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Do Looks Matter To Girls

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 You are in luck my friend. When it comes to how to attract women, looks don't really matter to girls. Most people have the common misconception that looks might actually be a factor, though that is so far from the truth. If you are living into that idea, than it's most likely the biggest reason, as to why you aren't attracting women into your life in the first place.

Let's break down exactly why looks aren't what women find attractive in men. What do you think men are attracted to in women?

You may just think that it's looks that men find to be what generates attraction from men to women. Some of it may actually be visual. Though, it's not. From an evolutionary psychology stand point, we are led to believe that men are attracted to woman not exactly for their looks. What men are actually attracted to in women, are signs of youth and fertility. She doesn't necessarily have to be young and or fertile, though if she demonstrates the energy and optimism of someone who does possess these traits, than she will be highly attractive to men.

This is because, as men we know that if we were to find someone who had youthful energy and was able to have a child, the child will be beautiful and healthy as well. Beautiful and healthy people, have an advantage in life, typically being given privileges in life, like higher pay, and self-assurance. To have kids that knew how to make themselves be happy, would make your life as a father, a success.

Now, what do women find to be attractive in men? What are women attracted to in men? They are attracted to personal value and social status. Social status, meaning having the potential to provide and protect with ease. This doesn't mean the guy has to have a lot of money, though it does mean he has to possess the traits of someone who could have financial stability. Someone who is well-off financially tends to be confident and happy. If you are a man who is confident and happy well then you possess the traits of someone who has social status.

What you have to understand that, is that however you first portray yourself to people is how they will believe you to actually be. The same goes for yourself. If you are wanting to have a lot of money, instead of worrying so much about what you want to have, it would be better to identify how someone who has a lot of money acts in the world. How does that person, make people around him feel? How do people receive him. If you can play into being a person who has money, then it will be a lot easier for you to actually take the actions into what will make you the money.

Now, not only is social status what is attractive, also is personal value. Personal value essentially is, how much you believe you deserve. People that feel as if they deserve the best, tend to get the best. Most men, work backwards and believe they need social status before getting personal value. This is completely invalid. It would be better to go about getting personal value in order to gain social status.

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This article was originally written by our awesome friend, Kevin Salas.

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Tips For Dating

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 Dating is basically the first step on building up relationships. Yes, dating can be a big, tough thing to do for a woman. Yet, on a male perspective, I can give you some useful tips for having a successful date with a man since I am a man myself. The tips for dating that I will be giving you are based entirely on my experience of travelling in Europe and meeting different female personalities and cultures there.

Honesty matters. Yes, it really matters for dating. Try to talk with your date about how things went the past few days, as well as the things that he likes or dislikes in order to determine if you two are compatible with each other or not. If he asks you the same thing, reply with honest and sincere answers, so that you will be able to put off awkwardness in the conversation and keep it light and casual.

Also, you don't have to impress your dating partner, as you will be enticed to pretend as someone or something that you are not. Pretending will just get you into boggy situations and will not get you into relationships at all. After all, as relationships progresses, every couple are finding out something about each other at a time, which is why pretending and impressing your date is never a good thing to do on a date. Consequently,dates and relationships can be lot more fun and exciting if you are able to be comfortable and just be yourself.

On the date, you will get nervous for dating him for sure, especially if it is the first time. Chances are that he will be also just as nervous as you are. Nervousness between the two of you can result to silence and awkwardness of the situation. To break the ice, you have to be up-front and shatter the awkwardness. You can start a simple conversation or crack a joke or punch in a witty remark. This will give your date a breathing room for dating you comfortably and break down his nervousness for dating with you.

I am a man. As a man, we have an intrinsic appetite for women who are good listeners. So, let your date talk while you listen to everything that he says. Ask open-ended questions that will motivate him to talk more and tell about himself. Do not throw him simple yes-or-no questions. Ask him what-who-where-when-how-why questions, especially on topics about relationships, so that you can keep the conversation rolling smoothly.

When it comes to building lasting relationships, showing too much eagerness on him can make his desire to know more about you decrease and fail. As much as you might want to be with him again, it is best if you let him ask for dating with you again. If he is interested on you, he will surely call or send you an SMS for setting up a next date. However, do not be too obvious that you like him too, if you do. Just keep up the game of chase as he tries to go after you. This scheme for dating establishes stronger relationships than more instantaneous methods do.

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7 Recent Celebrity Breakups

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Have you ever wondered why it is that society as a whole – including you, me, her, and him – are so obsessed with the love lives of celebrities? Whether you love them or hate them, you always want to know what’s up with those big name stars. I think it’s because it proves that celebrities really do have to go through some of the same hardships. They might not have to worry about paying their bills on time, affording luxury items, putting their children through school, and things like that, but they do go through the same kind of pains we do, especially when it comes to love. If you need some prove, check out the following recent celebrity breakups!

1. Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver

This is one recent celebrity breakup that shocked a lot of people, if only because the marriage between the ex-governator and Shriver seemed so stable. Then again, allegations of Arnold’s wandering eye, Roman hands, and Russian fingers have plagued the couple forever – right up until he got elected, it seems like. The news that he misused state funds to do things for the mistress is even worse. Maria’s handling things admirably well thus far, though. Might be something in that Kennedy bloodline.

2. Scarlett Johansson and Sean Penn

I didn’t understand this relationship from the get-go. I mean, I think Sean Penn’s an excellent actor, but he’s got a temper, plus, well, she’s Scarlett Johansson. Her divorce from Ryan Reynolds undoubtedly hit her hard, but her whirlwind romance with Penn was still a little weird. A lot weird. And kind of gross, if some of the rumors are true. Speaking of rumors, there are already tales spreading that the two are getting back together.

3. Cameron Diaz and Alex Rodriguez

The recent celebrity breakup between these two wasn’t really a surprise. I mean, A-Rod isn’t exactly known for his long term relationships, you know? I don’t know what it is about the guy, but it’s like he thinks he’s got something to prove, running around with all these A-listers. I feel bad for Cameron, though. I love her, and I still kind of wish she’d get back together with Justin Timberlake. They were cute together.

4. Ryan Phillippe and Amanda Seyfried

This breakup makes me sad. I never thought I’d want to see Ryan Phillippe (who’s secretly MY boyfriend, actually) seriously be with anyone except Reese Witherspoon, but I love Amanda Seyfried even more, and I thought they looked great together. They would have made the most ridiculously pretty babies. Still, their relationship has been so hush-hush and on-again, off-again, who knows what the future holds?

5. Adrianne Curry and Christopher Knight

I’ve been waiting for this split pretty much since the two of them met on The Surreal Life. This pairing was one of the oddest things I’ve ever seen, and I never thought they went well together. I’m not the hugest fan of either “celebrity,” but Adrianne is a wild, no-hold’s-barred, blunt, crazy, speak-her-mind kind of girl – and while their relationship was being chronicled on VH1, it always seemed like Christopher was trying to censor that. Apparently she finally decided the same thing. You ought to read the publicists’ reasons for the split; they say pretty much everything.

6. Lady Gaga and Luc Carl

This recent celebrity breakup actually surprised me, not so much because of the breakup itself, but rather because it came out at all. Lady Gaga is out there and ostentatious about most everything, but you don’t hear a lot about her love life in the tabloids. I was just surprised to hear anything about her personal life. Knowing her, she’ll turn the heartbreak into a wildly popular new song.

7. Leonardo DiCaprio and Bar Refaeli

I don’t think anyone was really surprised by this. These two have broken up so much that I’ve started to wonder if their relationship follows the cycles of the moon or something. Do you know what I really wish? I wish Leo would just get with Kate Winslet. I wonder if the two have ever actually thought of being together?

There have probably been even more recent celebrity breakups. It’s hard to believe how quickly some stars go through relationships, but in a way, it’s easy to understand. After all, costars in romantic movies are with each other day in and day out, filming incredibly intense and passionate scenes. I used to similarly develop crushes with the costars of school plays or musicals. Who were you most glad – and most sad – to see breakup?

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Cheek Kissing

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A kiss, it's just wonderful! To mark his lips to yours, warm, soft and sensitive. But have you ever thought about whether you wonder gives sensual kiss that causes men to think: "Whoo!"? Here you get a recipe for erotic kiss, which hits the legs out from under him.

Dampen your lips


It is unpleasant to kiss for someone who has dry lips. So remember to use lip balm! Dampen your lips with your tongue, just before I need to kiss. It also sends a signal to him that you'd like to kisses. When your lips shine, he will have even more desire to kiss you.

Pir him


Let your lips be slightly separated. Move closer to your look him in the eyes or look down on his lips once in a while, it signifies that you'd like to kiss. Tubes easily by his arm or take his hand and see if he puts his arms about you.

Focus on kissed


Put your head slightly tilted to one side and his hands around his neck. Relax and focus on kissed, rather than what others are thinking, I wonder how you look, or what else can fly around in your mind. It is kissed, this is about. Give it all your attention - he can mark!

Lur his kiss-style


Many kissing as they themselves would like to kysses. Try to mark after how he is kissing you. Is he gentle and sensitive or more hard and a little violent kissing And how much heavy use him? Copy his rhythm and technique, so there is some kind of balance in your kiss. If he is kissing a monstrosity, then drag you away and the team suffered a break before taking the initiative to the next kiss and trying to kiss him, as you'd like it.

