentine's Day and Steak and Blowjob Day will usher in a new age of love as men everywhere try THAT much harder in February to ensure a memorable March 14th!

The word is already beginning to spread, but as with any new idea, it needs a little push to start the ball rolling. So spread the word, and help bring love and peace to this crazy world. And, of course, steak and BJ's.

Because the name of the holiday is self-explanatory, women don't have to worry about what to get their men. It's simple: a kickass steak and some memorable oral sex. Swallowing is optional.

Steak and BJ day was popularized by radio show host Tom Birdsey in 2002, and has since become a phenomenon among men who really want that steak and BJ. Can you blame 'em?

I think that men definitely deserve a holiday in which to call their own. I mean, let's face it; Valentine 's Day really is all about the women and men get stressed about what to buy them and whether or not their women will like it.

So why shouldn't men get to enjoy a day that is all about them? Don't men deserve to have a day where they get to devour a big, juicy steak and then get devoured by the very woman that made it for them?

If you ask me, I think that this holiday deserves way more recognition and that women definitely need to start stepping up their game with male appreciation.

The only thing I would recommend is perhaps changing the name, as it may not become a mainstream name that big publications will market.

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She Losing Interest

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JULIE SPIRA IS A BEST-SELLING AUTHOR, CYBER-DATING EXPERT, AND RADIO SHOW HOST. SHE IS THE AUTHOR OF" PERILS OF CYBER-DATING: CONFESSIONS OF A HOPEFUL ROMANTIC LOOKING FOR LOVE "AND HOSTS THE WEEKLY RADIO SHOW, ASK THE CYBER-DATING EXPERT. VISIT HER AT CYBERDATINGEXPERT.COM WHERE SINGLES AND COUPLES CAN SHARE THEIR ONLINE DATING STORIES.

QUESTION #1: SHE'S LOSING INTEREST

I met a woman online and we have been dating steadily for 3 months. The thing is, she gets so caught up with work and her social life that she never seems to have time for me.

I feel like I'm the one who's doing all the calling, setting up all the dates, and making all the moves. At first, she cleared her schedule for me - I was the number one thing in her life. But now it seems that she is more interested in everything but me.

I feel like I'm losing her but she insists that this is just part of life and that she's still very into me. How can I make her make me a priority again?

"JULIE SPIRAS ANSWER:

Nothing feels worse than when you find your relationship slipping away. The first 3 months of any relationship is the "perfect stage." This is where couples are infatuated with their new love interest.

Being the man and calling to set up dates is something many women expect the man to do. After 3 months, things settle into a groove. If you are slipping down on the totem pole, it's time to have a talk with her.

Sit her down and ask her what she thinks of the relationship status. Let her know that you would like to spend more time with her. If she is happy with the present schedule, and you are not, perhaps it's time to start dating other women.

QUESTION #2: DATING MUCH YOUNGER MEN

I am dating a much younger man - he's 23 and I'm 42. He treats me

like gold and I love spending time with him. So what's the problem? Well, wherever we go, young girls are always hitting on him and treating me like I'm his mother.

At first, I didn't think much of it, but now it's really starting to take a toll on my ego. Should I stay with this guy who claims to love me or should I try to find someone my own age and settle?

I really adore this younger gentleman and he doesn't even seem to notice these younger girls. But I'm afraid that if we stay together, he will start to notice them in a few years. What do you think? Can relationships between younger men and older women really work?

"JULIE SPIRAS ANSWER:

With
" Mania, Cougar "with Courteney Cox, and official Cougar Conferences, you are not alone in dating a much younger man. As a matter of fact, it's now in vogue.

Dating younger men is not a new concept. Look at the long-standing relationship with Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins which recently ended after 23 years. I'd call that a good run. There's DEMI and ASHTON, JULIET MILLS and MAXWELL CAULFIELD.

If he truly loves you and you don't notice him staring at women closer in age to himself, you might have a terrific relationship on your hands.

Where the problem may arise is if he is interested in having children. If his goal is to become a father, or if he is uncertain about this issue, you could get hurt. Find out if your life goals are the same, and if so, enjoy the relationship.

