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Are Gorgeous Men Faithful

R DON STEELE IS THE FAMED AUTHOR OF" TO DATE YOUNG WOMEN: FOR MEN OVER 35, BODY LANGUAGE "AND" MANS GUIDE TO "AND HAS PROVIDED HIS DATING EXPERTISE IN OVER 400 RADIO INTERVIEWS. WITH A NO-NONSENSE APPROACH TO THE DATING WORLD, R DON STEELE TELLS IT LIKE IT IS AND HELPS MEN FIND THE WOMEN THEY WANT EVERY TIME.

Reader question:

I am currently dating a guy who is ridiculously gorgeous. We've been together for a couple of months and, although I'm pretty sure he likes me a lot, I get the feeling he's leading me on. Why? Well, he always flirts with my friends and always jokes about having an "open" relationship.

When we're alone, though, he makes me feel so special. Am I kidding myself that this guy is faithful or will remain faithful? Should I just leave him and find someone new? Is there something I can do to hook him so that he only wants me? Please help!

"R Don Steele's answer:

"Well, he always flirts with my friends..."

Good looking men flirt, period. Why? Because they can and women like it and that feels good and reassuring to both the man and the woman! If you want this to stop, you must tell him something like "Jim when you flirt with my friends it hurts my feelings. I'd appreciate it if you didn't."

This must be said when the 2 of you are relaxed and nobody is around. It must be a gentle request not an order or an ultimatum. If he replies with "Oh for God's sake I'm not serious", or some other way of not listening with respect, I want you to say something like, "I know, honey, and it does bother me a lot. I'd really like it if you didn't".

His response to that will let you know. I don't mean just his words; I mean if he does not stop, you are not important to him. I suggest one more try, however, this time with a tinge of anger in your voice. about it should go something like this: "Jim, it really hurts me when you flirt with my friends. Please stop." You know what to do if it does not stop.

"... and always jokes about having an "open" relationship."

GORGEOUS MEN NEED TO KNOW

Again, you must share with him that it hurts your feelings and say what you want. Be sure to add, "I only want to be with you. I love you and adore you." Just like with the flirting, if he comes back with, "I'm just kidding, can't you lighten up?" You come back by simply repeating the request. And if it doesn't stop, you know what to do.

Suggested free e-books to read:

William Cobbett - Advice To Young Men
Brian Tracy - Create Your Own Future
Martin Merill - Make Women Laugh

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25 Points Tyler Durden

Tyler Durden from RSD gets a really bad rap from Neil Strauss in The Game. I really think it's because TD was probably the only guy Style felt inferior to in it. But then again, it's a novel, and there have to be some good guys and some bad guys. Had a friend who went to a RSD seminar and heard TD speak about the book and he said that its probably one of the best things to have happened to him and really helped his business.

Here's TD's oft quoted 25 points post that points out mistakes he sees guys repeatedly making in field

Tyler says: This is some of the main shit I focus on fixing when I'm in the field. Almost EVERYONE I met so far screws up this shit, and it totally fucks up their sarges.

Source: fastseduction.com post by Tyler

Taught a few hundred guys by now just from meeting guys through PAIR and in workshops recently, and this is the shit that ups their game instantly with no tactics or anything. I see this shit ALL THE TIME. It's the BIGGEST and most COMMON problem I see after everyone I've met. This is some of the main shit I focus on fixing when I'm in the field.

Almost EVERYONE I met so far screws up this shit, and it totally fucks up their sarges.

If you do this, don't feel bad. 99% of guys I meet do it to various extents (myself included).

This is the extension of the "10 alpha qualities" post, which was when I was first figuring out what this shit meant. Back then, I was just posting observations. This post contains conclusions, having now thought about it.

ERADICATE this shit, and your game will go up B-I-G-T-I-M-E, more than ANY tactics will help you. This is part of what's called being a "natural". Even with nothing else, if you know this stuff you'll do well socially, and probably get laid. This stuff is the KEY.

