Cheating is one of the cardinal sins in a romantic relationship. No one wants to be cheated and be replaced by someone else. If you are a victim of men cheating, then you know how hard it is to get your life back on track. You may have experienced emotional trauma from the incident and you are hesitant in getting into another relationship. Heartache, pain, and depression are products of men cheating.
There are times when you get to chance to have a say when your cheater boyfriend realizes his mistake. He'll find out that the girl he replaced you with is not half the woman you are. He'll crawl back into your arms hoping to be forgiven and accepted. What are you to do? If you believe that he is truly sorry then accept him back. Sometimes, a cheater boyfriend just had a lapse in judgment and don't really have an intention to be one of the many men cheating on women. Bringing him back involves a great deal of trust so make sure you are making the right decision.
WHY HE CHEATED
The first step to accepting your cheater boyfriend is to find out why he cheated. Men cheating can result from two things. For one, the men cheating are actually at fault. They are the ones who really went after other women even though they are experiencing healthy relationships with their girlfriends. Lust and desire play a part and your cheater boyfriend fell into temptation. In another scenario, the relationship might have been already falling apart and that's when your man cheated. He must have felt unhappy or unsatisfied that he went out and search for another woman.
You need to assess the real cause of cheating and make the necessary adjustments. If it was really his fault, then confront him about it. Discuss with him your concerns and ask him what he plans to do with his cheating tendencies. On the other hand, if it was actually your fault, reflect on how you were during the relationship. If you treated him badly, then make the required changes to accept him back.
COUNSELING
Since men cheating are sensitive subjects, you can decide to enroll yourselves into couple counseling. A relationship counselor will provide a third person's point of view and he will give unbiased remarks regarding your situation. He or she can also help decide what the real cause of the failed relationship is and what you can to move forward. You and your cheater boyfriend will have a chance to express your thoughts and feelings in a controlled place where you can be monitored.
FORGIVE
The final step to accept your cheater boyfriend is to forgive him. Forgiving him will benefit not only him, but you as well. All the negative emotions that come with cheating will be lifted and you'll be able to save your relationship. When you forgive, that doesn't necessarily mean that you will have to put your guard down. People will always have the tendency to cheat so make sure you make the adjustments to keep your man from cheating. There will always be men cheating but don't let your ex cheater boyfriend be one of them again.
Generally, people hate the word flirt including men and women. We can't deny the fact that most of the people love to be in a situation when their partner or other person start flirting with them. Time has changed now; even girls also enjoy the process of flirting. Here are some flirting tips to boost your confidence and experience.
Physical connection - Physical connection is very important in this process. People only notice you when you do something unique or unusual. If you love this process but don't know much about physical connection then develop a habit to touch other people. You can start with shaking hands, instead of saying "Hi" you can use "hello". You can touch people with their name etc.
Sense of humor - Everybody is busy in life and we can't deny the fact that people work really hard in office. Every men or women expect someone who can make them laugh with good humor. Laughing is not necessary, but comfort ability is most important. Talk with people in such a way where they feel comfortable while discussing every matter.
Confidence - Confidence is the only key which can help you to touch the sky. If you are not confident enough then nothing can help you. People are free to do anything, but remember to follow everything with 100% confidence. Flirting tips can boost the confidence of individual without any problem.
After wedding the most important thing to plan is Honeymoon. It's very important to plan each and everything properly because only you and your partner would be alone there. Before leaving the place gets the thorough knowledge of the place where you are planning to go and discuss your partner if s/he wants to see other places, it should be mutual decision. Few points which you need to make sure before leaving for the Honeymoon:
Hotel Details
Going and Return Tickets
Cash and Plastic Money
Phone numbers of Relatives who lives in the same place
It seems that the French, namely NICOLAS SARKOZY, are planning to put forth a bill that would make "psychological violence" between married or cohabitating couples a crime.
But what is psychological violence anyway? According to legislation, it would appear that everything from nagging and false accusations of infidelity to verbal abuse count as such.
But is it really fair for the government to get involved in matters that are so personal and so subjective from one couple to the next? One couple's verbal abuse is another couple's foreplay, after all.
Not to mention that there's usually three versions to every story: his version, her version and the truth. So who do you believe in matters of "psychological violence"?
While I agree that there are some instances where psychological violence is just as harmful as physical violence, it is not something that you can store neatly under a black and white bill.