Varier your kiss


A good kiss switches from gentle kiss the lips almost just touching each other, the more passionate kisses with heavy and small breaks for air. Try to vary the way you kiss on. Try your way and see how he reacts.

Keep cheeky breaks


You can not kiss him on the mouth for hours. A girl got breath - and men too! So keep your small or longer cheeky breaks, where you rather kiss him on the neck, by demanding leg, facial or suck on his reflip easy - but watch out, it goes straight into pants at him.

Tell him how you want kysses


Men are not the same attention and intuition led by women, and they like to get specific instructions on what to do to satisfy you. So if he makes one or another irritant with his tongue, or may like to kiss you more gently, you must tell him! And like in a tone which is somewhat impudently and sexy.

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Approaching Mailbag By Stephen Nash

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Since Donovan has asked me to post to his blog, I've received a number of interesting questions from fellow-readers (feel free to keep them coming too, your question may be in the minds of many!).

Got a GREAT one the other day, and wanted to post it with my reply. This guy's note to me was great because it was an ACTUAL report. A lot of notes that I get are very vague, and it's hard for me to respond. Not this guy though - he really outlines what happened, and what actions he took...which leads to more feedback.

Let's hear from him first:
Stephen,

I did my first Engage. Here's how it went.

First, I read your ebook - DUDE...I didn't realize it had so much info

on meeting women. I put it into play right away.

I workout in a large park outside my apartment building. I do interval

training, and I get VERY dirty and smelly and sweaty. This park has water

canals and all sorts of cool stuff to train on.

COOL - being out and engaged in the world...the BEST time to meet women. Sargers take note!

After my workout, I was walking towards the water fountains, and I suddenly

saw this big brown dog come out of one of the canals carrying a yellow

tennis ball. It startled me a little bit, but I just keep walking. The dog

went over to this beautiful woman, sitting on one of the granite ledges near

the canal. She was close by, and I was so startled I didn't think twice. I

just changed course a little to walk up the stairs near her.

No hesitation, no second thoughts...the BEST way to approach. And a friendly dog never hurts either.

As I got to perhaps ten feet, her dog jumped up and ran over to me. I was

already dirty and sweaty, so I didn't mind petting the dog. (Actually, the

dog was super friendly and sweet. I like dogs.)

The hot babe said "Abbey, come over hear! I'm sorry, she's all wet. Abbey

come here."

I replied, "Hey, were over here getting a workout, were BOTH dirty and wet

you just keep supervising. Hey, do you have a personal training

certification?"

Great comment - it's in the moment, and it's humorous while also flirtatious. Flirty and Funny (should I copyright that?) is the BEST combo when engaging using situational/environmental comments.

She laughed, and right then the dog decided to shake all the water off her

back. LOL

I said, "Whoa! looks she's in better shape than me."

Self-effacing humor implies confidence and openness, which signals to women that you would be someone easy to speak with. She knows now that you are not loaded with arrogance, and she feels more comfortable as a result.

She laughed again.

Then we chatted about her dog for a while. Then about how we liked the

canal. Then I kept it going until it was a little uncomfortable.

OK - now this is where it gets interesting (to me). HOW did you know it was uncomfortable? It was for you, perhaps, but are you sure it was for her? Why was it uncomfortable? Getting outside of our comfort zone is GOOD. So, perhaps what we are seeing here is you simply outside of the realm of what you have usually done, and are now in an unfamiliar position. Good, this way you get to learn something.

I'd like to encourage you to really note - if you can post a comment here, GREAT, so we can all benefit. But, ultimately, something told you that this was now no longer comfortable. Was it something she did? Were there awkward pauses? What's the deal?

I started back home again, and as I left I said "See you next time, but I'll

need to see your personal training certificate."

She laughed again.

Why couldn't you say instead: "Well, gotta run home and clean up for my night. Been great chatting, how can we continue this some other time?" You'd be surprised how simple it can be to get a number or email address, if you just ASK. So often, guys mistakenly think that women will broadcast a loud and clear message that they are interested in you...this is wrong. In fact, if she stayed there for a few moments, laughed at your jokes, and didn't disconnect the conversation, then she is probably open to exchanging digits...seriously. Next time, definitely go for it!

Stephen, she talked to me and enjoyed it, even though I was literally

covered in grime and sweat.

Yep - there is never a WRONG time now is there...

My second Engage was with a Russian woman I recognized from my local Barnes

and Noble. I swear she was disappointed when I told her I had to go.

It turns out that women might like me, after all.

Cheers,

Adam


Adam - THANKS for this man.