This stuff is only for people who play the REAL game, not the INTERNET ARMCHAIR GAME. So guys who don't actually PLAY can skip this, because there's not much theory in it - its directly applicable.

1) FIDGETY MOVEMENTS AND TIGHT SHOULDERS AND TAKING YOURSELF TOO SERIOUSLY OR BEING TOO BUSINESSLIKE OR "SOPHISTICATED" (not laughing or being relaxed) = very visible subconsious (or conscious) self-doubt, overcompensating through non-relaxed state, where you're prepared to deal with anything that could happen. Ever met someone who doesn't blink when you talk to them?

2) TALKING TOO FAST = worried that people will stop listening to you unless you get out something that will interest them before they leave

3) LAUGHING AT YOUR OWN JOKES = covering up that you aren't affected that others didn't laugh, and social nervousness

4) SAYING "RIGHT" OR "YOU KNOW" AFTER STATEMENTS = seeking validation that what you said was true, or saying it because others aren't

5) STANDING WITH LEGS NOT HALF A METER APART AT LEAST = worried that you'll infringe on other people's personal space

6) TALKING TOO SOFTLY OR LOUD = fear that you'll impose yourself on people and their personal space(ie: beta).. alpha males aren't afraid to project their voice.. YET, talking obviously too LOUD can also be seen as OVERCOMPENSATING. Just like guys who wear GENERIC clothes are trying to fit in, or guys who wear OUTRAGEOUS clothes are trying too hard to overcompensate. (hint: be careful with peacocking, find a style that doesn't come off this way, which can be tricky but is still very doable).. Some guys don't talk, some talk too much, etc etc.. Find appropriate balance through trial and error, which is determined through social observation,

7) MOVING YOUR HANDS AROUND WHILE YOU TALK = trying to keep the attention of the group (sometimes can be cool, but most often a form of qualifying yourself)

8) LEANING IN *or* 'PECKING' = too eager to talk.. NEVER lean in no matter how loud the environment is MAKE HER LEAN IN or just leave but NEVER lean in or "peck" as its also called.

9) FACING BODY/FEET TOWARDS HER BEFORE SHE EARNED IT = trying to gain rapport with her too eagerly.

10) CHASING WHEN SHE WALKS AWAY = hoping she'll listen. If a chick moves away from you, move your bodylanguage MORE away from her, so she'll be drawn back.. don't CHASE her... WTF?!@?!?

11) NOT WITHDRAWING (backturns, etc) WHEN SHE DOES SOMETHING THAT YOU WOULDN'T TOLERATE FROM AN UGLY GIRL OR A GUY = trying too hard to pick her up

12) ANSWERING QUESTIONS TOO QUICKLY/EARLY = too much interest in the conversation

13) TURNING YOUR HEAD (OR "SNAPPING") WHEN YOU'RE ADDRESSED = too eager to be in convo.. so if your head is facing the other direction, and a girl says something to you, turn it SLOWLY to her, don't snap it out of eagerness to hear her

14) GOING BACK TO A PRIOR THREAD THAT WAS INTERUPTED AT THE FIRST CHANCE/BREAK-IN-CONVO THAT YOU GET = trying too hard to impress them.. (ie: when a thread gets broken off in the convo, and you go back to it FIRST chance you get when the other topic ends, you look like you were WAITING to get back to it.. WHY are you so eager to get back on it, unless you don't feel comfortable around the person and you need to qualify yourself to them?) WAIT until THEY say "what was that you were saying before?", and THEN go back to it.. if it doesn't happen, *DROP IT* even if it was good.

15) NOT APPEARING MORE INTO YOUR WINGMAN THEN THE CHICK = trying too hard to pick her up.. you've known your wingman longer than her.. why do you pay more attention to her than your wing?