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Sociology How To Be Just Friends

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How To Be "Just Friends"

How To Be "Just Friends" : Why is it so hard to remain "just friends" with the opposite sex? Studies show the relationship ends more times than not once sex is introduced. Keep the friendship. Keep it platonic. Why is it so hard to remain "just friends" with the opposite sex? Studies show the relationship ends more times than not once sex is introduced. Keep the friendship. Keep it platonic.

Step 1: Friends With Benefits

If you remember the real advantages of opposite-sex friendship, you probably won't throw them away for a one-nighter. Guys, you can express your feelings with her in a way you can't with the boys. Girls, you get a protective, big-brother type pal. And you both get the inside scoop on how the other sex operates.

Step 2: Dirty Tricks

If you do find yourself eyeing up your buddy, put up some barriers. Ladies, next time you go out with your guy friend, slack off in the hygiene department. Try wearing grandma underwear. Skip the shower. Don't shave those legs. It'll help you keep your pants on.

Step 3: Wear Yourself Out

Gentlemen, expending sexual energy before you meet up with your female friend will usually suppress any inappropriate feelings that may pop up. And gals, don't be ashamed. This will work for you, too.

Step 4: Converse With Caution

Don't let the chatter drift toward sexual innuendo. No one wants to hear another "that's what SHE said" joke. Instead...talk about your ex. Or irritable bowel syndrome. Or the reptilian humanoid conspiracy theory. Don't talk about how tight your bra feels today. If you need a back rub, keep it to yourself. Oh, and take it easy on the booze. Friends don't let friends drink...and dive into bed.

Finally, if you find yourself waking up with your best bud, take some space, then talk. Remember, you're friends for a reason and if you really do care for each other, it won't be hard to figure out if it's love, lust, or just the liquor.

Thanks for watching our video How To Be "Just Friends" For more how to videos, expert advice, instructional tips, tricks, guides and tutorials on this subject, visit the topic Getting A Date.

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Dating Book Review Why Cant You Read My Mind

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Why Can't You Read My Mind? By Jeffrey Bernstein

Too many women I know expect their men to be psychic and figure out what they really mean by what they say, and now author JEFFREY BERNSTEIN, with contributor SUSAN MAGEE, address this very issue in" CANT YOU READ MY MIND?

If you find yourself having the same silly fights with your boyfriend or husband over and over again and feel like you're getting nowhere, then this book is definitely going to help you with the very toxic behaviors and thought patterns that are leading to the same arguments" CANT YOU READ MY MIND? will help you point out the toxic behaviors on your end that are sinking your relationship and will serve to teach you how to address the issues that matter and resolve them without having to yell or break anything.

Of course, reading the book won't instantly change your toxic behavior - it will take you some time to make the changes and make them stick, but at least now you'll be equipped with the knowledge of what's causing these issues and the steps you need to take to have a happier relationship.

Reading this book is easy because Jeffrey Bernstein's style is upbeat and fun, and he uses plain English to drive his points home.

And perhaps you don't think that you have anything to do with the problems in your relationship, but after you read" CANT YOU READ MY MIND? , you may change your thought process on that.

RATING: 4.5 OUT OF 5



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Antonio Sabato Reality Show

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If anyone remembers ANTONIO SABATO JR., it sure ain't for his acting skills. ANTONIO SABATO JR. starred as Jagger on the hit "General "and then modeled underwear for CALVIN KLEIN before doing a couple of crappy movies.

Well because the world [read: women] has not tired of looking at him, ANTONIO SABATO JR. is starring in a dating competition called in which 13 women compete for his affection, and it airs on Sunday nights on VH1

It's obvious that ANTONIO SABATO JR. is trying desperately to hang onto his looks - the teeth whitening, Botox and over-tweezing give him away. And the chicks... well, they've had a couple of procedures done as well.

The show takes place in Hawaii, and his mother and ex-wife also make appearances and sabotage his efforts at finding "true love".

Many things make the show laughable but the award winners are:

ANTONIO SABATO JR. cuts one woman for wearing open-toe sandals

He dumps another because his mother makes him


One bachelorette is obsessed with the notion that the other women want to steal her clothes

And one woman is like that chick in Seinfeld who cried about everything. Everything.

