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Are Canadian Men Wusses

An international student living in Canada has noticed a glaring difference between the men from her native Bahamas and men in Canada.

Seems the men in Canada are much more laid back when it comes to women and dating, and are more than willing to LET THE WOMEN MAKE THE MOVES.

The dating scene in the Bahamas, as well as in Europe, Africa, Australia, and South America, has the man doing the pursuing and the woman waiting to hear what he has to say. But in Canada, the men will sit back and stare at a woman all night but never make the move to ask her out.

This is very nerve wracking for women who are used to being pursued by testosterone-fueled men. Coming to a country where the men don't do the asking and where they're happy to let the women make the moves is a little unsettling, I bet.

Of course, not all Canadian men are this way, but I'm guessing it happens often enough that someone thought they should write about it.

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Dont Fail Her First Test

"by David Wygant, author of Date To Win."

Here is a question that gets asked a lot, but one I don't think we've ever covered in the blog.

Say you're on a date with a woman and she says, "Don't worry, we can split the bill." What do you do in that situation?

I can tell you what I've done the majority of my life. Unless I was broke and poor, and just plain couldn't afford it, I've responded to that by saying "No, I'll take care of it. You can get me another time."

I hate to say this, but a lot of women at that moment are testing you. They really are.

A woman at that moment wants to see if you will "man up" and pay for the date. It doesn't matter if it's a cup of coffee, drinks or dinner. She wants to see if you will be a man and pay for the first date.

A lot woman will take you out on date three, four or five. They really will. They still want you to pay for the first date though.

So guess what happens to the guy who says "Okay" or "Great!" to the woman who says you can split the bill on the first date? She probably won't ever return your phone call or go out with you again.

Here's another note about this. Don't take women out on dates you can't afford. Pick dates that are within your budget.

Don't to take a woman out to a 5-star restaurant if you can only afford a 1-star restaurant. Don't take a woman out for a bottle of wine when you can only afford a glass of wine.

Always pick up the bill on that first date, because women will test you with this. They don't know you yet, and they will test you. You don't want to fail her first test.

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How To Know A Man Loves You

1. Once women understand that a men shows love in so many varieties just to make her happier. By recognizing the loving gestures you will definitely help came to know about them. Sometimes, all those three little words are being yelled loud and so clear and are full of actions.

2. Make sure that something is going on the side. Some of the activities, friends and hobbies are all the important things in keeping you with same. No one can stand to be around 24 hours a day without there being tension from time and again. The smart idiom is that the absence makes the heart grow fonder is a real truth.

3. Generally, the means typically are not offered too many styles in the same color as women do. Thus, the strappy black sling back is exactly as the same as the peep toe black sling back.

4. Mainly, the women are the ones that ordinarily like to negotiate and make the plan in the details of everything. But men are quiet and does not feel the necessity mean that everything has to be planned in a manner.

5. Men do not generally interested in knowing anything that is related with the past of the woman. Even, it is nothing wrong if the couple keeps some private things private.

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Valentine Day 6 Lingerie

We're going to switch gears today and focus on ideas for men on Valentine's Day.

We polled our visitors and the number one thing that men said they wanted for Valentine's Day was lingerie. Surprised? Even if they don't plan for it to be on long, men still want lingerie. And if you're willing to play along, we've found a great place - Henry and June - that offers sexy lingerie, plus-size lingerie, and men's as well.

Once you have the lingerie, it's time to have a little fun with it. Sure, you could simply surprise him in bed with a little extra sexiness, but we've come up with a few fun ideas to heat up the night even more:

* Surprise him at the door. When he's on his way back for work or to pick you up, open the door in your sexy wear.
* Cook a romantic dinner and eat by candlelight. When it's time for dessert, serve him in your sexy lingerie.
* Wear lingerie under your dress while out for your Valentine's Day dinner. Before you enter the restaurant, give him a quick glimpse of what he'll get later on that night.
* Get a sexy costume and spend the evening role-playing.

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Crafting Your Image Via Facebook

Don't doubt the power of social networks for dating and getting your image across! Window Shopping for Women goes a lot deeper into this, but this is a very interesting article about crafting your image on Facebook from UCLA:

Students are creating idealized versions of themselves on social networking Web sites -- Facebook and MySpace are the most popular -- and using these sites to explore their emerging identities, UCLA psychologists report. Parents often understand very little about this phenomenon, they say.