16) TOO EAGER TO PAY ATTENTION - SAYING "what?" IF YOU CAN'T HEAR HER, PRIOR TO BEING IN RAPPORT = too much interest in what she's saying.. if she mumbles, just STACK OPENERS into an entirely DIFFERENT topic, RATHER than saying "what?" This is fucking KEY KEY KEY. If you say "what?" you'll lose her unless you're already past attraction and into rapport. If this happens, just run a new opener and change the topic. 1- you don't look too eager, 2- you look alpha for being disinterested in what she's talking about which helps anyway

17) REPLYING WITH OVERLY THOUGHT-OUT OF LOGICAL ANSWERS OR WITH OVERLY CLEAR/FORMAL PRONUNCIATION = being concerned that you won't be accepted unless you convince really well (eg. HB: why did you ask me that... RIGHT = I'm talking. (sit and stare) WRONG = because I really need to know since I've been thinking about this for a while.. the FIRST one conveys that you won't qualify yourself to her)

18) TAKING TOO MANY SENTENCES TO STATE AN IDEA THAT COULD BE STATED IN LESS SPACE = qualifying yourself. Commander Zap emails me a few months ago: "Remember TD, don't write what you can say, don't say what you can wink, don't wink what you can smile" TIGHT. The shorter you can explain something in, the more PROFOUND you'll appear. Why? You're not qualifying yourself. (ironically I'm massively guilty of this, due to the fact that I post when I'm really tired - see #21 to spot what was wrong with this last sentence)

19) BEING BOLD INSTEAD OF CONFIDENT = that you know that you can't pick her up, so you compensate with self-defeating actions so that the snub can be on "your terms". Saying "I'm sexy right?" or "baby I want some of that" or even just approaching when the logistics are totally unrealistic is too eager, because a CONFIDENT person wouldn't feel the NEED to say these kinds of things.. these things are symptoms of OVERCOMPENSATION for INSECURITIES.. which leads to..........

20) OVERCOMPENSATING INSECURITIES = fear of not being accepted. Have you ever met a janitor who the first thing he says is "money is over-rated.. I would never get caught up in the corporate world" blah blah.. if they'd have just said "I'm a janitor" and LEFT IT AT THAT we wouldn't have even THOUGHT that anything was wrong with it.. but because they INSTANTLY start overcompensating, it comes off as overcompensating or qualifying. Same with if they BRING IT UP TOO EARLY. Like "hey, I'm Steve.. I'm a janitor and I love it".. They're TRYING to be cocky but it comes off as COMPENSATING. BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF. If you're BALD, don't say "would you love a bald man?" as a pickup line. It's not COCKY.... its BOLD. If you're bad looking, don't say "don't you think I'm sexy". Just be comfortable with yourself, and don't bring up the issue at all.

21) OVERCOMPENSATING FAILURE OR SHORTCOMINGS = fear of being judged.. if you do poorly on a presentation, or on a sarge in front of a wingman, or on a test, DO NOT SAY DUMB SHIT LIKE "I'm really tired". EVEN IF you're ACTUALLY really tired, the mere act of saying "I'm tired" comes off as QUALIFYING yourself to the person. Just don't bring it up. If you have shitty clothes on, don't say "I have nicer clothes at home." Just don't bring it up. If you meet a girl when you're dressed bad, don't say "I have the coolest club clothes at home" Just don't bring it up.

22) GOING BACKWARDS IN THE PICKUP ON HER SCHEDULE = too eager to lay her.. if you've already GONE THROUGH the whole "let's ballbust and shit test eachother" attraction phase of the pickup, and you're now in RAPPORT -> if she tries to ballbust you at this point then just WITHDRAW ATTENTION. DO NOT BALLBUST BACK. It seems COUNTER INTUITIVE, but once you've gone through that whole little attract phase, and you're now being nice to eachother in rapport, DO NOT let her rewind the sarge by answering her ballbusting with ballbusts of your own. Just withdraw attention, to show that you're not interested in going BACKWARDS in a sarge.