Yes, the only way to discover that women like you (and most of us, frankly) is to actually socialize with them. This requires a bit of guile sometimes, but the price is well paid when you have eye-opening experiences like the one described here.

Just remember to continue to lean into your comfort zone, always always challenging it.

Your comfort zone might not be connected with the truth. It might be connected with the past, or insecurity...or both...but the only way to grow is to get out there, and get out of your comfort zone.

I am doing these "natural game coaching sessions" right now, and each week on the call, a guy relays some experience of his that he SHOULD HAVE PUSHED.

Guys, you ALL stop too short. In fact, many of you may be just seconds away from success, without even realizing it.

So, hang in there as long as you can...and go past the point of comfort.

THEN, take stock of the experience, and see more clearly afterwards what REALLY happened.

And, as always, feel free to email me your notes, experiences etc for my feedback - happy to help out. For more low pressure, easy tactics for approaching women, check out my How To Get A Girlfriend ebook. It's packed with these techniques.

Your friend,

Stephen



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Apologize Into The Right Ear

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If you're going to apologize to your significant other, apologies are best received in the right ear so head onto that side of them before you even begin.

Scientists have discovered that when we are angry, the right ear starts becoming more receptive to sound than does the left. So by talking into someone's right ear, what you're saying will be better received and perhaps more easily accepted.

After carrying out tests on 30 young men who had been pissed off to the point of no return, researchers from the University of Valencia discovered that the participants' right ears were much more susceptible to sound. There seemed to be no change in the left ear.

Scientists suggest that the reason behind this is because the left side of the brain processed sound that comes in from the right ear.

Prior research also proved that if you wanted to persuade someone to do something, your best bet would be to talk into their right ear.

So if you want to say sorry or convince your significant other that having sex will make them feel better, head to the right side. Of course, researchers still haven't discovered why some people don't listen, but rather just wait to speak.

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Valentines Day 3 I Love You Roses

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Those little three words hold more meaning in a relationship than any other word in the English language and nothing says "I Love You" like roses. Our first tip of Valentine's was a simple, but incredibly romantic alternative to roses. Today's tip is another variation of the romantic rose.

These rose plants come in pots that explicitly spell out your feelings. Each pale pink rose plant comes in a dark pink ceramic pot with a polished metal hand tag. Together these three pots spell out "I Love You".

While the red rose may be more popular, the pink rose is just as romantic. In face, the pink rose represents romance, sweetness, and perfect happiness.

Like your love, these roses need not die. Because they are actual rose plants rather than cut roses, they can be replanted if desired. This Valentine's Day, give her a rose that represents your love literally.

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Thundercat Seduction Masters Interview

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TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF!

Okay. My handle is "Thundercat," I'm 27 years old, living in beautiful sunny Hollywood California where the only thing hotter than the weather, are the women who live here.

Currently, I run my own business, and most of my time is spent selling my ebook and updating my blog, when I'm not out trying to have a life.

I've been in "the game" since 1998, when I was a sophomore in college. I've continued through it in varying degrees, but I didn't get hard core until I move out to Los Angeles and started meeting the Grand Master PUAs.

I have a few different websites, they are:


HOW TO MEET WOMEN (Link)

BETTER SEX (Link)

BANG HOT STRIPPERS (Link)

THE MOS EISLEY CANTINA (as I like to call it - Seduction Lair) (Link)

1. DESCRIBE THE MOMENT, WHEN YOU SUDDENLY REALIZED, "I NEED TO WORK OUT THIS PART OF MY LIFE."

Funny story


So it was a Friday night back in 1998, and I was rooming with this guy who was a real "Jock." Good looking, parents had money, was in a frat, all that jazz. He was basically the kind of guy I'd come to hate, simply because he was everything I wasn't.

So one night, there I am, weighing in at close to 300 lbs, lonely and shy, with no plans for a date what-so-ever. And my Jock roomie comes walking in with two drop-dead hotties.

He just came by to pick up some stuff, but since he was a nice guy, he invited me to go to this frat party he and the girls were going to.

I took one look at the girls and chickened out. It was like the cold hand of death was gripping my stomache and I just couldn't imagine going out with them to a wild and crazy frat-bash.

So I declined, and they left. A few hours after that, I ordered some pizza, and tried to find something to watch on TV. The only thing half-way decent that was on was a rerun of "Three's Company."

At some point while watching this show, I seem to realize that Suzan Summers used to be wicked hot. Still thinking about the girls I decided not to go out and party with, I decide it's time to feel better by "mastering my domain," if you will.

So there I am, alone on a Friday, watching a Three's Company rerun, my dick in one hand, a slice of pizza in the other, and all of a sudden, the true patheticness of the situation hits me.