"People can use these sites to explore who they are by posting particular images, pictures or text," said UCLA psychology graduate student Adriana Manago, a researcher with the Children's Digital Media Center, Los Angeles (CDMCLA), and lead author of a study that appears in a special November-December issue of the Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology devoted to the developmental implications of online social networking. "You can manifest your ideal self. You can manifest who you want to be and then try to grow into that.

"We're always engaging in self-presentation; we're always trying to put our best foot forward," Manago added. "Social networking sites take this to a whole new level. You can change what you look like, you can Photoshop your face, you can select only the pictures that show you in a perfect lighting. These Web sites intensify the ability to present yourself in a positive light and explore different aspects of your personality and how you present yourself. You can try on different things, possible identities, and explore in a way that is common for emerging adulthood. It becomes psychologically real. People put up something that they would like to become -- not completely different from who they are but maybe a little different -- and the more it gets reflected off of others, the more it may be integrated into their sense of self as they share words and photos with so many people."

"People are living life online," said Manago's co-author Patricia Greenfield, a UCLA distinguished professor of psychology, director of the CDMCLA and co-editor of the journal's special issue. "Social networking sites are a tool for self-development."

The Web sites allow users to open free accounts and to communicate with other users, who number in the tens of millions on Facebook and MySpace. Participants can select "friends" and share photos, videos and information about themselves -- such as whether they are currently in a relationship -- with these friends. Many college students have 1,000 or more friends on Facebook or MySpace. Identity, romantic relations and sexuality all get played out on these social networking sites, the researchers said.

"All of these things are what teenagers always do," Greenfield said, "but the social networking sites give them much more power to do it in a more extreme way. In the arena of identity formation, this makes people more individualistic and more narcissistic; people sculpt themselves with their profiles. In the arena of peer relations, I worry that the meaning of 'friends' has been so altered that real friends are not going to be recognized as such. How many of your 1,000 'friends' do you see in person? How many are just distant acquaintances? How many have you never met?"

"Instead of connecting with friends with whom you have close ties for the sake of the exchange itself, people interact with their 'friends' as a performance, as if on a stage before an audience of people on the network," Manago said.

"These social networking sites have a virtual audience, and people perform in front of their audience," said Michael Graham, a former UCLA undergraduate psychology student who worked on this study with Greenfield and Manago for his honor's thesis. "You're a little detached from them. It's an opportunity to try different things out and see what kind of comments you get.

"Sometimes people put forth things they want to become, and sometimes people put forth things that they're not sure about how other people will respond," he added. "They feel comfortable doing that. If they put something forward that gets rave reviews from people, it can alter the way they view their own identity. Through this experimentation, people can get surprised by how the molding goes."

Is this exploration of identity through these Web sites psychologically healthy?

"Every medium has its strengths and weaknesses, its psychological costs and benefits," said Greenfield, an expert in developmental psychology and media effects. "Costs may be the devaluing of real friendships and the reduction of face-to-face interaction. There are more relationships, but also more superficial relationships. Empathy and other human qualities may get reduced because of less face-to-face contact. On the other hand, new college students can make contact with their future roommates and easily stay in touch with high school friends, easing the social transition to college, or from one setting to another."

"I hate to be an older person decrying the relationships that young people form and their communication tools, but I do wonder about them," said Kaveri Subrahmanyam, associate director of the CDMCLA, professor of psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and senior editor of the special journal issue. "Having 1,000 friends seems to be like collecting accessories."

Middle school is too young to be using Facebook or MySpace, Subrahmanyam believes, but by ninth grade, she considers the Web sites to be appropriate. She recommends that parents speak with their children, starting at about age 10, concerning what they do online and with whom they are interacting. Subrahmanyam notes that some of parents' greatest online fears -- that their children will be harassed by predators or receive other unwanted or inappropriate Internet contact -- have been decreasing, although parents may not know this.

In her own study in the journal, Subrahmanyam and colleagues Stephanie Reich of the University of California, Irvine, Natalia Waechter of the Austrian Institute for Youth Research and Guadalupe Espinoza, a UCLA psychology graduate student, report that, for the most part, college students are interacting with "people they see in their offline, or physical, lives."

"Young people are not going online to interact with strangers or for purposes removed from their offline lives," she said. "Mostly they seem to be using these social networking sites to extend and strengthen their offline concerns and relationships."