23) WAITING FOR HER IF SHE LEAVES FOR ANY REASON (LIKE SAYS "I'M GOING TO THE WASHROOM, WAIT HERE) = too eager and into the convo.. if she goes to the washroom, make sure you're into another set by the time she gets back.

24) OVERLY REMEMBERING DETAILS ABOUT PAST CONVOS = convo means too much to you, because the person has unusual value to you (ie: a hot chick). Of course, I'm not advocating to be a total dick, but the general rule of thumb is that if you wouldn't have remembered a FAT CHICK or a GUY saying it, then don't remember the HB9 chick saying it. If some random dude said it and you would have remembered, then FINE. If you were in an unusually intimate convo that's also fine. But otherwise FAKE forgetting, even if she's a model and you remember every word. Even forget her name. If you see a random chick from your class or work, but you never talked to her, OPEN LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW HER. Don't give into the temptation to say "we work together". Just open like a random chick, and maybe if you get snubbed then pull out that card to save face, but only as a LAST RESORT.

25) OFFERING TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF TOO *EARLY* = too eager to make them like you.. subcategories of this are:

A) Verbally: if you say to a chick "yeah, I just got back from NYC (or any cool place that would impress)" or "yeah, I just got my Rolex fixed", or "yeah, my stripper ex-girlfriend told me..." then she PICKS UP on the fact that you're trying too hard to impress her.. Same with NAME DROPPING.. DON'T GIVE GIRLS YOUR RESUME TOO EARLY.. Personality conveying routines should convey personality COVERTLY, so it looks like the story is just SO COOL that its WORTH TELLING on its own accord, and it just HAPPENS to have some good things about you in it. When offering good things about yourself, don't offer boring details. Say it with less detail, and it seems less eager. INSINUATE THAT WHICH YOU ARE TEMPTED TO ELICIDATE (holy shit, I just made up that last catchy sentence, but I've gotta say that I'm the shit.. right?)

B) Entertaining: If you have stuff like patterns, or the CUBE, or magic, or photos, or palmreading, and you do this EARLY, it comes off as TRY-HARD. Personally I don't use any of these things, but alot of guys do, and when they bust them out prior to the chick EARNING it, it comes off TRY-HARD. Use the stuff LATER, but not right away.

C) Wanting rapport with someone who didn't earn it: WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS SHIT? I swear to god, almost *EVERY* PUA I meet live in field does this shit, and its SUPER LAME. Going up to a chick and saying "nice necklace" or "what's your name" or "where did you get that?" is FUCKING DORK SUPER LAME. WHY THE FUCK DO YOU CARE ABOUT THIS STUFF FROM A R-A-N-D-O-M PERSON? The counter argument to this is that you're not hiding your desires blah blah blah she's a hot girl and she should be happy that you're approaching, but this is INTERNET RHETORIC.. and this approach is STILL hiding your desires behind the GUISE that you're nice, so even if the rhetoric was true, it would STILL be ineffective... In the INTERNET ARMCHAIR GAME this stuff is FINE, but in the REAL FIELD GAME this shit screws you over before you've even started gaming. It's fucking bullshit, and NOBODY who isn't very goodlooking or socially proofed (or whatever high value) PRIOR to going in, can make this kind of approach work consistently on HB8.5+ chicks. TRYING FOR RAPPORT TOO EARLY IS QUALIFYING YOURSELF TO HER BECAUSE SHE HAS NOT EARNED IT.

D) Talking without feedback: When you're talking to someone, and they don't give feedback, and you're talking and talking, you BETA YOURSELF. It's a DOWNWARD SPIRAL, where you start talking TOO MUCH, and you SENSE that you're qualifying yourself, so you overcompensate EVEN MORE by TALKING and TALKING more and more.. Then you feel more and more beta'ed because you qualified yourself, and you're left treading water, grabbing at ANYTHING that will impress the person, so you keep talking in hopes of saying that one thing that will impress them. AVOID this by not talking too much unless THEY give some feedback. IN THE FIELD you do this by PAUSING and FORCING them to fill in the awkward gaps.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Tony Horton - P90 Power Diet Guide
Tyler Durden - Routines Opener Curve

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Act Like A Lady Get What You Want

"We want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed."