I had hit rock bottom.

At this point, I don't know what happens. I fly into a rage, throw the pizza against a wall, flip over my bed, and just start wrecking my room. Eventually I collapse and start crying.

When that happened, I basically said to myself: Okay, you got two choices here. Either kill yourself, or stop being so pathetic and get a girlfriend.

Needless to say, I chose the latter.

Once that decision was made, I turned to the only thing I had available to me: The internet!

The first thing I did was go to Yahoo and type in "How to not be a fat pathetic loser." But there was nothing there. Then I started thinking about what I needed to do to get a girl, and typed in "Seduction."

Low and behond, there was Ross Jeffries Speed Seduction site on the first page. He claimed you didn't need to be good looking, and that you could get any woman in bed just by using hypnotic language.

Well, I thought that sounded pretty darn good, so I ordered his course that night, and that was pretty much how I got into the community.

Inspiring, isn't it? =)

2. HAVE YOU HAD ANY MENTORS (PERHAPS WELL-KNOWN PICKUP ARTISTS) WITHIN THE COMMUNITY/LIFE THAT HAVE HELPED YOU IMPROVE YOUR GAME, AND WHAT DID THEY TEACH YOU?

Oh, God yeah.

I honestly don't think you can ever achieve anything in life without mentors. And Pick-up is no exception.

The problem is, most men don't have great mentors when it comes to learning about women. Their dad is either absent or clueless, their friends are usually just as desperate and inexperienced as they are, and the women in their lives give them a lot of bad advice on what to do.

When I first started learning about seduction in college, I was in a vacuum. I was too ashamed to tell my friends what I was doing, so it was like my "dirty little secret."

The problem with doing that was the fact that I simply couldn't improve. I had no feedback or guidance, just some audio tapes and access to an online mailing list.

It wasn't until I moved out to Los Angeles and started my own lair that I really started to improve, and that was simply due to having other people who were learning this stuff to talk to and bounce ideas off of.

Since then, I've had the pleasure from learning from some of the best ladies men out there. I don't like to name drop, but here are a few of the people I can say I got a lot from:

Swinggcat


Style (Neil Strauss)

Mystery


Hypnotica

Steve P.

Masterclass


Zan

Craig


Playboy

Sickboy


Christopher

David DeAngelo


Craig

Twenty-Six


Maddash

Masterclass


Roadking

Cameron Teone


Dreamweaver

Rick H.

This list goes on. But the fact is I learn something from EVERYONE I meet in this community, even people you wouldn't consider gurus. Hell, I even learn from people like Ross Jeffries and Tyler Durden. I don't exactly admire those guys, but they've taught me a lot about what NOT to do, and that can be just as important as knowing what TO do.

But I'd have to say that out of everyone, Style (the most powerful of the Jedi) is someone I learned my biggest lesson from. He's the one who taught me how to break my fear of meeting women, and after that, my whole life changed.

Sometimes all it takes is one lesson learned to alter the path your life was taking.

3. CAN YOU DESCRIBE THE FIRST TIME YOU USED A COUNTER-INTUITIVE ROUTINE THAT YIELDED IT'S PROMISED RESULTS, AND HOW YOU FELT?

LOL


I'd go so far as to say that ALL routines are counter-intuitive. I mean, it just feels weird to do the stuff we're supposed to do, be it dressing like a color-blind crackhead or spouting off 30-odd memorized stories some other dude came up with.

But to answer your question, I'll have to go back to what I said about Style in the previous question.

I was at my first ever Mystery Method workshop. And here I was, a total loser with women by anyone's standards, and I was just taken in by the whole thing. But still, all the instructors were these fairly good looking dudes, and here I was a fat, awkward dude. I just couldn't relate! I was like "Yeah, this might work for you, but what about ugly fucks like me?"

So when Style showed up, here was this skinny, bald dude with a big nose who looked like a young Mr. Burns. But all the other instructors, and Mystery himself, couldn't stop talking about this guy's prowess, so I said to myself: "This is the guy I want to learn from!"

So when it came time for the in-field workshop, I was sure to follow Style. I basically stalked the guy and watched him work. He'd effortlessly walk up to chicks and pick them up. It was the equivalent of watching someone turn their head inside-out and start flying with invisible wings -- I just didn't think it was possible!

Eventually, I walked up to Style and said: "Hey man, I'm freaking out here."

"Why?" he responded.

"I'm too scared to talk to any women. I just don't think I can do this."

Now, there were a lot of approaches Style could have taken there. He could have told me to suck it up. He could have shrugged it off. Or he could have done demonstrations for me all night. But none of those would have helped me.