Research shows that adolescents who have discussed online safety with their parents and teachers are less likely to have a meeting with anyone they met online, Subrahmanyam noted.

"The best thing that parents can do is to have a rough idea of what their teens do online and have discussions with them about being safe online," she said.

What does having 1,000 friends do to your relationships with your true friends?

"Relationships now may be more fleeting and more distant," Manago said. "People are relating to others trying to promote themselves and seeing how you compare with them. We found a lot of social comparisons, and people are comparing themselves against these idealized self-presentations.

"Women feel pressure to look beautiful and sexy, yet innocent, which can hurt their self-esteem" she said. "Now you are part of the media; your MySpace profile page is coming up next to Victoria's Secret models. It can be discouraging to feel like you cannot live up to the flawless images you see."

"You're relating to people you don't really have a relationship with," Greenfield said. "People have a lot of diffuse, weak ties that are used for informational purposes; it's not friendship. You may never see them. For a large number of people, these are relationships with strangers. When you have this many people in your network, it becomes a performance for an audience. You are promoting yourself. The line between the commercial and the self is blurring.

"The personal becomes public, which devalues close relationships when you display so much for everyone to see," Greenfield added.

"Who we are is reflected by the people we associate with," Manago said. "If I can show that all these people like me, it may promote the idea that I am popular or that I associate with certain desirable cliques."

Not much remains private.

"You can be at a party or any public place, and someone can take a picture of you that appears on Facebook the next day," Manago said.

However, Graham said, the social networking sites can also strengthen relationships. He also said many people have "second-tier friends that they may have met once but would not have stayed in touch with if not for the MySpace or Facebook networks."

The study by Manago, Greenfield and Graham, along with co-author Goldie Salimkhan, a former UCLA psychology undergraduate major, was based on small focus groups with a total of 11 women and 12 men, all UCLA students who use MySpace frequently.

One male student in the study said of MySpace, "It's just a way to promote yourself to society and show everyone, 'I'm moving up in the world, I've grown. I've changed a lot since high school.'"

How honestly do people present themselves on these sites?

Another male student in a focus group said, "One of my friends from high school, I saw her profile and I was like, 'Whoa, she's changed so much from high school,' and I see her this summer and I'm like, 'No, she's exactly the same!' Her MySpace is just a whole other level."

"Just at the age where peers are so important, that's where social networking -- which is all about peers -- is very attractive," Greenfield said. "Just at the age where you're exploring identity and developing an identity, that's where this powerful tool for exploring identity is very appealing. These sites are perfectly suited for the expanded identity exploration characteristic of emerging adults."

Another study in the special issue of the journal, conducted by Larry Rosen of California State University, Dominguez Hills, and colleagues Nancy Cheever and Mark Carrier, shows that parents have high estimates of the dangers of social networking but very low rates of monitoring and of setting limits on their children.

Rosen and his colleagues found that a parenting style that is marked by rational discussion, monitoring of children, setting limits and giving reasons for the limits is associated with less risky online behavior by children.

Greenfield advises parents of adolescents not to give their child a computer with Internet access in his or her bedroom.

"But even with a computer in a family room, complete monitoring is impossible," she said. "Children have so much independence that parents have to instill a compass inside them. Seeing what they are doing on the computer and discussing it with them is a good way to instill that compass."

In an additional study in the journal that highlights the beneficial nature of Facebook "friends," Charles Steinfield, Nicole B. Ellison and Cliff Lampe of Michigan State University examine the relationship between Facebook use and social capital, a concept that describes the benefits one receives from one's social relationships. They focus on "bridging social capital," which refers to the benefits of a large, heterogeneous network -- precisely the kind of network these sites can support.

Their article argues that there is a direct connection between students' social capital and their use of Facebook, and using data over a two-period, they found that Facebook use appears to precede students' gains in bridging social capital.

They also found that Facebook use appears to be particularly beneficial for students with lower self-esteem, as it helps them overcome the barriers they would otherwise face in building a large network that can provide access to information and opportunity.

"Young people do seem to be aware of the differences between their close friends and casual acquaintances on Facebook," Steinfield said. "Our data suggest that students are not substituting their online friends for their offline friends via Facebook; they appear to be using the service to extend and keep up with their network."

The Children's Digital Media Center, Los Angeles, has received federal funding from the National Science Foundation. For more information about the center and the special journal issue, please visit www.cdmc.ucla.edu.