LUDACRIS, from the USHER song "Yeah!"

It is a man's mission to be with a woman, and it is your mission, in turn, to end up with a good man. But the problem with most women nowadays is that they feel the need to mask their femininity as though it's some kind of psoriasis. But believe me when I tell you that the key to attracting men, is to act like a lady.

The sooner you learn to embrace the fact that you should not only embrace the woman you are, but act like a lady, the sooner you will begin to attract the gentleman of your dreams.

It seems that women have forgotten what has gotten them this far in their journey to be the "It" gender. What you need to do is go back to your roots and remember what it was like in the days of Jackie Onassis... it's time you went back to behaving like real ladies.

And here's how you can act like a lady.

ACT LIKE A LADY TIP #1

FLATTER HIM

Flattering a man in an original way that is based on his intelligence or strength will always make him putty in your hands. Flattery works when you want to change a subject, get your way or even ask for a favor. Learn how to make him feel like gold with your compliments and he will, in turn, buy you some.

ACT LIKE A LADY TIP #2

LAUGH AT HIS JOKES

Even if he thinks knock-knock jokes are hilarious and continues to use them throughout the evening, make sure to act like a lady by laughing at his jokes and feel free to throw in a mild touch of his shoulder, accompanied by an "Oh, you're so funny!"

Remember that women place "sense of humor" at the top of their list of "What I look for in a man." He knows because he reads all these dumb studies and believes them.

ACT LIKE A LADY TIP #3

DRESS IN A PROVOCATIVELY CONSERVATIVE SORT OF WAY

Is this a contradiction in terms, you wonder? Well, not really. We all know that showing off an abundance of skin is never the right way to go if you want to give off the right impression with a man.

Always wear heels and skirts on dates, and unbutton only the fist two buttons of your button-down shirt. If you want to act like a lady, a bare torso and everything-but-the-nipple are unacceptable.

ACT LIKE A LADY TIP #4

ASK HIM TO DO THINGS FOR YOU

Although he might grumble about it, men love it when you ask them to perform certain small tasks. It can be something as simple as getting you a cup of coffee. When you ask a man to do you a favor, his mind tricks him into believing that you're worthy and he ends up liking you more.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Debra Benton - How To Act Like A Ceo
Kurt Mortensen - Persuasion Iq The 10 Skills You Need To Get Exactly What You Want
Steve Harvey - Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man

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Attention To Detail By Kezia

When asking a handful of men to describe a particular man after he has left the room, most men would probably say

"Blonde guy in a black a jacket and jeans"

Where as a woman would describe him as

"Good looking in a metro sexual kind of way"

"Wearing a wine colored polo neck"

"He had a nicely cut jacket perhaps made of tweed and has buttoned down pockets"

"Fairly loose fitted dark denim jeans"

"Has dark blonde hair"

"Pointed shoes"

"He was around 24"

"Could be Scandinavian but if not is probably from New York"

"Probably has a girl friend, might be gay"

Get the picture? What I'm trying to say is this

Woman observe detail, men prefer to see the big picture. (Unless it's cars where men usually win hands down)

Men prefer to be factual; things are often black and white, good and bad, rich and poor.

Where as the average woman tends to see the individual stitches in life's rich tapestry,

For example if I ask a man about his friend, he will tend to say things such as "he's an outgoing guy", or he is "funny" or he's "confident". Where as woman, when asked about her girlfriends will usually give you her friends list of good points, her bad points, her relationship details and that's all before she has even started on the topic of discussing her friends sense of fashion.

Why is it like this? Who knows? But it is.So lets get on with the more important issue of how this piece of information can help you guys when it comes to..