Instead, he took me away from the main group into a new club, just me and him. And he pointed at a group of two girls and a guy and said: "See that 3-set right there? I want you to walk up to them, use the Who Lies More opener, get their responses, and then come back to me."

"That's it?" I said.

"That's it," he responded.

So I went and did that, feeling like a complete tool. I was thinking "These girls are gonna see right through me. They're gonna laugh at me. I'm going to look like an ass."

So I walked up and said: "Hey guys, who do you think lies more, men or women?"

And the entire group just STARED at me. I was thinking "Ohhhh shit. Here it comes."

But suddenly, to my surprise, the girls started giving me answers. And they didn't just give me an answer, they started arguing over what the right answer was!

After I got their opinions, I went back to Style. I wa totally amazed that this "opener" had actually worked just like they said it would!

So Style kept sending me out to do the exact same thing to more groups. By the third time, I was hooked. I became an approach machine. The next night of the workshop, I ended up talking to 15 women (which was fifteen more than I'd met in the previous year since I moved to LA!).

4. COULD YOU DESCRIBE WHAT YOU'RE LIFE WAS LIKE BEFORE YOU WERE AWARE OF THIS, AND/OR WHAT OPTIONS YOU HAVE WITH WOMEN NOW?

Well, my life was pretty average, I guess. It's hard for me to know what to compare it to other than the lives of people on TV.

My dad worked a lot, and I was the oldest of three brothers, so I didn't exactly have a lot of male role models. My brothers do pretty well with girls, but I think that's mostly because they saw what I was doing and said "I'm gonna do the opposite of that!" and it worked for them. Lol.

So most of my love/relationship advice came from my mom, who - bless her soul - gave me a lot of terrible ideas about how to attract women. You know, things like: Buy her flowers, be respectful, blah, blah, blah.

I went through high school with three girlfriends, but always felt really awkward around women because I didn't really understand them. I'd always want the girls I couldn't have (which lead to a lot of high school drama and rejection on my part), and I'd settle with the girls I could get (and that never made me very happy).

I kept thinking "If I could lose my virginity, everything would change. I'd know how to be a better man and get more chicks."

It wasn't until I was in college that this happened. I met this girl at a friend's party, and we had a great conversation. She was fairly cute (I'd rate here at a 7.5 in PUA jargon). Her family ran a mortuary, so we talked about dead people a lot, oddly enough. This was around the time I was learning all the "Speed Seduction" stuff, so I tried using all this hypnotic language with her, but she was so drunk it didn't even matter. We ended up hooking up that night, and I woke up the next morning thinking "Okay, so am I a man now?"

But I honestly didn't feel any different than I did the night before. Still felt lost, still felt clueless.

As things turned out, the girl I slept with didn't even go to my college, she was in town visiting my friend, and ended up leaving. I tried to angle for a "second rendezvous," but nothing ever came of it. So I chalked that success up to: Right Time, Right Place, Right Amount Of Booze.

Since then, I've learned a lot about women and come a long way (at least I think so).

I don't really like to share my personal successes online because people can so easily rip into them. I've seen what happens when Mystery shows pictures of his girlfriends online, and you always have some douchebag going "She's an UG!" and calling him a fake, so it's not important to me to bring the girls I date into that sort of mess just to prove something to the flamers and trolls out there.

I've settled down since my hay-day of going out 5-6 nights a week. I tend to go out on the weekends, and the girls I see are more bred from my social circle than cold pick-ups now, though I still do those occasionally.

In terms of options, I just go after women I like. I don't try to narrow the field, because you never know when someone will surprise you, so I like to keep my options open.

5. WHAT WAS YOUR HARDEST/BIGGEST STICKING POINT?

Without a doubt, it's my belief system.

Beliefs are the single, hardest thing in the world to fix. If you believe in bad, negative, and just plain wrong things, you tend to feel that good, positive, and factual things are false.

This can cause HAVOC with your life.

For instance, I used to believe I had to look like Brad Pitt to get a woman attracted to me. After all, women like good looking guys, right?

All I'd have to do is look around, and count the times every time I saw some fat old ugly guy with a really attractive chick. But even THEN, I'd believe that was a special case and I'm doomed to suffer from a life of loneliness.

Once I got into the PUA game, I started to realize than women process attraction in different ways then men do. Most of the girls I've been with don't care about how a man looks (thank God for that, lol). I was talking to an ex girlfriend the other day who recently got engaged, and her husband to be is something like 320 lbs. But guess what? He's smarter than her! And that's why she's into him.

The entire time I was with her, I was miserable because I kept thinking she was going to leave me for a thinner, better looking guy. It was my bad attitude that eventually lead to the break up. D'oh!