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A Woman Guide To Writing A Great Profile

OK... the time has come. You have joined an online dating service or two. Now you must write that all-important profile… the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams… but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.

The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.

Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

There are several elements that go into creating a profile that people will want to click to read. One is your photo, another is your username, and then there's your header. Here are four specific tips for creating a good profile header:

- Analyze Other Profile Headers.

One of the best ways to create a winning profile header is to analyze headers others use that interest you. What is it about the header that makes you want to click on their profile and learn more? Here are a few of our favorites (some funny, some philosophical, and some simply clever):

"We make a perfect couple: I've got the brains and you've got the body!"
"Ok, I'm here. Now what's your other two wishes?"
"Bright spark looking to ignite shared paths"
"Just like a new job, I offer excellent benefits."
"Strangers are friends waiting to be made."

Use the insight you gain from reading interesting profile headers to create your own.

- Avoid Boring and Overused Headers.

When a person can't think of what to say for their header message, they usually resort to common and overused headers like "I may be the one" or "looking to meet new people."

You don't want to appear common. There are tens of thousands of people competing with you in a quest to find that "perfect" partner. Therefore make sure that the header you use will attract the attention of others. Which one of these four profile headers would attract your attention?

"You May be the One I'm Looking for"
"Looking to Meet New People"
"Hello"
"Willing to Lie About How We Met!"

Three of those are overused. One takes a humorous approach to the concept of telling others how you met. It's unique and clever. Make sure your header is uncommon in a sea of commonalities.

- Change Your Header Message

It's always a good idea to keep your profile fresh by rotating your pictures and changing your header message once in awhile. Every week create a new and clever, creative, or filtered subject header. Different subject headers attract different people, therefore you may reach "new" people by keeping your header fresh and updated.

- Use Your Header as a Filter.

One of the biggest complaints we hear from online daters is the number of people who contact them that are not what they are looking for. It may be a man 15 years older or someone who's body type doesn't match what you want. If you want to improve the interest shown to you from qualified respondents, then start by using your header to filter out unwanteds. For example:

"Looking for fit 24-30 year old male within 20 miles of Los Angeles"

By creating a filter, when a person who doesn't match your criteria reads your header they are likely to continue on. Yet when a "fit 24-30 year old local male" reads the header, it attracts him because he meets your criteria. Here are some real filter type subject headers we've seen people use:

"Please be local, fit, over 40, and have a posted picture."
"Must be at least 5'10" to get on this ride"
"I love a man in uniform. Military men, apply within."
"Romantic men seem to be extinct. If you're extinct, contact me now."

Improve your matches by using your subject header to filter your results!

Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.

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David Deangelos Man Transformation Live Event Sign Up List

For those of you who are a bit behind the times, David Deangelo has announced to seduction community insiders that he will hold an exclusive live program called the "Man Transformation Program" in April. There is MASSIVE demand for this, and seats are "VERY" limited. David has promised that the price is UNDER $2000. This has got to be one of the best deals to come along, and a great chance to learn from one of the most influential dating gurus around.

Here is the link to get on the PRE-INTEREST LIST. Basically those who want to have a SHOT at getting into David Deangelo's training program need to be on this list ASAP.

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Mr Perfect Does Not Exist

The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle. Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.

It’s true that online dating, while in its infancy, was only made up of perverts, sexual predators, nerds and weirdoes but that is no longer true. It has become the main tool of the single person in every developed country in the world. Forty million people can’t all be wrong. Ask your girl friends if they have ever used online dating or are using it now. If they are honest with you, most of them have or are now members of at least one online dating site and maybe more than one. It really is the way to go to meet eligible men who want to meet you. It doesn’t matter what any of your numbers are…like age, height, weight or income either. Somewhere out there in the big wide world there is a man who will like you…..then love you….and think that you are beautiful and desirable. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true. What is considered beautiful in one part of the world is completely different from what is considered beautiful in another part of the world. It’s even different from one part of this country to another.

Find an online dating site that fits your needs. Write a great profile and post a flattering picture. Start contacting eligible men on the site. Mr. Close-enough-to-perfect could be a few mouse clicks away.

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Are Canadian Men Wusses

Dont Fail Her First Test

How To Know A Man Loves You

Valentine Day 6 Lingerie

Crafting Your Image Via Facebook

A Woman Guide To Writing A Great Profile

- Change Your Header Message

David Deangelos Man Transformation Live Event Sign Up List

Mr Perfect Does Not Exist

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