ASSUMPTIONS

First of all assumptions are one of the 9 hook leads I teach in conversation skills, it is one of my favourites and its power should never be underestimated. But there is as with most the hook leads I teach a right way to do it and wrong way,

When guys make assumptions to woman they are usually a little vague, and might be seen as a fairly sweeping statement, where as a detailed assumption will produce better results (even if wrong!) This is the beauty of assumptions; the "wrong one" can be very playful if detailed!

EXAMPLE 1

A badly done assumption

"Where do you live?"

"Chelsea" (this is a very upmarket part of London where girls who live here tend to have a lot of money and a lot of time on their hands!)

"So you must like shopping"

Ok, lets break this down. He has made a vague assumption and to be honest, which girl does not like shopping? In her head she's thinking a few things.

"Yeah and..I like shopping bravo, you must be a psychic NOT!"

Also she thinking he has made little or not effort to get to know who she really is and that he probably says this to other girls all the time.

EXAMPLE 2

"Where do you live?"

"Chelsea"

"So you like shopping, but I bet although you like shopping you would never dream of going to those summer sales! All those people fighting over a Gucci bag is just not your style"

Or

"So you like shopping, but I reckon you're a careful shopper who knows they can shop at Tiffany's if they wanted but prefers to haggle in the markets, searching for a priceless bargain"

Now I have given these exact lines to students who really had impressive results, both assumptions are the complete opposite one happened to be fairly accurate with one girl and the other was totally wrong. But the girls both laughed, and responded well by explaing themselves and how they were "exactly" like that or how they were "not like that all"(giving valuable information to the guy about who they were, whilst he's just absorbing all these wonderful hooks they are giving him to work from"

You see, he tailor made the assumption for them, he spoke to them with detail and in doing this he made them feel like an individual, and in turn they will see him as an individual rather than just another guy making vague conversation in the hope that the conversation might turn interesting,

Another point I wish to make with detail in assumption or if you haven't noticed yet "detailed cold readings" is that guys also come across more confident and alpha, as they show they are not afraid to do this detailed cold reading and also do not mind having quite a lot of attention on them so early on in the interaction.

Attention to detail can be used also in other hook leads such as anecdotes and compliments.

Here are some other detailed assumptions:

"Whats your favourite film?"

"Dirty dancing"

"I bet your favourite scene is not the one most girl like, where he's dancing at the end with her I reckon, hmmm your favourite scene I the bit where etc etc"

"Where did you go on holiday"?

"Spain"

"I would say, judging by your tan you probably initially wanted to see the museums and shops but when you got there you thought, nah, I'll just lie on the beach all day and make my friends jealous when they see my tan

So remember, attention to detail will make her feel you see her as an individual and in turn make her see you as an individual.

See it through a woman's eyes next time round.

Suggested free e-books to read:

David Deangelo - Attraction And How To Create It
Tony Horton - Nutrition Guide Daily Journal

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How To Get A Beautiful Girlfriend

Getting a girlfriend is not a big deal. However, it is a big deal for those who do not have one. There are many people who spend hours on internet to know the basic qualities of men that can help to get girlfriend. First of all, we would like to break your one biggest notion. Do you think that girls like only handsome men? If yes, then you are absolutely wrong. In day-to-day life, we can see many couples where girls got the boyfriends who are not handsome at all.

Getting a girlfriend depends on various factors, like your personality, attitude, approach, thinking, life, etc. If you got anything wrong out of these things, then try to work on it. A wrong approach or way of talking can decrease your chance to have a girlfriend. Before choosing a boyfriend, girls always make sure that you deserve her and she will be safe with you financially, emotionally and physically. In order to win her confidence, you have to show your overall personality to her. So, be a man and jump in the arena of world where all beautiful women are waiting for you.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Lou Paget - How To Be A Great Lover
Peter Latourette - How To Meet Beautiful Woman
Peter Latourette - How To Meet Beautiful Women

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Ways To Understand Men Ways To Make A Relationship Last

Men are a mystery. Oftentimes, women are left to wonder and confused about how men act and behave. The differences between the two sexes are pole apart making it hard for the females to know what men want from men.