Personally, I think that although they're trying to do a noble service in this situation, all it will end up doing is bring the freaks out.
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READER QUESTION #1: GIRLFRIEND SMOTHERS ME
I love my girlfriend, I really do. But ever since she moved in 6 months ago, I feel like I can't breathe. She wants to be with me all the time and frowns if I want to hang out with my friends.
She even gets offended if I say I want some alone time. How can I get her to understand that I need my personal space without starting a "you just don't understand me" argument? I'm starting to resent her for taking up all my time.
JOSHUA
STEVE NAKAMOTOS ANSWER:
This is a common problem for young people with very little experience in love relationships. A woman feels like she's showing love by wanting to be with her man as much as possible. But a man rarely thinks the same way.
The man counts the entire amount of time that he's with a woman and then wants to fulfill other needs - space, variety, and being around other people.
Over the longer term, your girlfriend has to raise her own awareness about her insecurities and other emotional needs. There are many books written on this topic of human needs which would be helpful for both of you to study and know. You'll both soon discover that true happiness in relationships and life requires a balance.
But over the short term, you'll have to play the game a little more to her liking. What I'd suggest is making sure that whenever you make a request for time with your friends or to be by yourself, that you also state what you'll do on the positive side in exchange.
One way to think of this is through a point system. For example, you will lose one point for every time you state to her that you'd like to be with your friends or by yourself.
On the other hand, you gain one point for every thoughtful act (example: a planned date night or surprise gift of flowers) on your part. This means that it's a one-of-one exchange.
You can't, however, make one grand gesture (example: buying her an expensive gift) and expect it to count for more than one point. One thoughtful gesture is worth one point regardless of the amount of money spent.
You also get penalized for verbalizing a desire to be with friends or to have space. It's "the thought that counts" in a negative way. So in the meantime, it might be wise for you to refrain from expressing your desire to be with other friends or to have more space unless you truly want or plan to do so.
Another method for you to consider using is what is called a "bad news sandwich." You make this verbal sandwich by telling or showing her that you love her (the bread), state your wishes (the meat), and then repeat that you love her (the bread).
The core issue that you'll need to work on together is the mutually building of each other's self-esteem. If you both possess true self-esteem then these types of minor issues can be resolved easily.
But in her present state of low self-esteem, she's probably going to take a lot of what you say in the wrong way.
No, it's not about men who enjoy suckling on the lactating breast of a woman. Oh no, that would be too normal to report.
Rather, this is about men who want to breastfeed babies and are looking to science to help them start the lactation process.
So that Focker guy from" the "was right; men can lactate. It is entirely possible. Aparently, in 1858, a man whose wife was put to death was so stricken with grief that he put his baby to his own breast and before he knew it, he was breastfeeding his child.
I wonder if a man's milk has the same kind of vitamins and minerals? But to be honest, what man really wants to breastfeed? Better yet, what man would actually admit it to his beer-guzzling friends? "Uh yeah, sure, I'd love to have my baby boy suckling away at my nipples while I watch the game. It's bonding time, you know."
And what about the poor baby, choking on all that unnecessary nipple hair? Ugh.
Watch the video below, at about 4:08 a guy starts breastfeeding, but if you look at the baby, it's not moving at all. It's asleep. You know why? Because there's no milk there, buddy. But you get an "A" for effort.
On February 1, the seduction community changes forever. On that date, the exclusive product that everyone's been waiting for, Renegade Rapport, is released.
But is it worth the hype? Yours truly was lucky enough to be one of the chosen few to receive an advance copy of the book. Much like Neil Strauss' Annihilation Method," this is one of those products that you have to join Renegade Rapport Reviewan "exclusive list" to be a part of. The lead-up to the releasehas been quite clever, and I have to admit I was more than just a little curious.
But after the disappointment I had over The Annihilation Method, I was very skeptical. Usually, the bigger the hype, the bigger the letdown.
Still, I was willing to give Renegade Rapport a chance. And boy, I am REALLY glad I did!
This actually is one of those rare products, like the Venusian Arts Handbook, that is so good that it can completely change your game, in a short period of time. It actually lives up to the hype, because it delivers on information you can actually use to get hot babes without feeling like a complete fool (read: the ridiculous and foolish "Inner Game Tapping").
So what makes Renegade Rapport work?