It's obvious that Antonio is just trying to hang on to the limelight for those last 15 minutes, but it makes me kind of sick that the F-list celebs are taking the limelight away from the nobodies who strive to be on reality shows.

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Flirting Tips How To Flirt In The Right Way

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Flirting is no longer a taboo in the society, even girls and boys both enjoy it. Flirting is an interesting activity if done wisely. Flirting is fun, it indicates that someone is interested in you or you are interested in someone. Flirting means giving the complete attention to him/her by touching, smiling, playing, talking, making different facial expression.

While involving in flirting activity, always keep in mind that flirting should express your feelings - in a respectful, decent, polite manner. There are few body language and body behaviour which help you to know, whether other person is interested in you or not:

BODY LANGUAGE


o eye contact

o Dilated pupils

o Arched eyebrows

o eye movement and blinking

o toying with hair

o Smiling

o Kissing lips

o Touching the lips or teeth with tongue

o Thrusting chest or breasts outward

o copying posture

o Winking

o Crossing legs

Conversation


o Smiling

o Laughing

o Whispering

o Personal questions like relationship status

Other Behavior


o touching

o hands in hands

o nervous

o avoidance of eye contact

o Standing on one leg or shifting weight back and forth



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How You Can Get A Chinese Girlfriend

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Why do you want a Chinese girlfriend? Have you considered the true answer to this query? I believe for many men it's really easy to answer as they have either been staying in China for years or else they have considerable experience with Chinese culture and Chinese ladies. On the other hand, if this is a dream for you and you haven't had any experience with China you might need to consider a bit on why you want a Chinese girlfriend.

For whatever reason, there are a large number of Western men who have a thing for Chinese women. It might be the slim bodies, the attitudes or the attention of Chinese ladies that causes them to be so sexy, but the point is they ARE sexy. Getting to China is simple enough and you might be surprised to learn that getting a Chinese girlfriend is simple enough too.

There are the obvious ways of connecting with ladies such as bars, but I wouldn't counsel going this route unless you're ready for distrust, requests for money and heart ache. There are better methods and you'll find that there are many awesome websites online to help you meet Chinese women. These websites have tens of thousands of girls all looking for the exact thing you are, friendship, love and maybe even marriage.

Any of the Chinese personals sites can help you meet literally 1000's of sexy Chinese girls who are anxious to make themselves your girlfriend. It won't matter whether you're in China or somewhere else in the world, these dating websites will make certain it's simple for you to locate a Chinese girlfriend. You'll find that a lot of the ladies sign up for love, but many are also there simply looking for some fun.

After connecting with some the girls, getting past the inevitable language problems and getting to know a few of them you're very likely to spend a bit of your time emailing and chatting online. If you can get a webcam this is superior as the ladies will definitely need to see what you look like. It shouldn't be too long until you get a fairly serious communication going with 1 (or more) of the ladies.

At this juncture you'll likely want to head over to China, if you're not already there, and meet up with the ladies in person. While the personals scene in China is fantastic for Europeans, there are thousands of guys who have gone the route of connecting with their Chinese girlfriends through Chinese dating websites. It definitely beats meeting the woblokes in a bar or club.

If you do end up going to China and meeting a lady in a club there are definitely some things to be aware of. It appears that many blokes lose all common sense when meeting Chinese women in bars, so attempt to maintain your wits and don't add to the fodder for tales about love gone bad on the net. Always remember that the entire reason women work in pubs is to make cash. They may fantasize of a knight in shining armor to take them away, but this is simply that, a fantasy, and earning cash comes first.

If you do correctly and take your time then there's no reason you can't find a Chinese girlfriend and love through the Chinese dating websites. Many sites on the web attempt to tell you about finding a Chinese girlfriend as if it is a set process, but it's really no different than beginning a relationship anywhere else. Just take it easy, be yourself and trust your gut.

It's not possible to completely tell you how to find a Chinese girlfriend in a post like this, just as it wouldn't be possible to completely tell you about finding a girlfriend anywhere in the world. The first step is to begin connecting with the women and the most simple way to do this is through the Chinese dating websites. After that it's up to you where you need any potential relationships to go. All I can say is that Chinese women are great and locating a Chinese girlfriend is simpler than you might assume.

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