What men want from women? Sometimes this question has no answer and that would be even harder to understand men and how their mind work. However, you do not need to be all that disappointed if you do not know what men want from women. Oftentimes, it's the littlest thing that has been staring women at the eye, and they just haven't figured it out yet. To help you better understand men, here are some of the things to aid you in knowing what men want from women.

BACK TO BASICS

If you want to know what men want from women, it is that they want to feel and know that they are the man. All men have their own ego they have to feed, and you have to help him feed it; by making him feel that he is in charge. Do not underrate him; let him have his way once in a while, that's his alpha male speaking.

Understand men have this feeling that they want to be the one to provide and secure his family. He wanted people to know that and be looked up for being able to provide. Never treat him like how you would treat your girl friends or it will mean war. Let him make you happy, by doing so, he will be happy.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

Understand men have a thing for respect. Everyone does so respect his boundaries and what he stands for and he will respect yours. If you constantly nag him about his imperfections, then you are not just hurting his ego, you are disrespecting him. Do not just look at the things that he does not do well, be proud of him and make sure that he knows that.

SUPPORT HIM EMOTIONALLY

What men want from woman is someone who shows emotional support. Do it by telling him encouraging words whenever you feel that he needs it. A simple gesture also shows that to him, a soft touch that will tell him that you know that he can do it will work. Understand men need to know that you are loyal to him and will never leave him.

BE SECURED AND MAKE HIM FEEL SECURED

Insecurity is rust to a relationship. It will eat you whole and before you know it, the relationship has already ended. Have your own life and get your own set of friends and activities that will keep you busy. Likewise, understand men need to feel secure that he is the only one in your life. Let them know what is happening to you and do not hide things from him that will let him think otherwise.

There are many other things to understand men, but basically, what men want from women is a woman who is headstrong but loving; let him have his way at the same time supports him and appreciates his whole being, weakness, strengths and everything in between.

Suggested free e-books to read:

C Kellogg - Healthy Dating And Relationship Tips
Steve Carter - How To Get Girls Understand What They Are Thinking
Chris Jackson - 101 Ways To Build Happy Lasting Relationships

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Beyond Words Subtext 101 By Cajun

Alright gather around everyone, its time for acting 101: Subtext!

What is subtext? For acting, subtext is the underlying meaning behind spoken words as interpreted by an actor. What does that mean? Basically you're adding additional meaning to your spoken words by the way you say them. I'll give you an example:

Lets say I have the following (cheesy) script for a scene I'm about to act in:

JOHN and MARY are alone in the bedroom. Mary is upset and John is comforting her.

"John: Mary, everything is going to be ok, I just want you to know that I love you."

Now if I'm going to play JOHN in this scene there is a lot of information I'm going to need in order to apply the proper subtext to my dialogue. Things like:

What is the relationship between John and Mary?

If they are siblings then the line would be spoken much differently than if they were lovers.

What happened just before?

What if this scene took place right after they had sex?

How would you reflect that in the above line of dialogue?

This is all information that can be implied with the proper subtext.

So.what does this have to do with game? EVERYTHING!

I tell students all the time "It doesn't matter WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it" Women are MASTERS at subtext, they know that there is loads of information hidden in the way something is said. That's why women can get so bitchy over seemingly trivial things that guys say; they know what were thinking!

So how do you use subtext effectively? Well I'll give you an example of something I do.

So let's say you're in a venue gaming and you see a great set. Now in any given set at the venue, realistically, the subtext of the dialogue you exchange with them is going to be "I'm trying to win you over and make you like me." A lot of guys subconsciously use this subtext when they open and are often blown out. Why? Because the women read into your subtext and knew exactly what you were doing, this is why you will hear "Is that a line?" often, even if she hadn't heard it before.