Well, as Joseph himself says,
"part of the reason I started down the path of Renegade Rapport was BECAUSE I was so lazy! I hate to have to memorize pages and pages of routines, patterns, lines, etc. just to meet girls."
And that’s what I find is the beauty of Renegade Rapport. You don’t really need to memorize ANYTHING. It’s a completely conceptual system. Once you understand a few fundamental concepts, you’re ready to go.
Of course, if you really want to go even deeper into it, you can. The system is in place.
Now, many of you might have heard of "NLP", or Neurolinguistic Programming. It's the "hypnosis"-like method of attraction popularized by guys like Ross Jeffries.
Understand: Renegade Rapport isn’t straight NLP. You’re not "tricking" women into liking you (thank God!), but rather making them aware of your inner and outer attractiveness.
There are some fundamentals based around NLP concepts, but this system is about learning to emotionally CONNECT with other human beings, and then LEAD them to where you want to go emotionally.
What I really like is, it is an extremely FOCUSED system. You won’t get bogged down with stuff like “anchoring,” or “synesthesia,” nor will you have to have a PhD in psychology to pull it off. It's clear, interesting, and most importantly, EFFECTIVE!
As Joseph himself says, "I designed this system to be EASY to understand and use. And these concepts are fundamental to the successful use of the Self Mastery Method."
Some guys have said that Matthews' system is similar to the (excellent) "Charisma Arts" program of Juggler, aka Wayne Elise.
But I'd say there is one MAJOR difference her. One that Juggler himself didn't work into this program.
In my system, Rapport is NOT a “phase.”
It’s not a step you take on your way to something else. If you read through the free Self-Mastery ebook, you’ll understand that I feel every step that happens in dating and seduction is BASED on rapport. It's not just important--it's essential.
In that sense, knowing how to create and sustain rapport - with ANYONE - is fundamental to success. You just have to do it.
And Renegade Rapport, I've found, is the way there.
That is the big difference I feel this course has to offer from the many, many other ones out there.
To me, Rapport is the foundation upon which everything else is built. To most others, it’s a step in a process.
When you see Renegade Rapport for yourself, and how powerful the techniques are, you’ll understand what I mean.
The REAL benefit of Renegade Rapport is that you are actually able to take the rapport you create, and lead it towards sex and seduction! And it all progresses in a very slick, natural way. No memorization! No gimmicks! No routines!
Here’s some of what you’ll learn in the Renegade Rapport course...
How to instantly create deep rapport with a woman within minutes when you first meet her (and in some cases, BEFORE you even meet her!).
How to quickly and easily initiate rapport with anyone you want.
How to establish rapport fast.
How to know if you really have rapport or not.
What to talk about with women exactly to build rapport.
How to "transition" into rapport, step by step.
How to keep rapport going throughout the encounter.
How to create rapport in a way that's effortless and hard to detect.
How to create rapport without asking a lot of boring "interview" type questions.
How to create rapport - even if you're painfully shy.
Why it's just as easy to gain rapport with super-hot women as it is with average women?
How your environment affects rapport building - and how to avoid it's pitfalls.
How to keep rapport with a woman you've been with for a long time, and even strengthen it if need be.
How you can actually use rapport to know what kind of a girl you are interacting with (this will help you spot "crazy bitches" from a mile away!).
How to use rapport to avoid the biggest frustration guys have when it comes to picking up women - Flaking!
How to gain rapport without coming off as needy or phony
How to use rapport to change a girl's emotional state from a cold fish to one of intense lust and attraction.
Why you can't have attraction without rapport.
How to move the interaction towards seduction once in rapport.
How to create rapport when you encounter a group, especially if one or more of them "challenge" you.
The exact mindset you should have when talking to a girl you're interested in.
How to build strong rapport with a woman you feel is WAY out of your league.
How to build rapport without coming across as being a jerk.
How to "rebuild" rapport with women whom you had a failure in building rapport with before.
How to keep a woman interested in you while dating so that she doesn't feel the need for male attention elsewhere.
How, and at what point, to shift the vibe to a sexual one when building rapport.
The stages of rapport a woman will go through, and the indicators for each.
How to initiate and build rapport anywhere - even in a loud and noisy bar or club.
The exact things women like to talk about when building rapport.
Getting past the initial "coldness" when dealing with women.
How to make someone feel like they've known you for a long time within a few minutes.
How to tell if you have rapport.