It was my BELIEF that I had to look a certain way to get women that would really handicap me. I had so many opportunities where a woman was actually INTO me, where she would have slept with me, but my belief system would say things like:

"She's not really into you. Pay no attention."

"There's something wrong with her if she likes an ugly guy like you."

"It's a trick! She's leading you on only to hurt you!"

The fact was I was just a cool guy these girls dug - but I couldn't see it.

Ever since I started really focusing in on the root causes of my problems - my bad belief system - and have addressed it, things have really picked up. I feel better about myself, and so do the people around me.

6. DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE ROUTINE/STEP IN YOUR MODEL, CAN YOU DESCRIBE IT, AND WHAT IT ACCOMPLISHES?

My favorite step is where I can foret all the routines and tactics and just be me.

I'm a lazy dude, and I hate memorizing stuff. So I enjoy it when I can just relate to a woman on a personal level without having to run game on her.

At some point, you HAVE to run game because you need a strategy to get her into bed or keep some other dude from stealing her, or whatever. But for the most part, I enjoy just talking normally without all the BS.

I tend to use an opener when I meet a woman, then search for a commonality to connect on, and try to engage her in conversation before pushing for an "insta-date" or a phone number. That's pretty much my model. It might not be as effective as something like Mystery Method, but it's easier for me to pull off.

7. HAVE YOU HAD THE EXPERIENCE YET, WHERE YOU FEEL THAT YOU'VE REACHED A CERTAIN DEGREE OF MASTERY? CAN YOU EXPLAIN THE TIME, AND HOW YOU GOT THE REALIZATION?

No, 'cause I don't feel I'm there yet! lol.

It's funny because I've come so far from the guy who whacked off to Three's Company so many years ago. I definitely don't consider myself an AFC anymore, and even though I can go out and pick up women, I don't feel like a pick up artist.

I still feel I have so much to learn. I'll probably always feel that way. I'll always feel I need to keep improving and doing better.

I think people who say "Okay, I've reached master level! I don't have to do any more work!" are stupid. People like Mystery, who will not be shy about saying he's the greatest PUA to ever walk the Earth, still tries to do new things and learn from others, which is probably why he's still at the top of the game.

This notion that there are "Ranks" in PUA-dom always makes me laugh. I get emails from guys saying things like "I've decided I'm going to become an mPUA!" Like once that happens you get a metal pinned on your chest telling everyone you're a master or something.

It's such bullshit.

I've been around some of the greats - guys who are considered Pick Up Gods - and seen women tell them to "fuck off," or slap them, or get drinks spilled on them.

And these are the MASTERS!

The fact is, you can't ever qualify success as a Pick-Up artist, because there are too many variables.

Mystery has this "5-for-5 concept which is supposed to determine mastery in the venusian arts, but I completely disagree with it. He thinks if you can approach 5 women and make all five your girlfriend (five successes from five approaches) that means you're a master.

But here's my thing


Being happy is more important than being a "Master."

Let's say all I want is a fat chick. Maybe that's my thing, where I say "I'm into fat girls!" and I can go out and pick up any fat chick I want. I could walk around and say "I'm a master pick up artist!" But anyone who saw the women I'm with would say I'm full of shit, because fat chicks aren't hot to anyone who doesn't have a fetish.

But if I really LIKE fat chicks, and I'm happy to get them, why shouldn't I be considered a master?

See the quagmire there?

Every man has his own idea of what a "Master" pick up artist should be. But to me, I don't even WANT to be a master. I just want to find 1 girl to settle down with and grow old with. That's my thing. I want a girl who I find attractive and fun to be with.

Some guys want to have 3 bisexual women all the time. Some want supermodels. And everyone has their own definition of what kind of woman is "beautiful."

That's why I hate this ranking stuff. I'll never rag on another man because I don't think his girl is hot. There was a time when people were making fun of Ross Jeffries because he was dating some old fat chick. I don't care what she looks like, because if he likes her, who am I to judge? I didn't even know he could actually get a woman, so I guess that impressed me more than what she looked like, lol.

8. WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO NEWBIES STARTING OUT, IN ORDER TO GREATLY ACCELERATE THEIR LEARNING CURVE?

Meet up with other guys who do this stuff, befriend them, and help each other to learn.

There's so much crappy stuff out there, technique wise, that once you meet up with other guys you'll learn what to use and what to avoid.

You'll also have people to keep you motivated, and you'll have people you can speak with about problems and issues, which is vital to success.

Just having guys you can talk about this stuff with can be really liberating, because you may be too embarrassed to discuss it with your current friends.

9. WHAT'S YOUR BELIEF ON INNER GAME, AND HOW DID YOU IMPROVE IT?

My belief is that inner game is THE single most important factor to success.