A better way to approach is to use the subtext of your opener. This is how most successful puas operate. For instance, my opener involves me asking girls if I look like a drug dealer, so the subtext is simply that its bothering me that I look like a drug dealer and I need their opinion. When I say the opener I put myself in the mind frame that it JUST happened to me so that my subtext is believable. This is what I did for a long time and its how I got good at opening but its boring and doesn't really create attraction.there is a better way.

Before I continue, a disclaimer: I am an actor and use my acting abilities whenever I can if it benefits me, so you can bet your ass that I act when I'm in set. If you have a problem with that or think that it's unethical theatrics and trickery best left for the gypsies then just stop reading now before you get upset.

The best way to approach, in my experience, is to look at the venue as a stage (stop laughing) and look at each set as a scene you can enter into. Instead of using the above mind frames when opening I'm going to use the subtext of a completely made up scenario that makes me exude attractiveness. So I'm going to enter into the set under the subtext of "I just slept with all of these girls" and I will communicate that to them by the way I speak, not by the words I'm saying. All of my dialogue will remain the same as it normally was.

So what happens? Remember how I said women are MASTERS of subtext? Well in this case, you're going to be glad they are. If you're good at subtext (Take acting and improv lessons!) they are going to catch on very quickly and you will create attraction almost instantaneously. Women LOVE guys that they cant quite figure out, so if you go in acting like you just slept with them then you are basically a social enigma, which is like crack to them.

When students ask me things like "I don't understand, you were talking to them about robots for 3 mins and then all of a sudden they were making out with you, how the hell did that happen?" Using subtext is how it happened. You don't always have to use the subtext of "I just slept with these girls" you can use whatever you want, but this one works very well and I've had a lot of success with it.

Subtext is one of those things that's pretty hard to grasp through reading. That's one of the reasons why I created the DVD set "Beyond Words" so you can visually see it. You can see me teach in more depth other non-verbal techniques to attract women using your body language.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Keanu Jagger - Nonverbal Sexual Cuing
Swinggcat - Real World Seduction
Johm Overdurf - Beyond Words Languaging Change Thrugh The Quantum Field

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Men Who Clean Get Laid

According to an Oxford economist, if a man wants to get laid for a long time to come, he'd better start cleaning the house and helping with the kids.

An Oxford study suggests that men who live in Great Britain, the Scandinavian countries or the United States are more likely to get married or live with a woman because they are more likely to help around the house.

Australian men, not so much. Those lazy bastards.

The study discovered that women who lived in less egalitarian countries were about 20% to 50% less likely to be living with or married to someone. It's no surprise. Considering women work and raise kids, it would be almost impossible to do it all without any help.

What woman wants to get married only to have kids and have to raise them on her own, clean the house daily, buy all the household items, and work, and let the guy "do his thing"? That's insane.

So if the men of the world want to live with someone or get married at any point in their lives, they better be willing to help around the house and be very present in their children's lives.

Pick up a broom; it might get you laid.

Suggested free e-books to read:

Joy Of Life - New Orleans Night Life Brochure
Brett Mckay - Guide To Being A Gentleman
Herb Dewey - Red Hot Cold Reading

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Are Gorgeous Men Faithful

Reader question:

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Act Like A Lady Get What You Want

FLATTER HIM

LAUGH AT HIS JOKES

DRESS IN A PROVOCATIVELY CONSERVATIVE SORT OF WAY

ASK HIM TO DO THINGS FOR YOU

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Where as a woman would describe him as

ASSUMPTIONS

EXAMPLE 1

EXAMPLE 2

Or

Here are some other detailed assumptions:

See it through a woman's eyes next time round.

How To Get A Beautiful Girlfriend

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BACK TO BASICS

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

SUPPORT HIM EMOTIONALLY

BE SECURED AND MAKE HIM FEEL SECURED

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Men Who Clean Get Laid

Pick up a broom; it might get you laid.

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