How to gain rapport without falling into the "Let's Just Be Friends" category.
HOW DID YOU GET YOUR START IN THE SEDUCTION COMMUNITY?
Well, I actually started researching this back in the 90s, way back before there was ANYTHING online about dating and attraction with women. I remember the first book I got that hinted that there might be more to getting a girlfriend than giving flowers to her and calling her for dates. It was called "Love Tactics." It's a bit elementary now, but it was revelatory for me back then. I still have my copy, and it's battered and highlighted from years of speculation and developing my ideas about the concepts.
It started with what I consider to be the most important concept of all in interpersonal dynamics: Push-Pull.
This once principle covers more about the psychology of attraction than almost anything else.
From there I created my first e-book (The Dating Black Book) to explain the complete "Dating Dynamic" so that you can understand women and how things work in the attraction cycle. Short term and long term.
After that I created a whole curriculum for guys who want to learn how to have a full Alpha Lifestyle, from approaching women, to reaching your personal goals, to making the relationship YOU want to have. I really think it's all about choice.
I've been a guest on David D's Interviews with Dating Gurus program, as well as a guest and keynote speaker with many of the conferences.
I've also done radio and television to help get this information out to as many of my Alpha Brothers out there as I can. Next month, I'll be in LA as part of the Mystery Method Superconference.
WHAT IS YOUR LIFE LIKE NOW WITH WOMEN?
I have no scarcity in my life with women. I find that women are constantly trying to be a part of my life, and that is very gratifying.
My personal philosophy is to date many women, and then look for the best prospect from the bunch to give my time to. I don't waste my time or jeopardize my confidence and self-esteem by chasing after women. I let the best candidate raise her hand and make it clear that she's the one for the role.
I maintain a level of self-respect that ensures that I am a prize in HER eyes, first and foremost. Then I can feel much more confident giving her my attention and focus.
It's a bit of a philosophical stance, but it's CRITICAL to guys out there who are on this path to realize that if you feel that you need to "prove yourself" to the women you want, you're sacrificing an essential part of your self-respect.
Women want to BUY, not BE SOLD.
Right now, I'm in a relationship with a beautiful Filipino woman - who wants to be a WOMAN for me. Not my competition to be the Man. (Watch out for those women, guys!)
YOU'VE BEEN AROUND FOR A FEW YEARS NOW, BUT SOME GUYS HAVEN'T HEARD OF YOU. WHAT ARE YOUR FUNDAMENTAL TEACHINGS?
REAL Game is what I teach.
What is "REAL Game"?
The philosophy is that you will attract any woman you want more effectively if you come from a place of being REAL with her. Not to be confused with that lame advice of "just be yourself."
And, it's also a double-acronym
Here's how it goes
R = RELAXED RESOURCEFUL
Relaxation is at the heart of all successful game AND good self- confidence. And you can't be resourceful to use all those techniques you learned without being relaxed. An anxious state is your enemy when it comes to dating and pickup.
E = EFFECTIVE ENERGIZED
Effective, meaning that you use only techniques that are as congruent as possible to YOU. Energized meaning that you have to jack up your energy level a few notches. Most guys are not projecting their inner power and personality outward. They keep it hidden from view, and that kills attraction.
A = ALPHA AUTHENTIC
The Alpha Man is my model for the modern dominant man that knows and is confident in his masculine traits. You can read about this in most of my programs. Authentic means that you need to be genuine. I'm not saying "just be you," because that's worthless advice. You need to be the BEST you possible.
L = LIFESTYLE LASTING
The only way to become truly successful with women (or A woman) over the long term is to make these attraction skills a part of your LIFE. You don't just approach women at a bar or club - you approach them everywhere you go. Otherwise, they won't last.
That's a brief overview of my philosophy.
HOW DO YOU DIFFER FROM OTHER GURUS?
Well, I'm good friends with most of these guys in the "community," but I really don't limit my scope to just that area. I really feel that this is about overcoming a major social problem with the emasculation of men.
Now, I'm not some kind of conspiracy nut or something. In fact, I really believe that most of the things people think of as conspiracies are just the slippery slope of our natural tendencies toward laziness.
But in the last 30 years, there has been a distinct FEMINIST slant to everything, and guys need to maintain their strength against this to remain attractive to women.
I differ from most of the other "gurus" in that I show guys the COMPLETE picture. It's not JUST about pickup and attracting women.