But it's also the hardest to improve.

Everyone has different levels of inner game. Some guys need more help than others.

I think when it comes to fixing inner game, it's a three step process:

1. Identify your bad beliefs

2. Be willing to change, even if you have to do stupid or embarrassing stuff to do so.

3. Have the willpower to see it through to the end.

If you can do those three things, you can fix any problem you have.

10. DO YOU HAVE A PERSONAL FAVORITE FIELD REPORT (YOUR OWN) THAT YOU COULD RELAY?

I don't do too many field reports, because I tend to write really detailed stuff and it takes me forever to do them. Plus, most of the time I'm out with really high profile PUAs, and they all have girlfriends who keep tabs on them through the internet, so I have to be careful about what I write not to get my friends in trouble, heh, heh, heh.

I have some great stories I'd love to share, but won't, simply because I don't want to write them out. But there are a lot of field reports I did from a few years back, when I was really hitting the club scene here in Hollywood hard. I'll point to on my blog. You can find it here:

http://www.thundercatseductionlair.com/field report/index.html

11. WHAT IS YOUR CURRENT STICKING POINT (IF ANY)?

I think I already answered that, lol. But if you want a sticking point more related to the community, I'd have to say that it's dealing with all the negativity out there.

There are so many guys out there with so much anger and frustration, I think they take it out on me and others in the community because it's easier to blame us "gurus" than it is to own their failures and try to improve.

I try to ignore most of it and focus on positive aspects of my life, like meeting women, being with friends, advancing my career, etc.

12. WHAT ARE YOU GOALS NOW WITHIN THE COMMUNITY, AND IN LIFE?

Wow, where to start.

In life, my goal is to make a good living, find a good woman, and raise a good family. That's all I want and could ask for.

In the community, my goals are a little more nefarious.

Selfishly, I love having a popular blog because I get to meet some of the most interesting people on the planet. I've met so many PUAs who are amazing, weird, evil, or fascinating just through that, and I learn so much from them all.

I get to see what people think of me and others. I get to shed light on topics I find interesting or important.

I really want to learn more techniques and advice, and meet more people this year. A lot of the old school guys have some good stuff, but it's with the newer PUAs we're going to see the best technology spring from.

I also want to encourage more seduction blogging. When I started, I think there were 1 or 2 other PUAs blogging about their experiences. But then I came along and my blog got real popular, and it inspired other people to start their blogs, which is great. The more the merrier! I think blogs are great tools to help you focus your thoughts and learn about this stuff (plus, you get feedback).

I also want to shed more light on some of the shady business practices going on in the community. I know I get a lot of flack for being "negative" or whatever, but to me, when I hear about some poor guy getting ripped off, I think back to where I was when I first started and how that would have affected me.

At that point I say: What's more negative? Allowing good guys to continue to be hurt and misled? Or shedding some light on what's going on and try to help others find the right system for them?

Because of me, Ross Jeffries was called to the mat on a lot of his B.S. He runs his list like a dictator, telling people they aren't allowed to read stuff that isn't Speed Seduction related. You can't even post a technique on there that isn't about SS, even if it would be helpful (and most of his stuff isn't). The best thing I ever did for myself was get out of Speed Seduction and learn new methods of pick up and seduction. You can't improve in a closed system, but Ross's greed overpowers his willingness to help his students. He'd rather them buy from him than help them get what they need. He also is really insecure about competition because he knows his stuff is no where near as good as other people's, like Mystery's. The best Speed Seduction students all left for better methods for God's sake! But he still keeps on trucking

I see the same mentality in Real Social Dynamics. It's a real shame, because I actually really liked those guys. Like Ross, they have the ability to suck people into a cult-like atmosphere where everyone is "competition" and if you're not with them, you're against them. That's a negative mindset and it doesn't help people and hurts them in the long run.

But because of my blog, they now offer a Money Back Guarantee! Something they NEVER offered before. It's still not a very good guarantee, but at least I got them to change their practices a little.

A lot of these guys think I'm "out to get them" or looking to "destroy their businesses." I could care less about that. I have no desire to destroy someone's livelihood. But if that livelihood is made by hurting guys who are trying to improve their lives and ripping them off, you bet your ass I'm going to take them to task over it!

To me, this community is about helping other guys. That's what it's always been about. You can still help guys by charging for services and information I have no problem with that. It's when you choose to hurt others to make a quick buck, or for the sake of your ego, that I have a problem with.

So I just want to keep on helping guys in this community as best I can. =)

Suggested free e-books to read:

Tranceboy - Fast Seduction 101 Player Guide
Alphahot1 - Alt Seduction Fast Posts
Thundercat - Thundercats 5th Fith Archetype Mystery Interview

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