In fact, if that's all you focus on, your self-esteem will actually suffer - along with your lifestyle.
You must make pickup and attraction skills part of an overall Alpha Lifestyle. What I mean by this is that you have to be working on your own life - and be happy WITHOUT women before you will be able to truly attract the women you want. Or you will not keep them.
Being attractive isn't just skin deep for guys - it has to go right to the BONE.
CAN YOU RELATE ONE OF YOUR FAVORITE FIELD REPORTS EITHER PERSONALLY OR ONE OF YOUR STUDENTS?
Well, I am a very private person by nature, but I always share information that helps guys understand the Game better and improve.
There has been a big focus these days on "hidden video" and things like that, which really don't help your skills with women. In fact, too much focus on watching OTHER people do this stuff is going to get you all messed up because you become what I call "hyper-analytical." That's basically where you just can't let go of the need to compare yourself to unreasonable examples.
I'll relate a story of my friend in Seattle. When I went up to the lair up there to present and do a mini-bootcamp, we went to a really fun bar up there. (The name escapes me at the moment.)
While we were there, one of the guys comes over to me and says, "Man, I just wrecked this set I approached. It was bad."
I asked him what had happened. He said he went over, opened up the girl he found really attractive, and used some canned material. After about a minute, he lost her attention and he felt that old "back turn"
syndrome, where the woman just uses her body language to reject you.
Well, after I found out how he was using a bunch of fake, canned material, I asked him what he would do if he was being REAL with this woman. I suggested he go back and just say to her, "Hey, you know what, I f ed up. I came over here before trying to impress you and being a little much. I just thought you had a really nice energy about you and I wanted to get to know you better. Care to try again?"
And that worked like a champ. Her body language changed, his changed, and they got on much better. It was night and day.
WHAT IS YOUR NEW POWER SOCIAL SKILLS ALL ABOUT AND WHY SHOULD A GUY GET IT?
Well, I was inspired by an old book from the 1960s that talked about all these complicated social games we all play with each other. I started noticing how people are playing games ALL the time.
Then I thought, wouldn't it be great if someone could explain all these games so we don't have to get caught up in all the nonsense?
This program is the first program I've created for guys to use to really build their social skills from the ground up.
ALL attraction skills have their roots in what I call Power Social Skills. The skills you use to approach women comfortably, to build rapport, to get attraction - these are all developed from basic social skills.
Have you ever been in a social situation where you just knew someone was messing with you, but you didn't know what to do about it?
Have you ever had that feeling that someone was playing games with you, but you couldn't figure out how they were doing it, or what psychology they were manipulating?
Have you ever wondered how to get past the games, and get to a REAL connection with another person? That influential kind of connection that really gets a person to trust you and LIKE you?
I created this program to open up the complex mechanics of what happens in social situations, and give guys a skeleton key to unlock all the puzzles and games.
I go into EXTENSIVE explanation of the personality types you'll meet, and what their motivation is. (Even your own!) I go into detail about how to read a social situation of any kind, understand what's going on, and be able to not get gamed.
You ever had this happen: You're hanging out with your friends and someone makes a sly comment about you, and they all chuckle. You go along with it because you don't want to look like you're "uptight" or "un-cool." But somewhere deep inside, you know you were just put-down
DO YOU KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT?
Well, it took me years to figure these out on my own, and that was only because I was lucky enough to find some people that I could study and understand to get these secrets.
I was never the guy that was slick with people, or who could think of the right thing to say at the right time. And I HATED that. I always felt like an idiot when people messed with me, and all I could do was go along because I didn't want to be rejected by my peers and friends.
I decided it was time to update this for our current social situation and explain all the games, all the manipulations, and then give solid advice on how you can get past them so you can get to the authentic CONNECTION that we all crave.
This program will put you into the elite status of men who know how to HANDLE PEOPLE. And that's a powerful skill to have, and it never gets old.
DONOVAN: "CARLOS XUMA'S POWER SOCIAL SKILLS PROGRAM: THIS IS ONE OF THOSE PROGRAMS THAT COMES ALONG AND YOU SAY, WHY DIDN'T SOMEONE RELEASE SOMETHING ON THIS EARLIER? IT ANSWERS AND REVEALS SO MUCH ABOUT SOCIAL INTERACTIONS. CHECK IT OUT BEFORE IT'S RELEASE ON WEDNESDAY."
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